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My Cats are International Rock Stars B.F.F. OMG! @weruvapets #weruvagrade

Posted on August 29th, 2017 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Product Reviews

My cats think they rule our house. And perhaps they do. There are some special accommodations they get just because they are cats. So, when International Cat Day became a thing, and they had a chance to get presents from a pet food brand – they got a little carried away. Okay, I admit – I got a little carried away! My cats became International Rock Stars!

I received a box of B.F.F. OMG! Bundle of treats, samples of cat food, and a few toys for my cats to try from WeRuVa. This is not a sponsored post. All opinions are my own. See my disclosure for more details on why I post articles like this on my blog.

They have always been Divas!  #weruvagrade

 

Oh My Gravy! Weruva BFF OMG! ‘People Food for Cats’

When the box arrived, Noche was very curious about it. He loves to explore the packages I receive. I usually do not let him get involved in the unboxing, so I think he knew this was special. The first thing out of the box was a colorful ball for him to play with. He loves to chase balls and fetch. As I took things out of the box, he jumped inside the box! Then Sid came to see what the fuss was about.
I took out one of the pouches and opened it, immediately they wanted to eat it! They could smell the deliciousness. I had to get their dish and serve it right away, they couldn’t wait! They licked their plate clean and were so happy. It made me happy knowing I was giving them something they enjoyed so much and that it was good for them.
I want to share with you Weruva’s educational tips on how to give your BFF the nutrition they need to thrive like my Diva Cats!
With International Cat Day happening on August 8, and Happy Healthy Cat Month in September, now is the perfect time to address the ‘cat in the room’—and that’s your feline friend’s diet. I’ll be the first to admit my own cat’s diet isn’t ‘purr’fect. Sid’s problem is he loves to eat and even though he doesn’t seem to eat more than my other cats, he is much heavier. He is also very demanding and wants food all the time. I struggled to understand how I could address these issues. But then I realized I wasn’t alone—my cat was just experiencing one of the three most common cat concerns: picky eating, weight gain, and urinary tract issues.
I learned about the Big 3 by partnering with Weruva [http://www.weruva.com/]—a luxurious, natural pet food dubbed “people food for cats” which is launching a full line of gluten, grain, and carrageenan-free cat food in honor of International Cat Day. It’s called B.F.F. OMG! (that stands for Best Feline Friend, Oh My Gravy), and it’s all about preventing these Big 3 Cat Concerns.
If your cat has any of these, you might want to consider changing their diet:
>> Is your cat picky? Picky eating is usually a problem with texture, since cats are carnivores whose tongues and teeth are perfectly evolved for meat-eating. It’s easy to see why a cat might dislike something without real shreds of meat—would you eat a steak with the texture of tapioca? Weruva’s food features these shreds of real meat right off the bone, which is why my cat took to it like a duck to water (or a cat to gravy)!
>> Got a fat cat? Sid doesn’t think he is fat – he is just more huggable and “puffy!” The problem is in the kibble. It’s filled with unnecessary carbs, which are almost impossible for cats to process (they don’t produce amylase, an enzyme which helps humans digest their food). Weruva’s B.F.F. OMG! has no kibble to worry about because it’s 100% real meats in their true form. Sid really enjoys it!
>> UT-why? Urinary tract issues often stem from dehydration—even if you’re giving your cat plenty of water. In the wild, cats stay hydrated through the food they eat instead of what they drink. Cats are used to ‘eating’ their water—but most wet foods don’t have nearly enough hydration to keep them satisfied. All of the products in Weruva’s B.F.F. OMG! line are over 85% hydration, which satisfies my cat’s hydration needs.
I love Weruva products because they are considered ‘people food for pets.’ I love to spoil my cats but I don’t feel comfortable giving them actual people food. I want to give them some chicken or tuna occasionally but I feel guilty about it. I don’t know what is healthy for them. The new line of B.F.F. OMG! cans and pouches feature land proteins like boneless and skinless white chicken breast, salmon, beef, duck, lamb and more. All recipes are grain, gluten, and carrageenan free. And if you are a BPA-free home, check out the pouches because they are are BPA-free. Best of all, my kitties love it!
Health isn’t just for humans, and I’m glad I took the time to learn how to feed my BFF properly. Even better, in the process, I found my kitty’s new favorite food. Sid especially likes Weruva’s Beef & Chicken Dinner in Gravy flavor, which you can read about at http://www.weruva.com/. You can also explore the whole B.F.F. OMG! lineup there, and find a flavor your cat will ‘paw’sitively adore, at Chewy.com
Has your cat experienced one of the Big 3 Cat Concerns? Share your experience in the comments!
If you liked this article and you want to try B.F.F. OMG! Please tell WeRuVa that you heard about it from MizMeliz and use the hashtag #weruvagrade and tag @weruva (Instagram) or @weruvapets (Twitter)

