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Let’s Get Blooming!

Posted on March 16th, 2017 by & filed under A Year in Bloom, Everything Miz Meliz, Life Coaching, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

Special offer!

Now through May 25th

Three one on one private coaching sessions with Melissa Reyes, the bloom boosting motivational coach for A Year in Bloom, a unique online personal development experience that focuses on growth and clarity.

Schedule your three sessions with Melissa in 3 EASY STEPS:

1.  Join A Year in Bloom on Facebook at http://Facebook.com/groups/ayearinbloom or email me at Mizmeliz @ yahoo .com

2.  Send a message to Melissa that you are interested in the sessions.

3.  Schedule a date and time.

It’s that easy! On the first session we will discuss the details such as length of the sessions and frequency as well as payment.

In most cases, sessions are online via Private Zoom or Skype and take about 30 minutes. One time per week makes the most sense, however we will work together to come up with a schedule based on your needs.  I am available most evenings and weekends. I also do phone and in person coaching.

Ask me about group and spa sessions! 

If your organization is ready for a Bloom Boosting Retreat, A Year in Bloom can be modified for any size group to experience new growth, be ready to thrive, and bloom – be your healthiest, happiest, and best self every single day!

Tinsel Town Live featuring @AnnaOginsky “My New Friend Grief”

Posted on November 24th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Interview, Tinsel Town Live 2016

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Tinsel Town Live with Miz Meliz featuring Anna Anna Hodges Oginskyhttps://smiletime.com/channel/mizmeliz #onSmiletime

November 22, 2016 6:00 PM Pacific Time

Meet Anna Oginsky, Author of My New Friend, Grief

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When I asked Anna what she does for fun when she isn’t working, she said, “I’m a mom of three active kids, so fun for me is driving them from place to place after school. Just kidding!”

Anna loves yoga, reading, writing, hiking, and making art. She loves to travel. She loves being outside. Anna is into daydreaming. She says, “I love a hot cup of coffee with a good book, or better yet a good friend.”

When I asked her to tell me what she is most passionate about, Anna said, “I am passionate about feelings! Specifically, grief. As I promote my book, My New Friend, Grief, I am offering brave, safe spaces for people to discuss grief. Generally speaking, we don’t do that in our culture. We want people to “”get over it””. I want to encourage people to sit with it, with no judgment, for as long as it takes. In that process of sitting with anything, we give ourselves the opportunity to hear from our wisest counsel: ourselves. My work centers around creating space for people to tune into one’s inner wisdom.”

“In that process of sitting with anything, we give ourselves the opportunity to hear from our wisest counsel: ourselves.” ~Anna Oginsky

I look forward to speaking with Anna Oginsky about her book and discussing what it is like to live with grief, grieving, loss, all the losses, and ways to cope – because I have a feeling we will hit it off famously!

Grab a cup of coffee and join us as we talk about our lives, our feelings, and what inspires us to keep going and keep smiling.

Reach out to Anna Oginsky here:

www.annaoginsky.com

@annaoginsky on Twitter and Instagram

www.facebook.com/anna.oginsky on Facebook

Being Courageous by Melissa Reyes

Posted on March 9th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe, Intentional, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

Jonathan Morrow says “The Cowardly Lion is an unlikely hero who learned to overcome his fears. We are all cowardly lions. Everyday, we have to wake up and remind ourselves how to roar.”

The topic is courage because it comes up again and again for me in my studies of life, business, and self-care.  Actually, it is fear that comes up. Courage is the counterpart to fear. If I don’t want to be afraid, I must be courageous. Right? Maya Angelou said that you need courage in order to practice the other more important virtues. Courage is the starting point for transformation. Courage is needed to move forward with plans and goals and wants and dreams. We don’t do anything without some level of courage. (I wrote about Courage before.)

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If it weren’t for courage, I might stay in bed all day where it is safe and warm and comfortable. If it weren’t for courage, I would never voice my opinion or make any choices for myself. Courage gives me a voice. Courage gives me an opinion. Courage has a lot to do with who I am. ~M. Reyes 3-9-16

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In Jon Morrow’s article about the Cowardly Lion, he goes through the steps the lion took to get courage in the story of The Wizard of Oz. He related these steps to the tools needed to activate courage when taking on a new business or project. I went over many of these principles in my interview with David Vaughan on Tinsel Town Tonight, when he portrayed the Lion to prove a point about what it takes to be courageous. The point is this – we aren’t naturally courageous. We need to make an effort. We must activate our courage and we must do this often. 

Here are some tools to use when activating your courage:

Desperation – when you have “hit rock bottom” or are at your “wit’s end” that feeling will motivate you to make a change

Motivation – use that motivation to set some goals and get going. Don’t wait – move on it.

Discovery – If you have questions about how and when you will change and complete your mission, use that as a means to discover whatever you need to take the next step.

