Blog Venture, Everything Miz Meliz

Do you Instagram? Follow Miz Meliz @mizmelissa and See Beautiful Vacation Pictures!

I love Instagram!  I feel really connected with people when I know they are following my adventures.  With Instagram I can post a picture, improve the way it looks by adding a filter and a frame, write a caption, include a hashtag, share it instantly on Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, and Flickr, and even check in via Foursquare.

New Mexico
New Mexico

On my recent Spring Break Vacation, I asked my friends to follow me on Instagram @mizmelissa for daily updates.  I went on a road trip with my family and we made lots of stops.  We drove over 2500 miles in one week.  We drove through beautiful terrain and I saw some of the most exquisite views of the sky that I have ever seen.  All the pictures I took were with my iPhone and mostly through the window of the passenger seat! I think my pics came out pretty good and I enjoyed sharing them!

I called my trip Six States in Seven Days and I will chronicle my travels in my next few posts.  The trip was amazing for many reasons.  It was a great break from routine and get away with my family.  I planned meet ups with family and friends that I haven’t seen in years.  The main objective and reason for the trip was to visit the universities that my son had been accepted to and help him make a decision on where to attend in the Fall.  It was probably the last family road trip vacation I take with my three sons.  This vacation was also a great way to test my social media skills and have an adventure!

If you want to see the 25 pictures that I posted on Instagram during my trip either click  HERE and see them on my Instagram page, or you can search for the hashtag #mizmeliz. If you like what you see, I hope you follow me to see more fun and gorgeous photos. Let me know your Instagram name so I can follow you!

Here are a few of my favorites:

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Change: It’s in the Air

"Onward and Upward" photo by Melissa Reyes Copyright 2012 http://mizmeliz.com

Change

Change is in the air that I breathe.
It is in every single breath I take.
It is just like the scent of orange blossoms
 and night-blooming jasmine.
Change engulfs me as I breathe it in.
There is no escaping it.
It is in the air I breathe.
Change is now within.
~Melissa Reyes 3-14-13

This is about healing.

This is about healing and moving on after experiencing the loss of a loved one.  It is about love and joy and forgiveness.  It is about letting go and moving forward. This is about taking care of myself.  Healing myself. Forgiving myself for the sadness I feel.

 “As far as taking care of myself, I try to do it through love and kindness. I now take time to forgive myself for mistakes, for not getting everything done, for taking a walk instead of finishing up client work if I need to and all the other little things I used to feel guilty for on a daily basis. I remind myself that I don’t have to prove anything to anyone or myself. But, I can still promise to do my best and that’s enough.” ~Naomi Niles

A shift in the balance of my world is happening. 

My sister (who passed away in July 2011, 18 months ago) was married to a great man for 25 years. In fact she died on their anniversary. They were a very romantic couple and they have an amazing story. I am still very close to my brother-in-law. He is a dear friend, confidant, and brother in every sense. I trust him and care deeply for him. That is why I was happy when he told me he is getting remarried. Deep inside I am sad because I am still grieving the untimely death of my sister and sad over how things turned out and what could have been. That is the first shift that my heart bleeds over.

They call it a major life change.

Another bitter-sweet thing happening in my life is that my oldest son is graduating from high school and will be going away to college. Our home and family dynamics will be changing. One of my babies is about to fly off on his own and leave the nest. He is my most independent child. He has always been my little helper. I have every confidence that he will be fine on his own. He has become a fine young man and I am quite proud of him. But what will become of us? How will the two younger brothers get along? What will it be like with just the four of us. And in a few years, three? And then one day, just the two of us?  Empty Nest Syndrome is hitting me hard. My heart is shaken. My mind is mush. My emotions are running high.

I am experiencing a new set of feelings. It’s not like anything I have been through before. It is excitement and joy mixed with equal parts sorrow and fear. All of the emotions are wrestling together and it is impossible to see who is winning. Which emotion is getting pinned, which one will come out on top. Should I cry? If I do cry will it be tears of happiness or sorrow? Or, both?

I am coping with the loss I feel. I miss my sister, my parents, the way things used to be when the kids were small. My biggest worries then were if I was spoiling my kids and if I was spending enough time with my family. No, it’s not possible to spoil a child. And no, I could never have spent enough time with my family. I wish I had some of those days back. Just one more Christmas or Easter. One more birthday. It’s so hard to move on and be happy. It is necessary. I know it is. I need to keep moving forward. I need to be happy about these changes. Because the people who are experiencing the change are doing the right things and they are moving on and they deserve to be happy.

“Challenges will continue to come. It is my choice to look for the joy or to let my spirit sink back into grief.  I choose joy.” ~Donna Thomas, Author

I choose to be happy, too!  I know it is a choice. I can get through it holding on to the past, gripping on tightly to the memories, dragging my feet trying desperately to not let go of the past because it was good and I loved it so much. Or, I can keep those memories safely in my heart where they can thrive inside of me, where I can embrace them joyfully as needed, and share the stories with my children and theirs someday of the remarkable and lovable family I have. I can skip happily forward, onward, and upward to better and more triumphant times.