Paying for Perfect Grades with Pills by Joy Stephenson-Laws @_pHLabs

Posted on April 10th, 2017 by & filed under A Year in Bloom, Books, Everything Miz Meliz, Guest Post, Inspiring Adventures

Campus stimulant abuse: Paying for perfect grades with pills

Guest Post By Joy Stephenson-Laws, founder of Proactive Health Labs (pH) and her medical team

Parents are expressing growing shock over the frequency of drug use on American college campuses. And we are not talking about illegal drugs, but legal, prescription ones. Stimulants, commonly prescribed for attention-deficit disorder, are finding their way into the hands of students with perfect mental health. A recent study titled Under Pressure: College Students and the Abuse of Rx Stimulants found that 1 in 5 college students (20 percent) report abusing prescription stimulants at least once.

Why would students take medicine they don’t need?

Many are doing it because they believe it will help them study or outperform their classmates. Stimulants work by getting into the brain and forcing the release of neurotransmitters: dopamine, which increases motivation; serotonin, which improves mood and has a calming effect; and norepinephrine, which creates an activated “fight or flight” brain and cardiovascular response, increasing alertness. Students with prescriptions often sell or give pills to their classmates.

The names of these drugs include:

  •          Adderall (amphetamine)
  •          Vyvanse (Lisdexamfetamine, turns into amphetamine in the body)
  •          Ritalin, Concerta, Metadate, Quillivant (methylphenidate)
  •          Provigil, Nuvigil (modafinil)
  •          Focalin (dexmethylphenidate)

Stimulant drugs are less potent than the stimulant cocaine, but much more potent than caffeine. All share similar side effects such as:

  •          Insomnia
  •          Poor appetite
  •          Digestive problems
  •          High blood pressure
  •          Racing heart
  •          “Crashing” afterward (releasing all those neurotransmitters early has its consequences)
  •          Addiction potential

Certain risk factors for stimulant abuse have been identified in young people. Risk factors include:

  •          Membership in the Greek system (fraternities and sororities)
  •          Having some (but not necessarily all) of the symptoms of ADHD
  •          Alcohol or marijuana use
  •          Academic difficulties

While many students who abuse stimulants are indeed healthy, some of them may actually be suffering from undiagnosed ADHD and “self-medicating” with stimulants as well as alcohol and marijuana.

Parents and students can work to prevent unnecessary use of stimulants. Colleges do not want to create an environment where “everyone” needs to use stimulants to keep up. It may be important to identify nutritional deficiencies that may lead to ADHD. Such deficiencies can be uncovered by appropriate testing. Optimizing exercise, nutrition and sleep always enhances cognitive performance, while getting prompt professional evaluation for any persistent difficulties studying can catch ADHD, depression or other mental difficulties early so that students can get help rather than rely on the dorm “drug dealer.”

Enjoy Your Healthy Life!

The pH professional health care team includes recognized experts from a variety of health care and related disciplines, including physicians, health care attorneys, nutritionists, nurses and certified fitness instructors. To learn more about the pH Health Care Team, click here.

Joy Stephenson-Laws is the founder of Proactive Health Labs (pH), a revolutionary health care company that provides tools needed to achieve optimal health. Her new book, Minerals – The Forgotten Nutrient: Your Secret Weapon for Getting and Staying Healthy [Proactive Health Labs, Inc., 2016] is available through Amazon or wherever books are sold. All proceeds from the book will be donated to The Bili Project Foundation, an organization devoted to reducing the incident and improve the outcome of Hepatobilary cancers, which are cancers of the liver, gallbladder, or bile ducts.  Connect with Proactive Health Labs on Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram, Pinterest, Goodreads, and at www.phlabs.org.

 

Note from Miz Meliz:

I have the pleasure of interviewing Joy Stephenson-Laws on Inspiring Adventures with Miz Meliz on May 23, 2017! Please join us to learn more about her book, her life, and what inspires her on her journey! See it on BubblrMedia on Facebook.com/MizMelizLA

This article was provided by and posted with permission from Smith Publicity for the purpose of promotion and review of the book by Joy Stephenson-Laws. I received a copy of the book for review purposes. I am not being paid for the review or interview. All opinions are my own. Please see my disclosure statement for details on why I post articles like these on my blog. Thanks!

Interview with Raychel Kubby Adler author of Life in Asymmetry @tweet4wellness

Posted on December 13th, 2016 by & filed under

Raychel Kubby Adler

Tuesday, December 13, 2016 6:00 PM Pacific Time

Join me for an interview with the inspiring Raychel Kubby Adler, as she shares her story with me on Tinsel Town Live.

Raychel loves to swim, see live music, exercise, play with her kids and family, enjoy time with friends, read, dance, laugh and live a hopeful life.

lia-cover-picI am looking forward to talking with her a bit about her recently published memoir, Life in Asymmetry, which is about her experience living with genetic breast cancer.

