The World Health Organization defines you as “a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.” In other words, you are the epitome of balance and wellness. As you live and thrive in me, you make me whole. Since I am in control of my environment (for the most part) and how I treat my body, mind, and spirit, I honor your presence and influence in my life.
The most important thing in my life is love, yet I cannot love if I don’t have you.
My goal is to help others find their balance and experience joy, yet I cannot achieve that goal if I do not have you.
I wish to nurture my family and live a long life full of energy and excitement, yet I cannot do these things without you.
I know it’s difficult. I don’t make things easy. However I think I am in control of my environment and how I treat myself, I am at times careless and even reckless with you. I am aware that there is some disease and infirmity that inhibits your ability to be at your absolute best. Yet, I do very little to make changes in the affected areas and I do not always take full advantage of the resources available to me. In fact, I have been doing the least possible in those areas. For that, I am deeply sorry.
I want to be real with you. I know you appreciate that! I am doing my best here. I won’t make any promises. I won’t give you false hopes. But I will say, I will never give up hope. I will never give up trying. I will never give up on you.
I need you, Health. I want to see us working and fighting together to achieve not just balance, but greatness. We won’t just be well, we will be outstanding!
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I first experienced stacking rocks and making rock piles while camping on the beach a few summers ago with my family and my brother’s family.
I love stacking up the rocks and building towers with them. My kids love it, too. I believe my brother gave us some folklore about what it means to have the highest, most stable pile of rocks. It kept the kids busy for hours trying to make the tallest stack. My brother is a genius!
I enjoyed taking photos of the stacks of rocks from varying positions and perspectives. I recently took the photo that I used for this badge while on a trip with my niece in Northern California. I did not build that stack. It was already there. I like that they last for a while and I enjoy the mystery of who built it, when and why.
I decided to use this image for my Health Community Badge because it symbolizes the need for all different types of people to position themselves in such a way upon which a lasting and powerful foundation can be built. Together, we can rise up and make something substantial happen that everyone can see.
If you would like to join me on my journey, you may copy the badge and put it on your own blog. Or, just leave a comment or say a little prayer. Any way you want to do it, your support will be felt and appreciated.
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Whenever I start something new, I like to do a little research and learn more about it. That is how I found out about this intriguing dance instructor. I was looking in to learning to dance Salsa. (Yes, really!) More on that later!
I found Anthony Persaud on Facebook. He is an engineer who lives and works in San Diego, California. He is an innovative Salsa dance instructor who is living his passion of bringing Salsa to the world.
Anthony’s motto is “Life is too short not to do what you love.” A man true to his word, he left his full-time job to devote himself to his passion of teaching salsa dance.
I was curious about his unique twist on teaching dance. I wondered how Anthony got started and what motivates him. I found out that he loved Salsa and Merengue music as a small kid growing up in Puerto Rico.
He told me, “At the time, Latin pop and reggae were the most popular genres. Salsa and merengue were seen as the dance for the “older” generation. So being a very shy and nerdy kid, I became a bit of a closet salsaholic and I never pursued taking dance lessons for fear of being made fun of at my school.”
Are you wondering how Anthony became a world renowned Latin dance instructor? Would you like to know the different ways Anthony Persuad uses technology to bring Salsa dance to the world?
I open the cupboard in the kitchenette at the office and I say to myself, “I have been meaning to bring in some coffee mugs.”
Now I am doing it to myself. Selling myself short. Breaking promises to myself. Letting myself slide. It starts out small. It becomes acceptable. Next I will be doing it big time.
I have been meaning to pay that bill.
I have been meaning to get an oil change.
I have been meaning to have a gathering with my family.
I have been meaning to cook his favorite meal.
I must change this and soon! I need to honor my commitments, to my family, to my friends, to my debtors, to myself. Honoring commitments is so important. Fulfilling promises to myself is vital. If I can’t fulfill a promise to myself, how can I expect others to depend on me? How can I expect others to trust me?
I trust myself. I know I will do these things. I meant to do it. I know I meant to! Sometimes going with the flow, taking one thing at a time, not sweating the small stuff, and living in the moment becomes an excuse to not get things done. Okay, an excuse is a bit harsh. I am talking about myself and my experience, so I know I can take it. I honestly believe it is best for me to go with the flow, because if I don’t I will get worried and paranoid and depressed. I put so much pressure on myself to get everything done, to do everything for others and right the world’s wrongs that I get sick. Yes, I make myself sick. I not only get disgusted with myself, I get physically and emotionally ill.