"Onward and Upward" photo by Melissa Reyes Copyright 2012 http://mizmeliz.com

“For everything there is a season. . . a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep; and a time to laugh; a time to mourn; and a time to dance. . . ” ~Ecclesiastes 3:1-4

I want my family to look at me and see a gracious, graceful, peaceful woman who has been touched by love and who shines joyfully. I do not want pity nor do I want a cloud of sorrow over me because I have lost my loved ones.  I live a blessed life. I was blessed to have amazing parents who loved me and a sister who inspired me. I am blessed to have a wonderful marriage and that my husband is my best friend. I am blessed to have great kids who make me proud.

These things will never ever change.

Love never dies.
People live forever in our heart.
Change is inevitable.
Nothing is insurmountable.
I can do this!

It’s time to shine!

If you are suffering from the loss of a loved one, a major break up, or you live with someone whose parent or sibling has passed away, you might benefit from reading more about the Stages of Grief.  See my post: When Grief Revisits Me and Good Grief: 8 Stages of Grief.

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My Oscar Experience Part Two @MendPoverty #MENDOSCARS #Mizoscars

I had a wonderful time last night with my hubby at the MEND Gala Event, The Oscar Experience Los Angeles!  Thanks to our hosts at Kaiser, Jennifer and Jonathan Lopez, we had an outstanding experience.  It was just like being at the Oscars!  It felt like we were part of the excitement and energy of the Oscars, at least.  MEND raised over $250,000 for their charitable organization that helps people who are suffering from poverty in the Los Angeles area.  Please see their website to donate and find volunteer opportunities.  Who knows?  Maybe you will find yourself on the red carpet next year!

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Letting Go for a Fresh Start

Letting Go for a Fresh Start

Let go of past hurts. Put it behind you. Forgive. Try and forget. It’s difficult because the wounds are fresh. I learned recently to think of the person you are trying to forgive as a child and then consider how or why they hurt you. If their inner child could have been responsible, if it is really them and not you, then forgive that kid. Let it go. You are all grown up now. You can do it. You are better than this. Start fresh today. Make it great!

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Merry Christmas! I love you!

Merry Christmas!

I am filled with love today and my eyes are still stinging from the tears I shed last night.  I went to see Les  Misérables with my husband and sons on Christmas Eve.  It was wonderful!  I cried throughout the movie because I found the music and acting to be so powerful with emotion, it moved me.  The story of Jean Valjean is one of hope and unconditional love and forgiveness.  I was looking forward to this reminder which was perfectly timed to arrive on Christmas Eve.  No matter how bad things get (and they got very very bad for Jean Valjean!) we can always get through it if we don’t give up faith.  That can be faith in God, in love, in friendship, or simply in the belief that things can get better tomorrow.  Just live one more day.  The best message of Christmas time (the season of love and hope that you honor) that I can think of is to believe.  Believe in yourself.  Believe in your heart and your capacity for love.  As Victor Hugo wrote, “To love another is to see the face of God.”  To truly love someone is the most graceful thing we can do.  If we give love to another our heart is filled with joy and compassion.

I love you!

I love the magic of Christmas and the joy it brings to all people.  Young and old, people of all faiths wish each other good tidings at this time.  The spirit of a giving heart is personified in Santa Claus.  I love that spirit of giving.  I am filled with love today, not because of what I have or what I want, but because of what I am able to give.  Jean Valjean didn’t have a wife, or children of his own.  He didn’t have anything for much of his life, and what he did have was borrowed, stolen, or given to him when he denied his own self.  When he had the chance to love another person is when he was given the true gift of hope.

Believe

Hope

Live

Love

Let joy fill your heart!

Merry Christmas!  I love you!

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Everything Miz Meliz

Celebrating Love and Lasting Relationships

I am blessed to be in a lasting relationship with my best friend of 28 years (I have been married to him for 20 years!)  I know what it takes to be in a devoted relationship that withstands the tests of time while traversing the hills and valleys of life’s journey.  I was recently asked to write a featurette on such a couple.  I am feeling both proud and lucky to have been given this opportunity!

Married for 37 years, living in the public eye in the entertainment business and having faced numerous hardships throughout their lives, I found the story of Gloria and Emilio Estefan, Jr. to be both fascinating and quite inspiring.  Having loved their music for decades, I never really considered myself a big fan. Thankfully, I had the opportunity to learn about their many accomplishments and the gifts that this wonderful pair are sharing with the world through their love, their music, and their philanthropy. . .

The Queen of Latin Pop and Latin King Midas

An inspiring story of Miami’s ‘Royal Couple,’ Gloria and Emilio Estefan, Jr.
By Melissa Reyes

Read the featurette:  http://salseek.com/news/index.php?option=com_content&view=category&layout=blog&id=51&Itemid=199

Photo by Richard Sandoval of http://www.hispaniclifestyle.com/ used with permission.