Raychel has a masters degree in Public Health and has been a health educator since 2000.  She is a certified Wellness Coach and fitness instructor and loves to talk about how to live life to the fullest. (My kind of gal!)

Let me know if you have aby questions for Raychel about:

  • health/wellness
  • genetic cancer
  • living a hopeful life
  • parenting
  • breast cancer “previving”

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Connect with Raychel Here:

Web          www.raychelkubbyadler.com

Tweet        @tweet4wellness

Instgrama          @choicepointwellness

Facebook   RaychelKubbyAdler.Writer

In “Life in Asymmetry,” author Raychel Kubby Adler educates women on the steps they can take to prevent or overcome breast cancer, especially if they have rare genetic mutations. Kubby Adler uses personal experiences, scientific research and genetic science to show what happens when your genes make you highly susceptible to breast cancer and other diseases.
Kubby Adler is the holder of the BRCA2 gene mutation, “previvor” of cancer and spends much of her professional and personal life researching health risks and educating the population about them.

Interview with Dr. Margaret Rutherford on Perfectly Hidden Depression @doctor_margaret

Posted on November 8th, 2016 by & filed under

Dr. Margaret Rutherford

Health/Wellness, Mental Health, Depression

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Tuesday, November 8, 2016 6:00 PM Pacific Time

margaret-rutherford-2I came across Dr. Rutherford on Instagram of all places! I reached out to her and found that I could relate to what she was saying and I wanted to know more. I am honored that she agreed to talk with me on my show, Tinsel Town Live – she is a shining star because she gives hope to people who are suffering from a silent state of depression and anguish. Her work will change lives and relationships. She inspires me and I am looking forward to hearing her story.

I asked Dr. Rutherford to tell me about her work:

“I’ve been researching and writing about a syndrome, or group of behaviors that can be typically found together, I call Perfectly Hidden Depression. It’s not a diagnosis, per se, but a way of identifying an entirely different experience of depression, one that can be misdiagnosed or missed by mental health professionals. The people who experience it are highly driven, they have lots of friends, they’re caring and involved, they believe in counting their blessings. But somehow, along the way, they’ve learned to not admit or reveal pain. And so they hide depression that can eventually lead them to suicidal thinking. The loneliness and exhaustion can become intolerable.”

Dr. Margaret Rutherford is a clinical psychologist who’s been in practice for over 20 years in Fayetteville, Arkansas. Thus far, her work on PHD(perfectly hidden depression) has appeared on The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, Psychologies (UK), The Mighty, Midlife Boulevard, Better After 50, and Sixty and Me, either through posts or interviews.

Meet Dr. Rutherford on Tinsel Town Live with Miz Meliz and Connect with her here:

Website is http://drmargaretrutherford.com

Email: askdrmargaret@drmargaretrutherford.com

Twitter: @doctor_margaret

Facebook: https://facebook.com/drmargaretrutherford

Dr. Margaret Rutherford, Clinical Psychologist/Author
Helping You Believe In Yourself
p:479-443-3413 | e:askdrmargaret@drmargaretrutherford.com | w:http://DrMargaretRutherford.com a: 202 North Locust, Fayetteville AR 72701
      

 

 

Actively Practicing Patience as I Gaze into My Crystal Ball by Melissa Reyes

Posted on March 17th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Intentional, Life Coaching, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

Patience, patience.

I believe that patience can be the same thing as trust. Trust and faith seem to go hand in hand as well. What does it all mean?

It is about releasing control, isn’t it?

“Patience may not be flashy, but it is crucial to well-being and effectiveness.

And it’s not something only the Dalai Lama can do (i.e. notions of certain people having the “patience of a saint”). Patience is what modern psychological and brain science would support and it’s what you can do while you’re waiting for the next thing—the end of the meeting, your driveway at the conclusion of a long commute home from work, the salivation and smell of dinner served, the anticipation of a lofty goal’s attainment, and then sleep before dreams of a weekend’s diversions.” ~Mitch AbblettMindful.org

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Mitch Abblett calls it “what you can do while you are waiting for the next thing.” I don’t know about you, but no matter how much I try I am never successful at speeding up time or making things happen using my mental abilities. No, just thinking about things and hoping they will work out when I want them to and how I want them to, just never seems to happen for me. So, what can I do to get better at not spending my time worrying, wondering, waiting, and stressing out about “the next thing?”

How can I practice patience, actively? Trust. Faith. Hope. Patience. These are positive, yet  passive mental activities. Aren’t they?

Let me see. I will look in my crystal ball and tell you exactly what will happen next. Hold on a moment.

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Are you still waiting? This could take a while. And, I do not guarantee accuracy in my forecast.