Not completing things and letting all the intentions pile up makes me ill, too. So, what is a girl to do? I want to be in my Zen. I want to be in control. Cool. Confident. I want to walk the walk and talk the talk. Here is what I will do. As soon as I hear the little voice say, “Oops, I meant to do that.” I am going to do it. No more saving for later, adding to my mental list, waiting for the next opportunity. Fix it, buy it, take it, mail it, call, visit, pay, bring, make, and do it now. Most likely, it will just take a moment. Most likely, it will just happen naturally. If I catch myself slipping and not taking action as I intend to, I won’t beat myself up over it. But I will do my best to live up to my promises, fulfill my commitments and be my best self.
I can’t say enough about how wonderful I think the Inn at the Seventh Ray is. I am glad that after all these years it is still a top notch restaurant. The reviews are all impressive and their reputation has withstood the test of time.
I love to tell people my story of going there with my hubby when we were just dating and thinking he was going to propose to me when he gave me a beautiful little box to open on my birthday. It was a lovely pair of crystal earrings from the shop at the restaurant, The Spiral Staircase. Disappointed and wondering if our relationship would ever progress, I ate my very garlicy shrimp scampi silently. Lucky for me, my relationship and the restaurant have flourished since then!
Recently, I asked my friend, Holly to have dinner with me. We hadn’t gone out in a few weeks and we wanted to catch up with each other. I was thinking sushi, when she suggested The Inn at the Seventh Ray. “Yes!” I said enthusiastically! I just got paid and it will be quiet and something different. I totally deserve a nice night out with my friend.
When I told my hubby that is where we were going, his voice went up an octave “The Inn at the Seventh Ray?” I think he wanted to join us, and I said, “Yep,” gave him a kiss, and happily skipped out the door. I didn’t invite him because it was a girl’s night. If he wants to take me there again, he can invite me! (I’m still a little bitter about the almost-proposal after 22 years, I think.)
Nestled in the center of Topanga Canyon, the Inn at the Seventh Ray is on Old Topanga Canyon Road. There is self parking around the area of the restaurant. There are steps down to the seating area. The tables are mostly outdoors. There are heaters everywhere, so do not worry about getting a chill. There are larger tables under a large canopy that feels like a gazebo. Tables for two and four are located along the side of a small brook. Even though the brook was completely dry at this time of year, there was the babbling sound of water from the fountain under the canopy. The ambiance of this dimly lit five-star restaurant is elegant and romantic.
The Inn at the Seventh Ray is well-known for its exceptional organic food. They used to have a Sunday brunch that was out of this world. I have been to a wedding there once and it may have been because I was pregnant at the time, but I had the most Heavenly salmon mousse that I will never forget! I read up on the current head chef, Bradley Miller. I expected to have a delightful meal and I was not disappointed.
Here is my confession, I don’t like to eat red meat. I didn’t even expect to find red meat at the Inn at the Seventh Ray because at one time I had heard it was completely vegan. But there is one thing that my mouth waters for, beef short ribs. I love pork ribs, too. But I recently had my mother-in-law’s short ribs and they were so good, when I read the description on the menu, I knew I was going to order it! And, I digress, I had them again on Thursday at Grandma Kim’s. Beef. Me. Three times in one week! But nothing compared to the beef short rib at the Inn at Seventh Ray!
I had the Miso Braised Short Rib with Kimchi, Smoked Shiitake Mushrooms, Fingerling Potato, and Wagyu Jerky. The rib meat was delicate, fall off the bone, tender, and divine. I almost barked at Holly when she asked for a taste. Of course she wanted to taste it, she is a chef and my best friend and part of what we do when we go out together is share things. But, I would have growled at anyone who came near my plate at that moment. I must admit, I didn’t even try the fingerling potatoes or the jerky. I was full from Maggie’s Farm Greens ( a large salad of Organic Baby Greens, Spiced Walnuts, Fig Crouton and Lemon Thyme Vinagrette) and the amazing appetizer we had shared, it was a Smoked Yellowtail Spread with Radish, Red Onion, Smoked Sea Salt, on Grilled French Bread and a Tabasco Pipettel. We ate every last bit of that spread! It was so yummy!
