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I love my life right now! Said no one ever, right? Well, I did. And I do. Seriously, no matter how difficult things get, I am grateful for my life. I love it!
I started writing a post called, Living the Life I Want, in April 2013. Looking back at my drafts I found these quotes that apply perfectly to what I’m going through now.
Jean Shinoda Bolen says, “As soon as you recover or discover something that nourishes you and brings you joy, resolve to care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.”
Alice Walker says, “Look closely at the present you are constructing. It should look like the future you are dreaming.”
“The future depends on what you do today.” – Mahatma Gandhi
“Your own positive future begins in this moment. Every goal is possible from here.” – Lai Tzu
In my post, “Peace of Mind, Imagine the Possibilities “ 3-7-13, I said, “Knowing that stress causes ailments to manifest and weaken me, I recall the goodness that surrounds me and I regain my strength. It is almost instant. My head lifts. I feel light. When I walk, I walk tall. When I speak, I speak with love.“
It has to do with following through. I honor the practices of self-care. I honor my core values.
“When your values are the source of your actions, even the lows become a positive experience.” –Sandi Amorin, Life Coach
So, how did I go from hard times to living my best life and loving it? It has to do with staying true to myself and to my ideals.
It’s 2019 and my theme for this year is Simple Joys. My plan is to really take it easy. It’s the no plan plan.
Of course, things are starting to come together and some events are in the works in the coming months. I’m traveling a bit here and there and my husband’s 50th birthday is happening soon. I also made a commitment to teach an art camp this summer. But these things are spread out throughout the year and I will try to remain true to my theme and allow the simple joys to be my focus.
This comes after a very difficult couple of years. I pushed myself to new limits and I was tested in unexpected ways. I spent my 49th year convinced that if I set my intention on action and activating my best self that I would be more successful than ever before and be able to reach new heights.
Ironically, one of the most symbolic things I could use to describe how that plan worked out is so cliche it’s a little embarrassing- – I actually got a treadmill and made videos on You Tube and Instagram hoping to inspire myself and others with my “take action” attitude. When in fact I spent all year literally running in place and not getting anywhere.
See one of my treadmill videos here:
To my defense, I weathered through some really tough crises with the help of my husband, family, and dearest friends and learned a lot about myself in the process. I gained a deeper perspective and I am at peace with it. I still love my treadmill as much as I love all the things I attempted during the past few years that didn’t take me as far as I had hoped.
I might not have successfully gotten a new business off the ground, made any money selling books, card decks, jewelry, or anything else, or become the superstar of my dreams – but I did take action. I tried. I worked my butt off and made the effort. Which is more than I ever did before. Doing that lead me to meeting people and going places that I otherwise never would have. More importantly, I went outside of my comfort zone and saw myself rise up and develop my abilities, hone my talents, and excel in unexpected ways.
All of it was extremely satisfying, just like knowing that I have walked the entire length of Italy (736 miles) and climbed over 2000 floors (which is the equivalent of the height of a hot air balloon in flight) during 2018 without even leaving California or being lifted off the ground.
So here it is, a new year, a new intention, a new focus. I like to take what I have learned and move forward in my life mindful that each moment has its own merit. I am a new person in many ways. I am also the best at being the me I like being too. I am going to relish that this year. I consider that the simple joy of living life.
I am the best at being the me I like.
As a life coach I often use “re-” words to help in the moving on or moving forward process. Review, recharge, refresh, renew. I heard a phrase today that really encompassed what I have been feeling. Re-become. I am so ready for that. I became who I want to be. I am fully vested. I tried a few things and that was good. Now I can re-become me. It’s that simple.
Rumi said, “Be as you appear or appear as you are.”
Today I feel open, ready to react, ready to answer, to aid, to help, to honor.
If you have a question for me, ask it. If you have an opinion, tell it. If you have a suggestion, throw it out there. Today is the day.
The Life Coach is in. It’s free. It’s confidential. It’s fun and easy.
In my last post, I asked what inspires you? In what ways have you been inspired? What does inspiration mean to you? Do you believe in divine inspiration? Do you speak the truth?