My crystal ball says, come back tomorrow

Wow, that could be frustrating, huh?! I am not out of my mind, I don’t even have a crystal ball, nor would I know how to use one if I did. But, you see what I mean, right? That’s what passive patience entails. Waiting for the unknown to happen – for who knows how long – and not having any guarantee that it will happen at all. No wonder we always have to be reminded to be patient! No wonder it isn’t a built in process.

I just sighed. I am now taking a long slow deep breath. I relaxed my shoulders. I was getting worked up because it seems difficult when it should be easy. It is very easy. Here is what we can do. (Get that? Active. Action. Positive. Motion. Together.) Here is what WE CAN DO:

Instead of waiting patiently, BE PATIENT.

Instead of hoping for the best, BE HOPEFUL.

Instead of gazing into the future trusting that things will be okay in the end, BELIEVE GOOD THINGS ARE HAPPENING NOW.

Instead of always leaving it up to the Universe or God, with blind faith, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.

 

You are resilient.

You are accepting.

You are a miracle.

You are Awesome.

 

Even when you are waiting.

Even when you don’t have the answers.

Even when you are afraid. alone. tired. weak. 

Even when nothing makes sense.

 

Love this moment, right now.

Love who you are.

Love everything you ever were.

Love everything you have yet to do, see, and be.

 

Trust Me.

Believe Me.

Never Give Up.

Be Patient.

 

Kerry Tressler on Ten Minutes in Tinsel Town @CocaCola #TenMiniTT @TenMinitt

Posted on May 18th, 2015 by & filed under #SPARKLE Tinsel Town Tonight Interviews, Connecting People, Everything Miz Meliz, TenMiniTT 2015

I think we must be kindred spirits, soul sisters, or perhaps we are just two nice people with some common interests. I am not sure how it happened or why, but when I first “met” Kerry through an email we connected quickly and easily. (Disclosure-this is not an ad. This post is not sponsored.)

A #TenMiniTT Tinsel Town Tale with Kerry Tressler  @CocaCola on Ten Minutes in Tinsel Town with Miz Meliz @TenMiniTT

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Her kind and generous nature put me at ease when I first met with Kerry Tressler at Sol Cocina in Scottsdale, Arizona. We happened to be in the same place at the same time, so we met for lunch just to get to know each other. That was so much fun and most unexpected.

photo by Melissa Reyes copyright Feb 2015 for mizmeliz.com

Melissa Reyes and Kerry Tressler

We became pals on Facebook and we swap stories now and then of fab restos we eat at and parties we get to attend. We exchange “likes” and support each other through social media. I admire that she has a position within a huge company where she can help people and make a difference in our world.  Kerry inspires me to be more involved within my community. She encourages me and somehow, in some way, I feel like she gets me. I look forward to interviewing her and learning more about what makes Kerry Tressler a total rock star! I have a feeling you will love her as much as I do!

Kerry and I will discuss her job in general, and what she is currently working on – a new national campaign called Mixify that aims to help teens and their families balance what they eat, drink and do to lead active, healthy lives. This project is part of Coca-Cola’s Balance Calories initiative.

You bet we will be talking about this! Coca-Cola’s Mad Men Connection

A Few Things I Know About Kerry

Kerry likes to travel. She enjoys playing with her dogs, Bailey and Ruff, two West Highland Terriers she calls her 4 legged furry babies. Sampling her husband’s homemade cuisine rocks her world. She likes to swim.  One of the things she is most passionate about is her love of all things, “Coca-Cola!”

Kerry is the Director of Public Affairs & Communications for The Coca-Cola Company. She has worked for the Company across many roles for more than 12 years. Not only does she love their products, but she is incredibly proud to work for a Company that is so involved in the communities where they do business.

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You can connect with Kerry via her email at ketressler@coca-cola.com

When in Hollywood, you might see her at her favorite place to hang out and eat…

Barney’s Beanery!

What do you think will be Kerry’s Tinsel Town Tale?

Join me for my LIVE BROADCAST of Ten Minutes in Tinsel Town with Miz Meliz on Tuesday, May 19th at 5:00 p.m. (or watch the playback FREE on Spreecast for a limited time.)

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Miz Meliz Newz #Oscars2015 @MommyCanRun @TenMiniTT #LBNC15

Posted on February 22nd, 2015 by & filed under #SPARKLE Tinsel Town Tonight Interviews, Events, Everything Miz Meliz, Miz Meliz Newz Update, TenMiniTT 2015

Miz Meliz Newz Update

What a Week!

20150219_130018I met with author and parent educator, Roma Khetarpal on Monday. I attended a taping of celebrity chef, Aarti Sequeira’s new show 10 Minute Meals in her Los Angeles home on Thursday. I visited Vanity Fair’s Social Club in Hollywood. I went to the VIP Kick Off Cocktail Party at the Citadel Outlets for the Lifestyle Bloggers National Conference 2015, and met my colleagues at the conference on Saturday at Maker City L.A’s the Reef. Saturday night I interviewed blogger and health enthusiast, Laura Lohr for Ten Minutes in Tinsel Town.