My meal was worth every penny and I have no regrets. Being that I have no reasonable excuse to spend this amount of money on dinner, it wasn’t a birthday or an anniversary, tells you that I regard having dinner with my best friend pretty high up there! It wasn’t outrageous and I will justify by saying that I might have spent the same amount on sushi, some Saki and a few Saporros, just saying! With a glass of Shiraz, my meal topped off at about $75. The experience. . . priceless!
The Sessions is a movie with a sweet story based on the life of Mark O’Brien and his experiences. It’s not a first date movie. See it with a friend or your hubby. It’s a great conversation starter! Not so much dinner conversation though!
The movie stars William H. Macy, John Hawkes and Helen Hunt. It was written and directed by Ben Lewin and was a winner at the Sundance Film Festival. The Sessions was based on an article written by Mark O’Brien called, “Seeking a Sex Surrogate.” Having been paralyzed as a child with Polio, he was in a unique situation and he went to extreme measures to experience one of life’s most mystifying pleasures.
The screenplay was well written and I found this poignant story touching and gracefully portrayed. However well acted and directed, some of the scenarios were a little unrealistic and confusing. I enjoyed each of the characters and loved all the little nuances that came through the acting building upon each other until the final realization that it was the reciprocation of true love that Mark was seeking. True love complete with a burning desire may have been what was missing from his life when he sought after sexual satisfaction.
Be prepared to see a lot of Helen Hunt in this movie. (Literally.) Also, set any religious predispositions aside. Body issues and religious convictions are covered in this film. This story reminded me of how all people need physical love, even babies when they are sick have a higher rate of recovery when they are held. Go hug someone, it will be good for both of you!
Cinéphile Miz Meliz Rating
Category: Chick Flick
Oscar Nod? Quite Possible!
Date Worthy? Yes, but not a first date!
DVD or Netflix Worthy? Definitely!
Note: I saw this film at a pre-screening that was open to the public, I was not paid or compensated in any way to review this film, nor was I asked to review it. My opinions are my own. The photo is used by permission and was sent to me for use on my blog to promote the opening of the film.
I have been to conferences and networking events before, but nothing quite like this. Calling upon my past experiences and from what I gathered from my Facebook blogging group’s advice (seasoned bootcampers like Carolyn West/This Talk Aint Cheap told me some stories) I planned ahead. I am glad I did! I got everything out of the event that I hoped for and much more!
*Get seen and known . . . Make A Splash!
*Meet Bloggers from So Cal Lady Bloggers Group . . . make a genuine connection.
*Meet influential Bloggers . . . make an impression.
Armed with new business cards (complete with all of the necessary components that a blogger/writer/life coach/event planner should have including my Twitter handle, associations and a cute photo of myself,) I set out to meet everyone I could and have some fun doing it! Before I left for Las Vegas, I took a list of So Cal Lady Bloggers that planned to attend this conference, I added pictures and blog names and I printed it on both sides of an 8 1/2 by 11 inch piece of card stock. I put a nice stack of business cards, a few sharpies, and my folded up list in a wristlet purse.
My plan was to check off each lady as I met her. Rather than just putting a check by each name, I asked my new friend to sign her name by her picture. It was so much fun asking for autographs and it made each blogger feel like a star!
(I love it when things work out!) I carried my wristlet everywhere I went and made sure to swap business cards at every opportunity. I smiled at everyone, everywhere I went, even outside the conference in the hotel, just in case they were a blogger, too. I noticed that most of the people were smiling back and having a good time. I am usually a little reserved at these things (believe it or not!) and I stay to myself. This time I was determined to make the most of the time and meet people.
Another important part of my plan was to learn about blogging. Afterall, that is what I signed up for! Part of my strategy was making sure that I did not share a room. As much as I would have loved to save money, have a bloggy companion, and have tons of fun – my objective was to learn. I know that if I don’t have a quiet place to reflect and process, much of what I learn would have stayed in Vegas. In this case, I did not want that to happen. Although my hubby was with me, I was still able to have space to spread out all my stuff, be alone with my thoughts, bounce ideas off an objective (however imprisoned) supporter, and have quiet time to write my notes.