I didn’t get many answers, but hopefully I got you thinking. I believe all of our actions come from our heart. If we listen to our heart we would find a peaceful mission.
Today I am curious, What do you want to know? What are you worried about? Don’t think, just ask. Ask me, ask yourself, ask the Universe, just ask.
If you never ask the question, how will you ever get the answer you seek?
Tell me something good. Tell me, what is on your mind? Better yet, what is in your heart?
Let’s Talk About Life and Keeping it ALL Together
Balancing and Thriving in a Busy Bubble
I am re-posting the details for my upcoming workshops.
Do you ever have that feeling that if you take on just one more thing, sign up for one more activity, open one more bill, join one more group, say “Yes” to one more request, or even respond to one more email that everything in your bubble will just pop?
Are you afraid that you will be left with nothing but a giant splattering of the things you cared about and won’t know how to piece it all together again? Maybe you have lost sight of your vision? Does going off on a tangent and forgetting what you were originally talking about sound familiar? If so, then stop and take a breath. It’s going to be okay! Really!
Let me help you refresh your memory and bring you back to the things that are most important to you. You can do it all! I’ll show you how to keep all the bubbles bouncing in the air. With some tried and true skills from the experts in my “light” version of How to Keep it All Together: Balancing and Thriving in a Busy Bubble I will share the techniques that I use to help you stay focused, balanced, and centered in everything you do. It all comes down to taking care of yourself and remembering to care for all sides of your multi-faceted amazing life.
Workshop participants will review organizational skills similar to those presented in my favorite self-development books by Don Miguel Ruiz, Gretchen Rubin, Steven Covey, Peter Bregman and others. You may be learning how to organize on this level for the first time. Together as a group we will explore what it takes to find a true balance. I have developed a system that works for me that is simple and guilt-free. It is definitely worth trying anytime you are feeling overwhelmed.
In the small group sessions, you will experience music, videos, quotes, meditation, breathing exercises, and hands on projects that will help explain and implement the system. You will leave feeling refreshed, inspired and empowered to carry on your life’s dream of doing and having it all.
You can benefit from attending any or all of the sessions which are each designed to be like a “mini spa retreat”. Get away from it all and do something for yourself!
I am so excited to be able to share my experience with you. For several years now I have been asked how I do it all. I somehow manage to raise my family, have a full time job, volunteer on fulltime projects, plan big events, enjoy spending a considerable amount of time with my extended family and friends, continue my education, travel, write, blog, consult, coach, and have lots of fun – all the time! I NEVER THOUGHT I would be the one saying this, not in A MILLION YEARS, but I can and do HAVE IT ALL. I am blessed and grateful for everything and every thing that I have and do. And guess what. . . I want more. I want more experiences, more fun, and most of all, more ways to share what I know and what I am passionate about.
If you are at all interested in the worshop, mini spa retreats, or one on one sessions, let me know. I would love to hear from you! Ready to sign up? Just click on the “Register Now” button.
Session One: Re-Evaluate Your Focus September 26th, 7-9 PM
Session Two: Develop Your Vision October 3rd, 7-9 PM
Session Three: Develop Your System October 10th, 7-9 PM
Session Four: Prepare for Obstacles October 17th, 7-9 PM
Session Five: Develop Your Best Self October 24th, 7-9 PM
Five Week “Mini Retreat” Series: Includes Sessions One through Five
Small Group Spa Session – – By appointment. 2-6 attendees. Includes brunch. Four Hours. Two session themes of your choosing.
Follow Up Session: Seeking Happiness November 7th, 7-9 PM
One on One – – Private One Hour Life Balance Coaching Session. By appointment. Begin with a theme of your choosing.
I will be speaking at the #spallblog #lifestyle #bloggers #retreat. Join me! http://spallblogretreat.blogspot.com/ #llblog!
I want to write about action. Not your Hollywood, lights, camera, action. But the kind of action that means change. I want to talk about making a difference. I want to talk about life changing moments. I am thinking of what I am doing in my life and how that can help you in your life.
C. A. Kobu says, “Action separates dreamers from doers.”
Some time ago, I decided to be a doer. Seriously. My motto for this blog is, “Live, Be, Do.” That is my feeling about life right now. In order to live it, I must enjoy being a part of it, and in order to take part in it, I must do something with it.