And it’s not over yet! Tonight is the Oscar Awards! I will be attending the M.E.N.D.”Hollywood’s Biggest Night” Red Carpet, and Academy Awards Telecast, Gala Event with Gourmet Dinner by Wolfgang Puck Catering. Check out my LIVE Tweets and Instagram for updates during the Oscars.

Ten Minutes in Tinsel Town

20150221_102014See this episode of the Ten Minutes in Tinsel Town Live video-podcast with my special guest from San Diego, blogger and health enthusiast, Laura Lohr from LauraLohr.com and @MommyCanRun

We just got back from attending the Lifestyle Bloggers National Conference in Downtown L.A. and we review the conference and it’s amazing coveted gift bag (aka SWAG – stuff we all get.)

I enjoyed hanging out the past few days with Laura and learning more about this incredible lady! We talked about training for marathons, setting goals, what we are passionate about, the Magic Castle in Hollywood, and so much more – including some blogging and SEO tips.
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Lifestyle Bloggers National Conference

20150221_125510Yesterday, I attended the Lifestyle Bloggers National Conference and on Thursday I went to the Kick Off Cocktail Party that started the event. See my photos and check out Tweets about the event using the hashtag #LBNC15. If you were there, Tweet me and introduce yourself so I can follow you!

Tweet this: Hi MizMeliz! I loved the Lifestyle Bloggers Nat’l Conference #LBNC15

20150221_125925This is my 3rd (of five annual) Lifestyle Bloggers conference I have attended that was organized by Ana Lydia Monaco of Coco Blog, the founder of the Latina Lifestyles Blogger Collective. Each one gets better and better. It is a place to meet up with friends and make new ones – which is a really great feeling and much better quality experience than regular old networking. The education and valuable input that I receive at this conference has shaped me and my blog over the years. This is one conference not to miss!

Vanity Fair Campaign Hollywood 2015

20150219_175217Thursday was a busy day for Miz Meliz! I had a few hours in between two appointments, so while I was in the city, I decided to stop by the Vanity Fair Social Club. I checked in, got my VIP pass and found a chair to sit and rest my feet while I watched all the fancy people hustle and hob nob. A very glamorous style diva was sitting in the same area busy on her phone and tablet. Just as I observered her, wondering who she was, she introduced herself to me. It was Heidi Nazarudin of TheAmbittionista.com and co-founder of BloggerBabes…just the person I hoped to meet!

I was sorry I missed hanging out at the Vanity Fair Social Club with some of my favorite bloggers who also checked in this week, Mary Lansing of Along Comes Mary Blog, Valerie Mitchell of Sweeps4Bloggers, and Lizza Morales of My Life as Lizza, all of whom I know through So Cal Lady Bloggers. Yet, as usual, we connected and shared the experience through social media.

My favorite things about #VFSC that took place in Hollywood @WeWork February 16th through today, February 22nd just in time for the Oscars – was the photo booth and the Twitter Vending Machine. But that is only because it was all I had time for during my “layover.” It was designed for just that purpose. VFSC is the “weeklong social suite for influencers, it is a hot spot where invited guests can drop by, plug in, and experience Vanity Fair’s Campaign Hollywood.” I really wanted to attend the panel discussions, presentations, and hosted happy hours sponsored by @armanibeauty @chrysler @clarisonic, @greygoose @lancomeusa and @lorealparisusa that were planned throughout the week leading up to the Oscars, but a busy girl like me has to take what she can get. And what I got was a new friend in Heidi.

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READ MORE about Vanity Fair Hollywood’s road to the Oscars, including predictions at VanityFair.com <<Tweet it!

 

10 Minute Meals with Aarti Sequeira

20150219_151100Also on Thursday, I had the unique opportunity to meet the celebrity chef, Aarti Sequeira, for an intimate look inside her home in her own kitchen as she and her husband shot their new OwnZones.com show, 10 Minute Meals. They were both such gracious hosts and I really enjoyed getting to know them. I am looking forward to reading Aarti’s book, Aarti’s Paarti An American Kitchen with an Indian Soul and interviewing her soon on an upcoming episode of my show, Ten Minutes in Tinsel Town.

20150219_145905I was really taken with this beautiful couple and their little girl. They have made a unique balance of art, cooking, and home life that has spirit and exudes friendship, inclusivity, and peace. I will be writing more about Aarti and her family as well as sharing a few of her secrets to making delicious meals in ten minutes! Unlike Ten Minutes in Tinsel Town – which is never just 10 minutes, Aarti and Brendan do manage to show you how you can make a great meal in just a few minutes. They know what it is like to be a busy family on the go!

