Everything Miz Meliz

Mid-Year Reality Check

At the beginning of 2013 I set the tone for the year by establishing a word to define my focus.  The word is “ta-da”

I feel like I have shared many of the fun things that I like with that “Jazz Hands” show-off mentality, as if to say, “Look at Me!” See what I can do?  More than that, it has been my intention to show who I am and what I am proud of.  As if to say, “I have arrived.”  “I am here.”  Catch my energy.  See my spirit.  It’s my time to shine.

picture by Melissa Reyes copyright 2013 http://mizmeliz.com
What is the answer to life, the universe, and everything?

How have I demonstrated my “show-off” attitude towards life?  I will review.

I can look back at my posts.

I can look at my Day Runner.

I can look in the mirror.

During Christmas Vacation, I went to see a few movies.  One of them was “Lincoln”.  When I was waiting to watch that much anticipated film, I thought to myself, “Okay Mr. Spielberg, inspire me! Help me come up with something special.  Help me find a unique way to write my story.”  And he did.  I don’t know how or why, but during the credits for that film, as I wiped my tears and gained my composure, I thought about how I have a character and I can write my story through her perspective.  Melissa the Mouse was born.  “Ta-da!”

In January, the focus was getting back to school and immersing myself into the boys’ schedules with school and sports.  We spent a weekend at my aunt and uncle’s home near Coachella where my son was playing in a lacrosse tournament.  It is always difficult for me to visit there because my parents lived down the street from my aunt and uncle before they died.  I had been avoiding that situation for some time.  This weekend was nice and I managed to get through it and I was okay.  Up a level in the grieving process, I guess.  “Ta-da!”

At the end of the month, I had a chance to read my poetry at a cabaret show in Hollywood.  It was stellar!

photo by Melissa Reyes copyright 2013 http://mizmeliz.com
I read my poetry at a show in Hollywood. January, 31, 2013

In February, I had so much fun! I went to San Francisco to interview fellow blogger, Evan Sanders, and attend his launch party for his book, The Better Man Project.  I took a road trip with new friend, Mary Lansing of Along Comes Mary, and another new idea came into play. Blog Ventures. I attended an Oscar’s night viewing party and it was just like being at the Oscars!  “Ta-da!”

In March, I started visiting college campuses with my son and planning how we would celebrate his graduation from high school. I realized that there is always an end before there can be a new beginning.  I contemplated how dealing with the empty nest syndrome is very much like letting go of my parents and sister since they died.  They will always be a part of me and I can look back at all the wonderful memories with joy and gratitude.  I am embracing the fact that there is more to look forward to!  “Ta-da!”

In April, I took a road trip with my family.  We visited more colleges and spent time with my cousins in New Mexico.  It was a wild ride road trip!  I learned how much a family can bond in moments like these and how important it is to be satisfied with my life as I know it.  “Ta-da!”

April also began the celebration and event season!  It started with being in a flash mob for my friend’s proposal, then the celebration of my wedding anniversary, and I attended a few conferences and shows.  May brought  more celebrations beginning with my son’s confirmation,  then my mother-in-law’s 70th birthday, my niece’s high school graduation, my nephew’s engagement party, my oldest son’s high school graduation, my other nephew’s high school graduation, both of my sister-in-law’s birthdays, my kids’ performances, games, prom and grad nights, and awards ceremonies . . . whew!

Yes, it seemed that every day was a celebration or a culmination.  What better way to describe the feeling of accomplishment and appreciation for these special milestones than . . . Yes, I’ll say it one more time . . . “whoopie! yeehaw! wepa! huzzah!  ta-da!!”

Life is a celebration.  Life is good.  There is so much to be grateful for!

What’s next? Six months left in 2013.  I look at the Day Runner.  July looks wonderful.  It’s my son’s 18th birthday.  I should be posting my 200th blog post around the 2nd week. Getting going on the book.  Finally!   It’s my birthday.  45.  Meh.  It’s just a number.  I have some relaxation planned.  Pretty low-key.  My husband and I have plans to attend a few concerts with friends in August.  Then it’s back to school.  My oldest son starts college in September.  He will be moving out.  I am excited.  (I am scared shitless.)  I am excited.  I will be doing a workshop about goals, vision and life balance for my blogging group in October.  Then the holidays will be upon us.  Another year come and gone.

