Foremost on my mind today is a very sad issue. As part of my journey it is important to convey how very sad the loss of a parent is to me. It seems that many of my peers are suffering a loss right now. I guess I am at that age. My own parents live in Heaven. It takes a long time to cope with that kind of major loss at any age.
Nothing prepares you and no matter how close you are to your mom or dad, it is devastating. At least three people in my life who I am very close to have recently lost their mom or dad in the past few weeks. I can count about ten who are dealing with sick parents or their parent has died over the past few months. It is heartbreaking. It reminds me of how I felt when it just happened to me. It was probably the most difficult time in my life. Thinking about it causes me to revert to some of the deep sadness, depression, and pain that I experienced during those difficult years. I have posted the Seven Stages of Grief. I find it helpful to read that when grief revisits me.
I know that the final stages of acceptance and hope is where I want to be.
I feel truly happy when I get there. My mom and dad would want me to be happy.
When I see photos of my parents at their best and happiest, it helps me to recall the good times. I remind myself that I am blessed with such happy memories. For those whose memories aren’t as happy, in time you will be able to separate the good from the bad. It takes time, but you will someday be able to look back and be ever so grateful for your life and the ones who brought you into this world. It is up to you to keep the memory of the good things your parents gave you alive. Learn from their mistakes, trials and tribulations. Break the chain, if necessary. Move forward to a peaceful and joyful time.