Disclaimer:  I received no compensation for this article or the featurette, photo credit or links.  I am not a paid contributor or sub contractor and my opinions are my own.  Information regarding the subject of the article was obtained through my own research findings, are not based on first-hand knowledge and sources have been listed accordingly.

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Action – I Want to be Starting Something!

I want to write about action.  Not your Hollywood, lights, camera, action.  But the kind of action that means change.  I want to talk about making a difference.  I want to talk about life changing moments.  I am thinking of what I am doing in my life and how that can help you in your life.

C. A. Kobu says, “Action separates dreamers from doers.”

Some time ago, I decided to be a doer.  Seriously.  My motto for this blog is, “Live, Be, Do.”  That is my feeling about life right now.  In order to live it, I must enjoy being a part of it, and in order to take part in it, I must do something with it.

Everyone can learn to take action and get the important things done.  I was motivated by a brilliant instigator named Tara Rodden Robinson, who says, “Starting Is the Only Way.”

Tara is into that feeling that leads from great idea to leap.  She says, “It’s like asking a bird how to fly: You just spread your wings and flap, she’d say.”

Tara further explains that as a coach, she knows it’s not that simple. “It’s downright painful to watch someone teetering on the edge of starting: they’re wanting so badly to leap and yet terrified that their wings won’t hold and their flight will turn into a fall.  Just because you start doesn’t mean you’re committing to a giant leap.”

I love that.  It is in the starting that you are able to fly!!  I needed to get started.  So, that is what I did.

Tara continued, “Small steps, the tiniest little beginnings–each one counts as much as the large impressive bounds do. Besides, starting is the only way to have any possibility of journeying, enjoying the exhilaration of the process, and ultimately, savoring the satisfaction of arriving.”

Well, I am hooked!  I am ready!  I am all in!  Why?  Because I am all about the journey.  I do enjoy each moment.  I love my life and I love where my road is taking me.  I am thrilled that each stop along the way makes me more and more excited about the next destination.  I can do this!

Tara Rodden Robinson challenged me to bring to mind something I really wanted to do but was afraid of starting. I was simply afraid of the unknown.  But the more I thought about it, researched it, talked about it and prepared myself for the possibility of success, the more real it became.  Besides, all I have to do is start, right?

Here is how it went down:
I evaluated. I soul searched.  I tested myself.

The worst thing that can happen if I don’t start is…I’ll never know if I can reach my full potential.  I won’t be the model for my children that I always hoped I would be.  I won’t have anything but my hobbies to fall back on later in life.  I will always wonder, “what if. . .”

If I don’t start, I will miss out on the chance to…really shine.  I would like to share what I know with others.  I want to do something with my life that I am thoroughly passionate about.  I want to express joy in everything I do.  I want to accomplish my vision.  I want to make a splash.

The best thing that can happen if I do start is…I can actually help someone attain their goals.  That would be amazing!  Wait, I have done that many times over, in my personal relationships.  It is amazing and I want to do it again and again for lots of people.  I can be successful at doing this.  I can make a difference.  I can be the best at what I like to do.  That idea is so freeing and exhilarating.  The best thing that can happen is this could actually happen!  I could fly with this!

Once I start, I’ll have the possibility of . . . helping others while doing what I love doing.  This might be just the thing I need to get speaking engagements, grow my readership of my blog, and ultimately write and publish a book.  Okay, don’t get ahead of yourself, but that is the idea!  That is my vision!  It is possible!  All I have to do is start.

Think of the teensiest, tiniest action you could take that would look like starting. . .  I could start a “business” blog and see what it looks like to market my services.  I could start by talking about my ideas to others.  I could test the waters.

Without committing to anything, when could you take this action? . . . I could start right away, there is no harm in pursuing this.  It is something I am doing anyway and can be easily incorporated in my daily life.  I will start now.

And I did.  You might know all about it.  You might be finding out for the first time.  You might wonder what the heck I am talking about!  You might be a bit confused.  It just depends on how much I have let you in on the plan.  It has been going on for months (years if you count the natural evolution of things!)

I want to be a life coach because I want to help other people and use my gifts and talents in ways that could really make a difference. I find it easy to make plans and set goals and I love seeing them through and making them happen. I realize that some people need help in this area. I can help. I often am able to make things easy for people when they doubt themselves. I am able to motivate them and give them peace of mind. I want to start a practice doing this.

Please see my new(ish) website for details on how I share my knowledge with others.  And please keep coming to this blog for the thoughts and whimsical writings that inspire me to carry on.

http://mizbizevents.com

In the words of Michael Jackson from one of my favorite songs, “Wanna Be Startin’ Somethin”:

Lift Your Head Up High
And Scream Out To The World
I Know I Am Someone
And Let The Truth Unfurl
No One Can Hurt You Now
Because You Know What’s True
Yes, I Believe In Me
So You Believe In You

This entry in MizMeliz.com was inspired by a Journal Prompt from A Year with Myself called – Action: Mastering the Easy Way to Start Anything by C. A. Kobu on April 23, 2012.