It’s a good life.  A very good life.

Over the next four weeks I will be posting excerpts from the book that I have been writing.  I will discuss topics such as:

Self-Confidence and Self-Awareness

Kindness and Compassion

Laughter and Joy

Facing Challenges

Letting Go

Attaining Wellness

Increasing Energy

Creating Systems

I look forward to bringing you more of my energy and insights.  I love shining brightly and shouting “ta-da!”

What are you proud of that you have accomplished so far this year?  Please share with me in the comments.  Take a moment and toot your horn!  C’mon, you know you want to!  

Let’s celebrate!

Be Inspired, Everything Miz Meliz

What Makes You Happy? #MizMeliz

What Makes You Happy?

Do you wonder about your life’s purpose? How do you become happy? How do you find inner peace?

For me, I have found that no matter what my focus is (let’s face it, being a mom, a wife, an employee, and so much more – I don’t always focus on or think about my life’s purpose) I am happiest when I am being creative. I love to make things and I love being productive. I will be the first to admit it – sometimes, I love being lazy! But, I usually have a few projects in the works.

Blogging has been particularly satisfying for me and has allowed me to be my best self whenever I feel like it. I have met amazing people and made some wonderful friends. I can express myself openly and honestly. I truly have found my voice! Through blogging (writing and posting information online) I have been able to explore and pursue all of my interests. I also have the opportunity at my fingertips to share what I experience and learn with others. That is the best part! What is the point of being passionate about something without sharing it with the world?

One way that I have been able express my creativity is by writing and sharing my poetry. I have posted some of my favorites on my blog, and I have even read my poetry at various open mic nights. My poem, Rain, which I read when I participated in the Velvet Guerilla Cabaret at the UnUrban Coffee House in Santa Monica last August is on my You Tube Channel.

This week I will be reading another of my original poems at a spoken word performance in Hollywood. The event is called Urban Desert Cabaret. It is a variety of artists who are brought together on a regular basis by Songwriter/musician Joe City Garcia. (Joe happens to be my cousin. That’s the reason I have this chance.) Most of the performers are professionals. Joe is passionate about this show and works hard to bring together a cohesive program that everyone will enjoy (its not an open mic night! I’m getting nervous!) But honestly, I have a sound heart as I prepare for my performance and I am completely open to the experience.

I put a lot of energy over the years into finding my life’s purpose and living to my life’s full potential. I know that having a joyful heart is what brings happiness to my life and the lives of those I touch. I love the confident feeling I have when I can express myself openly and my creativity shines through! It’s that creative force that brings joy, happiness and peace to my heart. This is what makes life worth living, this is what brings purpose and meaning to my life.

Photo Copyright Melissa Reyes 2012 http://mizmeliz.com
Miz Meliz on the Beach on a Cold Day

What makes your heart leap with joy? What makes you happy?

Years ago, I learned many of the principles that I continue to apply to my life now while watching The Oprah Winfrey Show. That is where I first encountered Gary Zukav. You can learn to find meaning in your life and start living it with the help of Gary Zukav by following his steps, he says:

“Discover your soul and its path.

Align your personality with your soul. Until that happens, you won’t be able to give the gifts you were meant to.

Remind yourself daily of the following:

• You are a soul first and a personality second.
• You are worthy. You are not on this Earth by accident. You have a reason to be here. There’s a difference between accepting that in your mind and accepting in your heart.
• It’s not an “it” that you’re looking for—it’s your life that you’re living.
• You are here to create an authentically empowered life. There is no guarantee you will do it. It’s up to you.”

Learn more and meet Gary Zukav: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Finding-Meaning-and-Purpose-in-Your-Life#ixzz2DXs40F6c

2012-07-30 19.20.13