Everyone can learn to take action and get the important things done. I was motivated by a brilliant instigator named Tara Rodden Robinson, who says, “Starting Is the Only Way.”
Tara is into that feeling that leads from great idea to leap. She says, “It’s like asking a bird how to fly: You just spread your wings and flap, she’d say.”
Tara further explains that as a coach, she knows it’s not that simple. “It’s downright painful to watch someone teetering on the edge of starting: they’re wanting so badly to leap and yet terrified that their wings won’t hold and their flight will turn into a fall. Just because you start doesn’t mean you’re committing to a giant leap.”
I love that. It is in the starting that you are able to fly!! I needed to get started. So, that is what I did.
Tara continued, “Small steps, the tiniest little beginnings–each one counts as much as the large impressive bounds do. Besides, starting is the only way to have any possibility of journeying, enjoying the exhilaration of the process, and ultimately, savoring the satisfaction of arriving.”
Well, I am hooked! I am ready! I am all in! Why? Because I am all about the journey. I do enjoy each moment. I love my life and I love where my road is taking me. I am thrilled that each stop along the way makes me more and more excited about the next destination. I can do this!
Tara Rodden Robinson challenged me to bring to mind something I really wanted to do but was afraid of starting. I was simply afraid of the unknown. But the more I thought about it, researched it, talked about it and prepared myself for the possibility of success, the more real it became. Besides, all I have to do is start, right?
Here is how it went down:
I evaluated. I soul searched. I tested myself.
The worst thing that can happen if I don’t start is…I’ll never know if I can reach my full potential. I won’t be the model for my children that I always hoped I would be. I won’t have anything but my hobbies to fall back on later in life. I will always wonder, “what if. . .”
If I don’t start, I will miss out on the chance to…really shine. I would like to share what I know with others. I want to do something with my life that I am thoroughly passionate about. I want to express joy in everything I do. I want to accomplish my vision. I want to make a splash.
The best thing that can happen if I do start is…I can actually help someone attain their goals. That would be amazing! Wait, I have done that many times over, in my personal relationships. It is amazing and I want to do it again and again for lots of people. I can be successful at doing this. I can make a difference. I can be the best at what I like to do. That idea is so freeing and exhilarating. The best thing that can happen is this could actually happen! I could fly with this!
Once I start, I’ll have the possibility of . . . helping others while doing what I love doing. This might be just the thing I need to get speaking engagements, grow my readership of my blog, and ultimately write and publish a book. Okay, don’t get ahead of yourself, but that is the idea! That is my vision! It is possible! All I have to do is start.
Think of the teensiest, tiniest action you could take that would look like starting. . . I could start a “business” blog and see what it looks like to market my services. I could start by talking about my ideas to others. I could test the waters.
Without committing to anything, when could you take this action? . . . I could start right away, there is no harm in pursuing this. It is something I am doing anyway and can be easily incorporated in my daily life. I will start now.
And I did. You might know all about it. You might be finding out for the first time. You might wonder what the heck I am talking about! You might be a bit confused. It just depends on how much I have let you in on the plan. It has been going on for months (years if you count the natural evolution of things!)
I want to be a life coach because I want to help other people and use my gifts and talents in ways that could really make a difference. I find it easy to make plans and set goals and I love seeing them through and making them happen. I realize that some people need help in this area. I can help. I often am able to make things easy for people when they doubt themselves. I am able to motivate them and give them peace of mind. I want to start a practice doing this.
Please see my new(ish) website for details on how I share my knowledge with others. And please keep coming to this blog for the thoughts and whimsical writings that inspire me to carry on.
In the words of Michael Jackson from one of my favorite songs, “Wanna Be Startin’ Somethin”:
Lift Your Head Up High
And Scream Out To The World
I Know I Am Someone
And Let The Truth Unfurl
No One Can Hurt You Now
Because You Know What’s True
Yes, I Believe In Me
So You Believe In You
This entry in MizMeliz.com was inspired by a Journal Prompt from A Year with Myself called – Action: Mastering the Easy Way to Start Anything by C. A. Kobu on April 23, 2012.