Challenge – if it was easy, it wouldn’t be worth fighting for, or trying so hard. Challenge yourself and make it important.

Ignore your inner critic – those negative voices are telling you that it can’t be done, or it is too hard. Ignore it! It means that you can do it. The chemicals in your brain make you think these thoughts in order to protect you from harm. You know what you are doing. Believe the positive and encouraging voice inside you.

Compassion – you feel called to help someone in need. You care about the people who depend on you. These are good reasons to step up and make things better for everyone.

Collaboration/Partnerships – You aren’t alone in this. Bounce off your ideas with your bestie. Work with some knowledgeable people and come up with a plan together. Support each other through this. Two heads are better than one and all that.

Celebrate – It is good to honor the milestones and remember the past. You have made it this far. Pat yourself on the back and soak in the recognition you deserve. That makes you want more of it even more, Keep up the good work.

Keep going – when things fail, try and try again. When things get stagnant, keep going. You might be a few steps away from achieving your goal. You won’t know if you don’t keep going forward.

Take notes – journal, keep a photo album, document your work and your achievements. Refer back to them and review what you did that worked. Enjoy the memories and share them. You did it! You believed you could do it and you did it! Write the book. Frame the certificate. Send the announcements. You totally deserve it. It wasn’t easy. You are awesome!

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Courage Mandala by Melissa Reyes for the 100 Mandala Project

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I have learned that the following things are important in order to be successful.

This is a good reminder for me and I hope it helps you as well.

  • Be willing to do what it takes to get what you want and make things happen.
  • Be unpopular and remember not everyone will understand or care about what it is you are trying to do.
  • Try again and again because each failure is an experience to build on.
  • Pay the price and don’t go cheap. Important things are costly. Either financially or emotionally.
  • Never give up. Never, never give in or give up. Keep the faith.
  • Being mindful and having a purpose or intention is vital in being a success at whatever you do. (aka mindset)
  • Educate yourself and continue to learn all the days of your life.
  • Be prepared for anything. No matter what happens, you are ready for greatness!

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When I was young, I was shy. I mean when I was really young. I was the youngest in the family. The only child in a world of adults and teenagers. I would hide behind my mother. I never let go of her. I was afraid of being alone, going to the doctor or dentist, being left at preschool, clowns. I was afraid of anything that might separate me from my mother, from my safety zone. Eventually I overcame the separation anxiety and enjoyed school and making friends. But until high school, I was still pretty shy. Even at work when I was in my 20’s I didn’t voice my opinion. In college, I stayed to myself in class and never asked questions. I was an observer. I thought it was being respectful. I wasn’t really sure what my own opinions were. I was a people pleaser and I followed the direction of others that I trusted for the most part. Of course, I don’t know if I knew that I was doing that at the time. But, when I finally discovered my own voice and my own opinions welled up to the surface I knew! It was still awhile before I found courage.

I was searching for something. I wanted validation. I wanted success. I wanted to be heard. I needed to feel important.

The seed of “me” had developed inside all that time and I was ready to bloom.

It took courage. Courage and determination. They say when you are ready you know. When you are ready to get married, have children, move to another place, change careers, all those major decisions. You are supposed to know. I don’t necessarily agree. I believe when you feel uneasy with who you are or what you are doing, it is time to make a change. What do you think?

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In what ways have you changed and what did it take to get the courage you needed to do so?

For me, I am creative and I like to make things. Every project is a way to start anew. Writing is a way to start something and see it through. Travel and planning events and vacations is another way I use my abilities. Each project takes courage to start and to be successful. I started taking on bigger projects. Becoming a life coach. Writing a book. Doing a live talk show. Publishing and sharing my work. Planning a move. Speaking at conferences and workshops. Everyday I remind myself that I am capable, I am loved, and I can be heard. Do I roar? Not exactly. But I know I can!

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If you like interviews like the one in this post, you will love my You Tube Channel! Subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/user/MizBizEvents

 

How To Be Who You Want To Be – When You Can’t Even Recognize Yourself

Posted on January 28th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Life Coaching, Workshops and Webinars

I am starting a monthly mini-retreat/workshop on Trainer.ly  You can sign up online and join me via live video chat from the comfort of your own home.

This is it people. If you need direction…I will guide you. If you are lost, I will help you find yourself. If you are dying inside, I can resuscitate you. I know how to operate the roller coaster. I can show you how to hit the reset button. You do get a do-over in life. You can start again, and again. Do you want to know HOW TO BE YOU? Let’s get going.

Discover and Believe in Yourself.

Step one: repeat after me, “I am here to be awesome!”

Let’s ROLL!

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What do you want to know?

Posted on January 17th, 2013 by & filed under Be Inspired, Everything Miz Meliz

Rumi said, “Be as you appear or appear as you are.”