The Perfect Parent

I started out this week by meeting up with author and parenting educator, Roma Khetarpal. I am currently reading her book, The “Perfect” Parent 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids. I am amazed at how well I connected with Roma’s philosophies and have used many of her suggestions as a means to communicate with my husband and children over the past 20 years. Roma and I became instant friends and I invited her to be on Ten Minutes in Tinsel Town as well. Look for that episode and a review of Roma’s book on MizMeliz.com in the coming weeks.

tools of growthIf you would like to meet Roma, she will be speaking on Thursday, February 26 from 6pm – 7pm at the Whole Foods in Valencia for a workshop and book signing. RSVP on her Facebook Page, Tools of Growth.

Well, I am out of time for today! I gotta go get glammed up for my Red Carpet appearance at Universal Studios’ Globe Theater for the M.E.N.D. Oscar Party.

Have a great a night in Hollywood @MENDPOVERTY #Oscars2015 

^Tweet it!^

 

 

Fall is Here! Time to Check in on My Goals Bingo #14in2014

Posted on September 24th, 2014 by & filed under Discoveries, Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe

The third quarter of 2014 has ended. Fall is here!

It is time to check in on my goals.

2014-06-12 18.04.33This year I made a BINGO card for all the things that I hope to achieve. My goal is to get at least one bingo for the year.  Since I am participating in the Valentine RD’s #14in2014 Goals/Resolutions/Intentions Link-upI am committed to checking in every quarter to see how I am doing. So far, this has been a great way to stay on track with my goals.

I have been so busy that this quarter came up fast! No time to cram for the deadline and try and get bingo. So, this is the real deal.

Here is where I stand:

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I came pretty close to getting a BINGO by doing some of the things in each of the categories. I know it would take an incredible amount of organization and focus to literally do all of the things I listed on my card in three months, even a year – consistently. But that was not the point. I tried to include as many things as possible that I wanted to accomplish and my hope was to be more consistent with many of the things I never get around to do. Checking in every three months is great because I can see which areas of my life that I have possibly been neglecting.

Over the past three months I have not paid much attention to reading or my life coaching practice. I will make those things a priority for the end of the year. It is a good time to shift my focus actually, because many people seek coaching around the holidays. I might be able to get a lot of that writing and reading done, see some clients and even publish a little book online before Christmas.

On the last quarter check in, I told you about the 100 Day Promise. I am in the final ten days of the program. It has been so rewarding and I have learned so much! The biggest take away is that I have determined my one true core desire, the thing that I most want for myself. It is my desire to honor my promise by putting into practice the things that bring me joy, energy and vitality. As long as I make that my focus, I know I am on the right track. Yes, it took three months to come to that conclusion – because it was about shedding all the things that I thought I wanted, should want, should be, should do. I got to the core of what really matters to me. Now I am free to be who I am meant to be. It feels so good!

100 Day Promise

You might be thinking, yeah – that’s easy to say. But, what does it mean?

It means that in the past three months:

  • I was in a group that I checked in with every single day to share what we were going through.
  • I completed a weekly module (aka homework!) where I read, asked questions, answered questions, created artwork, watched videos, listened to guided meditations and did a lot of soul searching and self reflection.
  • I participated in a monthly group discussion with people who called in from all over the world, all 50 of us on the same journey, lead by our coach, Sandi Amorim, and shared our stories and asked the major questions. I discovered that even though we all had varying goals and were at different stages of our lives, we all search for the same thing. Ultimately, we all want happiness, and the feeling of fulfillment.
  • During the course, I developed many good habits. Some may seem trivial, but they all are part of a bigger commitment.

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In case you are interested in the actions I am taking to honor my promise…

I now make my bed every day. I never realized how starting the day with doing this simple task would bring me so much joy. It wakes me up as I do it, so I feel a little more refreshed in the morning. I like that my room is neat when I leave it. I love to relax when I get home from work and having a nicely made bed makes a big difference. My children have noticed that I have been keeping my room tidy and that I make my bed. This is something I never did before. It seemed like a chore. I have noticed that the habit has helped me to feel free to do other things and I don’t feel guilty about having a messy room. (Bingo!)

I drink 3-4 glasses of water every day. I at the very least drink water in the morning before coffee, and at night before bed. I have been drinking water instead of soda at lunch time most days, too. I hope to keep up this practice even after the dry hot weather subsides. I feel refreshed and hydrated. It makes a big difference in how I feel and I think it has contributed to improving my health and energy levels. (Bingo!)

I am eating salads for lunch almost every day instead of getting fast food. This is a huge shift in my routine. I also try to eat nuts, fruit, and vegetables more.  Making these healthy choices contributes to my overall health and vitality. (Bingo!)

