Before I can really get going in planning for 2013, I want to take a look back at 2012. Here is a review of my greatest successes in 2012 in five key areas:
Financially speaking, it was a solid year. I managed to do some fun things with my cash flow. I am still living paycheck to paycheck, but I am not in any more debt than I was at this time last year. Based on everything that I have happening in my family dynamic right now, in this economy, staying afloat is a good place to be.
I made a few “investments” this year. I was able to pay for and complete a course on Life Coaching which will enable me to help others and help me increase my income in the future. My hubby bought a mountain bike and if he rides it, it will pay for itself in place of a gym membership, that is an investment – especially for his health! I leased a new car for my son, this was an important financial decision based on safety and peace of mind and replaced the old car that couldn’t pass the smog test. My hubby and I managed to go away for a weekend here and there. I believe that having a respite is a great investment for our relationship! We joined a bowling league with two of our sons. With having to pay fees for four people every week, it gets costly. I look at it as another great investment because it was a nice way to spend quality family time and get out for some physical activity. We indulged a bit here and there, but I consider that as investing in our quality of life.
Perhaps my priorities are a bit skewed since I really should have used the money that I spent on a new flat screen TV for the bedroom to pay down debt, but heck I am an American living the dream, so I am glad I did it.
As I am working on this, I feel like such a financial failure! Since I practice positivity, I am trying to glean some upbeat financial successes, but they will not compare at all to a anyone who actually had a financial gain. But in looking back at this key area of my life I have made a discovery. I recognize a pattern. I do the same things each and every year. It is not a surprise that my financial situation never improves. I am not doing a thing to improve it. I need to consider this strongly in making my goals for 2013.
In reflecting on my relationships this past year, I feel good about them. My marriage is in it’s happy place. We celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary this April. I have everything right now that I hoped for when I got married. My husband has given me a family, a home, and a bright future to look forward to. What more could a girl want? That is what I wanted when I was a girl. Now, as I emerge as a woman and my children are growing and my home needs a lot of work I wonder what will happen in the next twenty years. I have some ideas! Luckily, he is game! The number one success in my relationship has always been great communication. We talk things through and when we don’t agree with each other, we accept and move forward. My relationship with my hubby is my number one priority.
I have made a lot of new friends this year. I have also reignited and strengthened relationships with old friends and family. I have let a few relationships fall to the back burner. I may let it stew a bit longer before I open up that pot! But I won’t ever let the relationship boil away or burn what is left. I can always spice it up and give it some attention and put some life back into it, right? Relationships worth having can always be mended.
Physically speaking, suffice it to say that I am still alive. I am not better or worse off than last year. I have written a lot about my health and my ailments lately. I am working on it. I did next to nothing to improve my fitness level this year. I started a few things. I failed miserably at this.
I don’t feel healthy and I have very low energy. I hope to get that back in 2013. My son asked me recently if I ever wanted to go skiing again. I told him I would love to, but my back starts hurting after an hour of shopping at the mall! How would I be able to ski for a day without feeling miserable? I can start “training” now to get in shape and be able to ski with my kids next year. That goal restores the motivation I need to get moving and make healthy choices.
Intellectually speaking, I am on top of my game! This year, I completed a course online for life coaching, attended a conference for blogging, wrote on the blog an average of three times a week, and participated in daily discussions on topics ranging from birth experiences to the afterlife!
One test that I give myself from time to time is checking the dictionary for definitions of words that I use in my writing. I score myself an A+ every time I use an uncommon word and apply it correctly. I have never missed a meaning completely. Once this year, I was glad I checked because I was using the wrong spelling of a word which would not have made sense in that context. As a writer, to be understood is valued highly. I have been doing what I can to make sure that I convey what I am thinking clearly. That is the ultimate success for me.
Spiritually, I have looked deep into my heart and and I realize that I am whole and centered in my beliefs. I have faith in God and I love praying to the Virgin Mary to intercede for me. I appreciate my Catholic upbringing and I am proud to share that with my husband and glad that we are passing it on to our kids. I did not attend Mass regularly in 2012. There are many reasons for that and I am not ready to share them yet. I will look at that more closely in 2013.
I plan to attend Mass more often especially because one of my sons will be making his Confirmation this year. I love going to Mass, singing, praying, receiving communion and spending time with my community. What I love most about belonging to a loving community is the care that I can give and receive from other people who share my beliefs. I have learned that I have a similar experience with people of all faiths on Facebook and through my blog.
All people can feel that sense of belonging, love, and care. I thoroughly enjoy that and it brings me peace. However, physically being in the arms of my loved ones is something that I miss and hope to participate in regularly going forward.
In the spirit of “Sparking My Awesome in 2013” I plan to write more posts on my blog that are from my heart. I created a new category, “Tell Me Something Good.” This is where I will post my thoughts on the subjects that I have been contemplating during the month of December. Here are some of them:
These are the topics I hope to explore and share with you. With every post, I plan to ask you to reflect on the subject and give me your insights in a positive way. I will ask you to please,
Tell Me Something Good. . .
I look forward to sharing my positivity this year with everyone that I encounter!