Today I feel open, ready to react, ready to answer, to aid, to help, to honor.

If you have a question for me, ask it. If you have an opinion, tell it. If you have a suggestion, throw it out there. Today is the day.

The Life Coach is in. It’s free. It’s confidential. It’s fun and easy.

In my last post, I asked what inspires you? In what ways have you been inspired? What does inspiration mean to you? Do you believe in divine inspiration? Do you speak the truth?
I didn’t get many answers, but hopefully I got you thinking. I believe all of our actions come from our heart. If we listen to our heart we would find a peaceful mission.

Today I am curious, What do you want to know? What are you worried about? Don’t think, just ask. Ask me, ask yourself, ask the Universe, just ask.

If you never ask the question, how will you ever get the answer you seek?

Tell me something good. Tell me, what is on your mind? Better yet, what is in your heart?

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Let’s Talk About Life

Posted on August 29th, 2012 by & filed under Be Inspired, Everything Miz Meliz

Let’s Talk About Life and Keeping it ALL Together

 

Balancing and Thriving in a Busy Bubble

I am re-posting the details for my upcoming workshops.

Do you ever have that feeling that if you take on just one more thing, sign up for one more activity, open one more bill, join one more group, say “Yes” to one more request, or even respond to one more email that everything in your bubble will just pop?

Are you afraid that you will be left with nothing but a giant splattering of the things you cared about and won’t know how to piece it all together again? Maybe you have lost sight of your vision? Does going off on a tangent and forgetting what you were originally talking about sound familiar? If so, then stop and take a breath. It’s going to be okay! Really!

Let me help you refresh your memory and bring you back to the things that are most important to you. You can do it all! I’ll show you how to keep all the bubbles bouncing in the air. With some tried and true skills from the experts in my “light” version of How to Keep it All Together: Balancing and Thriving in a Busy Bubble I will share the techniques that I use to help you stay focused, balanced, and centered in everything you do. It all comes down to taking care of yourself and remembering to care for all sides of your multi-faceted amazing life.

Workshop participants will review organizational skills similar to those presented in my favorite self-development books by Don Miguel Ruiz, Gretchen Rubin, Steven Covey, Peter Bregman and others.  You may be learning how to organize on this level for the first time.  Together as a group we will explore what it takes to find a true balance. I have developed a system that works for me that is simple and guilt-free.  It is definitely worth trying anytime you are feeling overwhelmed.

In the small group sessions, you will experience music, videos, quotes, meditation, breathing exercises, and hands on projects that will help explain and implement the system. You will leave feeling refreshed, inspired and empowered to carry on your life’s dream of doing and having it all.

You can benefit from attending any or all of the sessions which are each designed to be like a “mini spa retreat”.  Get away from it all and do something for yourself! 

I am so excited to be able to share my experience with you.  For several years now I have been asked how I do it all.  I somehow manage to raise my family, have a full time job, volunteer on fulltime projects, plan big events,  enjoy spending a considerable amount of time with my extended family and friends, continue my education, travel, write, blog, consult, coach, and have lots of fun – all the time!  I NEVER THOUGHT I would be the one saying this, not in A MILLION YEARS, but I can and do HAVE IT ALL.  I am blessed and grateful for everything and every thing that I have and do.  And guess what. . . I want more.  I want more experiences, more fun, and most of all, more ways to share what I know and what I am passionate about.

If you are at all interested in the worshop, mini spa retreats, or one on one sessions, let me know.  I would love to hear from you!  Ready to sign up?  Just click on the “Register Now” button.  

Eventbrite - Life Balance Workshop

Session One:  Re-Evaluate Your Focus  September 26th, 7-9 PM

Session Two:  Develop Your Vision  October 3rd, 7-9 PM

Session Three:  Develop Your System  October 10th, 7-9 PM

Session Four:  Prepare for Obstacles  October 17th, 7-9 PM

Session Five:  Develop Your Best Self  October 24th, 7-9 PM

Five Week “Mini Retreat” Series: Includes Sessions One through Five

Small Group Spa Session – – By appointment. 2-6 attendees. Includes brunch. Four Hours.  Two session themes of your choosing.

Follow Up Session:  Seeking Happiness  November 7th, 7-9 PM

One on One – – Private One Hour Life Balance Coaching Session.  By appointment.   Begin with a theme of your choosing. 

Eventbrite - Life Balance Workshop

Let's Talk About Life & Balance Mini Spa Retreat Workshop by Melissa Reyes #MizMeliz @mizmeliz mizbizevents@gmail.com

We might travel the same road and get to the same final destination, but our life’s journey is unique. My goal is to make mine a hop, skip, and a jump!

I will be speaking at the #spallblog #lifestyle #bloggers #retreat.  Join me!  http://spallblogretreat.blogspot.com/  #llblog!

Action – I Want to be Starting Something!