I have started a routine of going for walks every Monday with a neighbor. We walk about three miles and it takes an hour. It has been a wonderful way to increase my energy, get my blood pumping, burn some calories, and have some great conversations with a friend. No cell phones or Facebook allowed on our walks! I have lost a few pounds and I feel great! (Bingo!)

Best of all, I started a video podcast talk show! That’s right! It was part of my promise to do something that brings me joy, and this is something I have always wanted to do. It is fun and in line with all of my core values for my blog, my writing, and coaching. It supports my quest to continue learning and growing. I get to interact with other people that I interview. I have an easy and fun format that allows me to be at my very best while I am having loads of fun. This project has been quite fulfilling. You know something is really good when everything falls into place easily. One day a few months ago, Alecia Lawrence was interviewing me for her daily podcast. I told her that I always wanted to do a weekly show. She challenged me when she asked what’s stopping me. There was no reason not to start. I am so glad I did! I have recorded seven episodes so far. When I have ten, they are going up on iTunes and I will be official! For now, you can find them on You Tube and here on MizMeliz.com. If you want to be a guest on my show, Ten Minutes in Tinsel Town, contact me at mizmeliz@yahoo.com. (B-I-N-G-O!)

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Besides the BINGO card, I also listed some major goals that I hoped to accomplish in 2014:

  • Publish another book – I have a big announcement on this! Hopefully at the end of the year I can tell you all about it! (Bingo!)
  • Move to a new home – we did this in June, and couldn’t be happier. It is a big weight lifted from our shoulders. My husband, kids and I are settled in our new digs. (Bingo!)
  • Keep my blood sugar levels (A1C) within normal range – Over the summer months I had a big problem with this. Around my birthday I could not control my willpower, I let my guard down and got seriously off track. I had birthday cake and desserts, and on top of it, I was eating a lot of summer fruits. The watermelon really did me in! I experienced the worst pain ever. I have had small bouts with Diabetic nerve pain in the past, so I know when I feel those sparks and shooting pain in my legs and tingling in my feet that I need to take it easy. But this was pure Hell! It really almost wiped me out. One more day and I was going to go to the ER. I did everything I could think of to reduce the aches and pain and alleviate the tingling sensation from my nerves. Finally, it took it’s course and I have been diligent to not over do it with the sugar since. I hope that never happens again! (Noooo bingo.)
  • Not gain weight – good news! Since I started the 100 Day Promise, I lost 5 1/2 pounds! The key was to not weigh myself for six weeks. It was nice to see a difference on the scale when I did. This proves that all the little changes I have made are working. Making healthy choices and maintaining good habits will contribute to my overall well being, health and energy! (Bingo!)
  • Help my son apply to college (yeah, my 2nd son is at that stage!) – This is a huge thing for me. I want to help him and give him some independence and accountability at the same time. It was stressing him out, so we have an appointment with the college counselor. Our son’s grades are up and he is doing very well in school. He has decided on a major, that is a big step in the right direction. My hope is to make this experience stress free and even exciting for him. The world is wide open and even though he can’t do ANYTHING he wants, there are countless opportunities for him. By December, we should know more. (Very close…. almost bingo.)

 I am happy, very happy, with all my accomplishments so far this year. I have discovered many new things and I have learned something about myself.

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Have you made any discoveries this year?

What has been your best accomplishment so far?

Are you on track to achieve your goals for 2014?

What makes you feel fulfilled?

 

Let Kindness Define You #keepitkind @humankindness

Posted on June 26th, 2014 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz

Let Kindness Define You

by Melissa Reyes
June 25, 2014

#keepitkind #hellohumankindness @humankindness
This is a sponsored post (see Disclosure for details.)

Do you get inspired by worldwide sporting events?

I do. I think it is neat when a big sports event brings people together. In the U.S. we love the Superbowl. It is practically a holiday. It is one day. But what I love even more, is the camaraderie that comes from international competition. Like the Olympics and the World Cup. Everyone is cheering for their team and their country. I see it so much via social media. Especially Facebook. There is so much pride in showing team spirit. Healthy competition is good for the soul. I love when everyone is talking about it. We are all in it together. The World seems a little bit smaller. We are more unified.

Not long ago I wrote about the Rise & Smile ap from Dignity Health and HelloHumanKindness.com  Dignity Health is a strong believer that kindness helps people heal. People making connections, either through social media or in person, is so important to our health. We need each other. There would be no competition, no team spirit, no home field pride, if we didn’t have each other.photo by Melissa Reyes http://mizmeliz.com copyright 2013

Do you get emotional when you see or hear the human interest stories during the Olympics or other National sport competitions like World Cup Soccer?

I sure do! It’s my favorite part of following sports. The stories of how hard someone worked or the obstacles that they faced to get to be a world class athlete are so touching. Everyone is talking about it. Dignity Health is looking to join the global conversation.