I took a composition style notebook and a pen to take my notes, as advised by the SITS Girls who put on Bloggy Boot Camp. It was good advice because I didn’t want to have to worry about my laptop, battery life and WiFi connection the whole time. I noted key points that I wanted to remember during the fabulous speakers’ presentations. I wrote my reflections for this post. I took down some awesome quotes. I am glad I wrote them in my notebook, because my cell battery did die and I couldn’t tweet out some of the epiphanies I had.
I took some great pics that I Instagrammed and hashtagged. I tweeted. I shared. Next time, I will bring a separate camera because I missed some amazing “Kodak Moments” when my phone died. I noticed a few bloggers used their phone to take pics of the slides on the screen during the presentations. What a brilliant idea! Why didn’t I think of that? That’s one to remember for next time to really cut down on note taking.
What I Learned
The conference, the organizers, the speakers and the sessions were all fantastic! It was clear and concise. The information was relevant. The speakers were well prepared and professional. I really got what I came for!
I was blown away by the contagious energy and excitement from one of the most successful bloggers around, Laurie Turk/The Tip Junkie. She shared her Top Ten Blogging Success Tips. She was so willing to share that it really gave me hope that I can and will increase my SEO. I was so happy with myself that I didn’t have to ask what that was or even look it up! Search Engine Optimization is something every blogger who wants to increase their readership should know. Laurie’s tips made it seem attainable.
Cynthia Wheeler/@napwarden spoke to us about Great Blog Design. If you visit my blog often you may notice I already made a few changes. She gave terrific advice and if I can afford to get a professionally designed blog, I will know where to go!
The best speaker there was someone I have met personally on a few occasions and was even on my list! Trina Finton/The Gaming Angel gave an insider’s look at gadgets and apps that all bloggers should know. There are quite a few apps and programs that I want to try.
I enjoyed the break out session. I attended the Writer’s Workshop. It was a small group and set up in an informal discussion. I received some good tips for bloggers who are writers from Fran Banducci/SITS Girls, Kathy Bouska/MamaKat, and Chelsea Day/Some Day I’ll Learn. I learned that it is important to “make people want to read what I write” and how to do a “Six Word Memoir.”
My favorite quote from Bloggy Bootcamp Vegas 2012:
“Whatever is on fire, is what gets my attention!” Kathy Bouska
Danielle Liss/Fitfluential gave the bloggers a quick but important overview of the Legal Basics of Blogging. I was happy that most of what I remember from business law (a favorite class in college) still applies. Most of the copyright, trademark, contract and licensing rights can be looked up online. Danielle helped to clear up any blurry issues where blogging is concerned and pointed out how to get the correct and current information. That was awesome!
I was enthralled with the final speaker, Elizabeth Jayne Liu/Flourish in Progress who talked about her personal experience with blogging. She spoke about being authentic and developing a unique voice. She hit it home for me and made me feel so glad that I am doing this. She helped me to realize that it is okay to “Speak the way I speak, say what is on my mind,” and to know that “the more I write the more I can get to know myself and become comfortable with myself.” She is such an inspiration to me! I couldn’t wait to meet her and I was lucky to get her awesome business card!
What I Will Always Remember
I was inspired by the Tribe.
The sponsors were in on the underlying theme. I am bangin’ the drum! We need each other. I want to thank the sponsors. Not because they made my experience top-notch, not because it is the right thing to do, but because I can. I am a blogger and it’s what I do! Shout out to the sponsors: Ford Warriors in Pink, Mirassou Winery, and Jewel Kade.
I had the absolute honor to sit next to a truly amazing young Cancer Survivor who is a Warrior in Pink, Tina Herold. If you know me and have read my posts before you know that I believe there are no accidents. I was meant to sit next to this angel. Because of her I am scheduled to get a mammogram this week. Hugs to Tina! If you want to be inspired, check out this blog: http://imwiggedout.com/wiggedouthome.html
All of the ladies that I met at Bloggy Bootcamp were wonderful. They are just normal people who have a blog. They are just like me. We are all Rock Stars! Mommas, Foodies, Clickertons, Fugalistas, and Adventurers. Best of all, we like to share, to learn, to embrace and to empower. Cheers to the bloggers!!