Posted on August 27th, 2012 by & filed under A Year With Myself, Everything Miz Meliz

I want to write about action.  Not your Hollywood, lights, camera, action.  But the kind of action that means change.  I want to talk about making a difference.  I want to talk about life changing moments.  I am thinking of what I am doing in my life and how that can help you in your life.

C. A. Kobu says, “Action separates dreamers from doers.”

Some time ago, I decided to be a doer.  Seriously.  My motto for this blog is, “Live, Be, Do.”  That is my feeling about life right now.  In order to live it, I must enjoy being a part of it, and in order to take part in it, I must do something with it.

Everyone can learn to take action and get the important things done.  I was motivated by a brilliant instigator named Tara Rodden Robinson, who says, “Starting Is the Only Way.”

Tara is into that feeling that leads from great idea to leap.  She says, “It’s like asking a bird how to fly: You just spread your wings and flap, she’d say.”

Tara further explains that as a coach, she knows it’s not that simple. “It’s downright painful to watch someone teetering on the edge of starting: they’re wanting so badly to leap and yet terrified that their wings won’t hold and their flight will turn into a fall.  Just because you start doesn’t mean you’re committing to a giant leap.”

I love that.  It is in the starting that you are able to fly!!  I needed to get started.  So, that is what I did.

Tara continued, “Small steps, the tiniest little beginnings–each one counts as much as the large impressive bounds do. Besides, starting is the only way to have any possibility of journeying, enjoying the exhilaration of the process, and ultimately, savoring the satisfaction of arriving.”

Well, I am hooked!  I am ready!  I am all in!  Why?  Because I am all about the journey.  I do enjoy each moment.  I love my life and I love where my road is taking me.  I am thrilled that each stop along the way makes me more and more excited about the next destination.  I can do this!

Tara Rodden Robinson challenged me to bring to mind something I really wanted to do but was afraid of starting. I was simply afraid of the unknown.  But the more I thought about it, researched it, talked about it and prepared myself for the possibility of success, the more real it became.  Besides, all I have to do is start, right?

Here is how it went down:
I evaluated. I soul searched.  I tested myself.

The worst thing that can happen if I don’t start is…I’ll never know if I can reach my full potential.  I won’t be the model for my children that I always hoped I would be.  I won’t have anything but my hobbies to fall back on later in life.  I will always wonder, “what if. . .”

If I don’t start, I will miss out on the chance to…really shine.  I would like to share what I know with others.  I want to do something with my life that I am thoroughly passionate about.  I want to express joy in everything I do.  I want to accomplish my vision.  I want to make a splash.

The best thing that can happen if I do start is…I can actually help someone attain their goals.  That would be amazing!  Wait, I have done that many times over, in my personal relationships.  It is amazing and I want to do it again and again for lots of people.  I can be successful at doing this.  I can make a difference.  I can be the best at what I like to do.  That idea is so freeing and exhilarating.  The best thing that can happen is this could actually happen!  I could fly with this!

Once I start, I’ll have the possibility of . . . helping others while doing what I love doing.  This might be just the thing I need to get speaking engagements, grow my readership of my blog, and ultimately write and publish a book.  Okay, don’t get ahead of yourself, but that is the idea!  That is my vision!  It is possible!  All I have to do is start.

Think of the teensiest, tiniest action you could take that would look like starting. . .  I could start a “business” blog and see what it looks like to market my services.  I could start by talking about my ideas to others.  I could test the waters.

Without committing to anything, when could you take this action? . . . I could start right away, there is no harm in pursuing this.  It is something I am doing anyway and can be easily incorporated in my daily life.  I will start now.

And I did.  You might know all about it.  You might be finding out for the first time.  You might wonder what the heck I am talking about!  You might be a bit confused.  It just depends on how much I have let you in on the plan.  It has been going on for months (years if you count the natural evolution of things!)

I want to be a life coach because I want to help other people and use my gifts and talents in ways that could really make a difference. I find it easy to make plans and set goals and I love seeing them through and making them happen. I realize that some people need help in this area. I can help. I often am able to make things easy for people when they doubt themselves. I am able to motivate them and give them peace of mind. I want to start a practice doing this.

Please see my new(ish) website for details on how I share my knowledge with others.  And please keep coming to this blog for the thoughts and whimsical writings that inspire me to carry on.

http://mizbizevents.com

In the words of Michael Jackson from one of my favorite songs, “Wanna Be Startin’ Somethin”:

Lift Your Head Up High
And Scream Out To The World
I Know I Am Someone
And Let The Truth Unfurl
No One Can Hurt You Now
Because You Know What’s True
Yes, I Believe In Me
So You Believe In You

This entry in MizMeliz.com was inspired by a Journal Prompt from A Year with Myself called – Action: Mastering the Easy Way to Start Anything by C. A. Kobu on April 23, 2012.