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Everything Miz Meliz

Managing Challenges using Mind-Mapping

Here are some of my challenges.  Make a list of the things that come to mind when you think of all the things you are taking on right now.  What is holding you back?

  1. Dealing with difficult people
  2. Being assertive without being labelled a “bitch”
  3. Managing stress
  4. Keeping up a positive image, managing perceptions
  5. Staying Organized
  6. Communication (communicating clearly with others)
  7. Multi-tasking and completing projects
  8. Self-sabootage, facing fears and following through
  9. Contintued personal growth
  10. Letting go (of things that no longer matter)
  11. Saying “No” – prioritizing
  12. Continued professional development
  13. Reaching Goals, facing my fear of success
  14. Increasing efficiency
  15. Managing finances

Whew!  That’s a lot!  It is not a check list.  It is a reality list.  I believe knowing the things that are tugging on the back of my mind can help me to set a clear path to what I want.  I use this technique to achieve my goals.  A list is a mind-dump.  It isn’t in any order.  It may not include everything.  It is just what I put on the list.  Mind-mapping is so much more.

If you are creative, like me, your thoughts and ideas don’t always come in the form of a list.  They don’t even fit on a calendar.  Sometimes it feels like the ideas flow through me and other times it feels like they are coming at me from all directions. Mind-mapping is a way to organize your thoughts in a creative way that uses both sides of your brain.  Yes! You can be organized and creative at the same time!

I will be giving a workshop on how to use mind-mapping for setting goals and improving your blog (or other projects) and applying these principles to maintain a balanced lifestyle.  If you have questions for me, please put them in the comments.  I will address these questions at the workshop and on the blog.

Keep an eye out for my next post on mindfulness.  I will be taking an in depth look at cognitive behavior therapy and how positivity impacts life balance.

If you want to attend the workshop – sign up here:  https://sclbworkshop.eventbrite.com/

For more details on the workshop and So Cal Lady Bloggers, see Melissa Dell’s blog, “A Bit of Everything

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Be Inspired, Everything Miz Meliz

Peace of Mind: Imagining the Possibilities

Peace of Mind:

Where are you?

How do I find you?

When can I feel you?

Can I create you?

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I’ve been “in my head” a lot lately.  Thinking about all of my responsibilities.  Things that I am concerned about.  I’ve learned how to remain calm and stay positive.  I have learned how to “nurture the now.”  When my thoughts drift to thinking about how I will pay my taxes and what will happen when my firstborn goes off to college, I calm myself by recalling that worrying and over-thinking does nothing but create stress.

“Meditation brings me peace and helps me feel connected to the rest of the world.” ~Amy Grams, Nutrition Educator/Coach @AmyGrams

Knowing that stress causes ailments to manifest and weaken me, I recall the goodness that surrounds me and I regain my strength.  It is almost instant.  My head lifts.  I feel light.  When I walk, I walk tall.  When I speak, I speak with love.

“Learn to calm down the winds of your mind, and you will enjoy great inner peace.” ~Remez Sasson, Author of Peace of Mind in Daily Life @RemezSasson

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When I think about the future, I do all I can to replace the worrisome thoughts that creep into my mind with thoughts of hope.  I begin to dream about the wonderful possibilities.  The beautiful memories of my youth and my life with my parents come to mind.  I know I will build those memories with my own children.  I imagine what it will be like to have grandchildren, to travel with my husband and to retire and have time to enjoy things like gardening and shopping.  A huge smile is on my face!

 “Nurture the now and the flower will come.” ~Jagran Kiran

When I dream hopeful thoughts, I think about the now.  What am I feeling now.  I am happy.  I am feeling good.  I love my family.  I have friends.  I have the capability of handling anything that comes my way.  I have managed just fine so far.  I am in my peaceful zone.

What are you worrying about ? 

How can you create peace of mind for yourself right now?

Everything Miz Meliz, Tell Me Something Good

What is Positivity?

I believe that being positive creates and grows abundance. Sharing positive thoughts and stories brings more positive experiences into your life. This creates an abundant life of positive stories with which you can continue to share.

When I think back to when I was a small child, I can remember my big brother calling me “Melissa the Mouse.”

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He would say, “Melissa the Mouse went into the house to get a piece of cheese.”

Well it just so happens that Melissa the Mouse grew up and she had her own family. She grew old and was very wise. Many people came to her for help with their problems. Sometimes they just liked to talk to her. It made them feel better. The one she loved talking to the most was her great great granddaughter mouse, who was named after her. Although everyone called her Princess.

Princess was very petite and sweet and played the role of the innocent princess very well. She was still young, but she was a little bit mischievous. That is why Melissa the Mouse liked to match wits with her. Princess never held back when asking her great great grandmother questions. They talked about everything. Melissa the Mouse was very open and willing to share her thoughts with the young mouse.

One day Princess asked, “What is positivity Grand-ma-ma?”

Melissa the Mouse loved it when she called her that. None of her other grandchildren called her that, it was her special name that only Princess used, particularly when she was ready for a lesson. Princess fluffed up her dress and all of it’s ruffles, she liked to dress up, and sat herself down to listen.

“Why do you want to know about positivity?” Melissa the Mouse asked the young girl.

“Because I heard you talking about it with my Mommy and later she told Daddy that you didn’t know what you were going on about and it isn’t even a real word . . . and, well, I just want to know is all!” She said.

“Oh, I see. Very well then.” Melissa the Mouse patted her great great granddaughter’s tiny little hand and said, “What do you think positivity is Princess?”

“I think it is when you know you are right about something and nobody can tell you different, like when you are absolutely, positivity, sure you didn’t eat the last peanut butter chocolate chip cookie in the cookie jar.” She said.

“Very close, but not exactly”, Melissa the Mouse chuckled. Then she sighed a long deep sigh, just as she always did when she was about to say something the little Princess wanted to remember always.

“You know that feeling that you get in your heart when you give me one of your most special hugs? One of the extra tight ones? Or when your Daddy smiles at you when he sees you do your best figure eight on the ice? That is positivity. At least that is what I think it is.” Melissa the Mouse told her great great granddaughter.

“Is that all?” Cried the young mouse. “Then what is all the fuss about?” She asked.

“Well, positivity means something more when you can share it with others. If you are nice and show others that you are nice, they will be nice to. I believe the more nice you are the more nice things will happen to you all the days of your life. What do you think of that, Princess?” She asked.

Now Princess was sighing. “Do I have to be nice to the fi

 

eld mice and the rats too? They are mean and they tease me!”

“That is the most important part, my dear.” She told her. “Even if someone seems to be mean all the time and they tease you, positivity is about sharing how nice and loving you can be with them. Because that can heal them. Being positive and showing that you care will help you be the best little princess you can be. All the mice and even the rats should be able to feel that feeling you have in your heart when you give your extra tight hugs. Everyone deserves to know what that feels like. Don’t you think?” And with that, Melissa the Mouse got up, and continued with her business of tidying up or whatever it is that old wise mice do.

“I’ll have to think about it Grand-ma-ma.” Said Princess. “It doesn’t sound very easy.”

“That is true, my dear.” Melissa the Mouse answered. “It takes practice. But if you commit yourself to it, it gets easier. Just be yourself.”

Can you remember a time when your heart felt so good, like when you gave a special hug to someone you love or a when someone who loves you smiled at you to acknowledge something that only you can do? Share that story. Think about how it made you feel.

Tell me something good . . .