Dignity Health is on a mission to inspire and spread human kindness. As one of the nation’s largest health care providers, they have witnessed firsthand the power that human connection and kindness has to help people heal. Because of this, they have been promoting acts of human kindness beyond just the health care industry – in our homes, schools, workplaces, neighborhoods, and communities.

As the World Cup moves into the spotlight, Dignity Health is partnering with social media and blogs to remind people of our universal humanity amidst international competition. Through this common ground and pride, where we all can relate to each other and be inspired by each other, Dignity Health makes it their mission to remind people of the healing power of kindness that is within and all around them.photo by Melissa Reyes http://mizmeliz.com copyright 2013

How often have you witnessed an instance when kindness shined through during a competition or game between rivals?

We have all seen instances where an athlete gets injured on the playing field during a game and a member from the opposing team helps him to the sidelines. It’s heartwarming. My son told me that his high school football coach always said to offer a hand to help a guy up after you’ve knocked him down. This may be a good philosophy that helped them get to and win the championship. Is it strategy, or basic human kindness?

Both as fans and athletes, sports challenge us physically and mentally. They help us connect with one another and teach us new things about ourselves. We’d like you to write a blog post about a personal observation you’ve experienced where humanity and kindness trump rivalry.

As my youngest son loves to say,

“Challenge accepted!”

When HelloHumanKindness.org came to me with this request, my mind started wandering through memories of watching my kids growing up on the playing fields…photo by Melissa Reyes http://mizmeliz.com copyright 2013

Moms of athletes will know what I mean by this.

I have thought about this quite a bit and I was reminded of a few things that have happened with my children over the years. I am not an athlete, but when it comes to sports related experiences, I have observed quite a few. I have three sons and they all play sports. None as dedicated as my oldest son who played lacrosse and football all four years of high school.

I remember it quite vividly. My son was standing on the sidelines near the end of a really tough game of varsity lacrosse. I always kept my eyes on him when he played. It was hard to keep up with the game and score, but I was just there to watch him anyway. Lucky for me, or I might have missed seeing this and it led to me learning a valuable lesson.

“When you judge another, you do not define them. You define yourself.” ~Wayne Dyer

I watched as my son was talking to the referee. They were having a pretty animated discussion from what I could see from the stands. I was worried that he was getting chewed out for a penalty move or something bad. I thought he was going to be very grumpy on the way home. Tough games like that and being critiqued stays in your head a long time after the game. My sons tend to internalize and do not like to discuss what happens on the field with me.photo by Melissa Reyes copyright 2013 http://mizmeliz.com

What did he do wrong?

It turned out that he knew the referee from other games and had gotten to know him a little over the years. When I asked my son what they were talking about he told me that the ref was asking him about where he was going to college and if he was going to play lacrosse at the college level. He said that he had always been very kind to him. It humbled me for thinking it had to be bad since the referee was talking to him for so long and that it hadn’t occurred to me in all that time that a referee would take interest in the boys that they supervised. Surely this man had seen my son grow over the years. He was a mentor for him. He was very kind to my son, and for that I am grateful.

The referee modeled how a good person should be around young people. He was encouraging and helpful. I had been pretty hard on the referees during the game, always concerned about bad calls and missed penalties. That is a typical attitude to have towards the referees. Although revered, they often get a bad reputation in most sports. When we want so badly for our children to experience success and for all of their achievements to be noticed and recognized – we blame the ones whose job it is to point out their faults. I never stopped to think of the referee as an individual who could be influential in my son’s life other than to reprimand him. I learned so much from talking to my son about it that day.photo copyright Melissa Reyes 2013 http://mizmeliz.com

I will never forget the kindness of the coaches, referees, trainers, and team parents who were there for my sons.

This was a case of when kindness trumped rivalry for my son and for me. The coaches and referees may seem unapproachable, yet they are the best people to talk to and not just about sports. My son reminded me that many of the referees are retired coaches whose children have grown and they often volunteer to come back for the love of the game.

For the love of the game. To connect with other people who love the game. To promote togetherness and spread human kindness.

What about you?

Have you experienced or observed an act of kindness that trumped rivalry? What can you do to help spread human kindness?

The hellohumankindness project, started by Dignity Health, is all about helping people to heal through the inspirational power of being kind to one another.

 

We are Dignity Health, believers in the healing power of kindness.
 
What do we mean by “Hello humankindness”? It starts with the proven idea that human connection, be it physical, verbal, or otherwise, leads to better health. That’s why it’s at the heart of everything we do at Dignity Health. We’re determined to bring more humanity into health care. So join us in our mission to create, discover, and celebrate the humankindness around us. Maybe we can make this world a little healthier and happier together.
 
Hello humankindness.

 

I invite you to share your story!

Use the hashtag #keepitkind so others can learn form your experiences. Say “Hello HumanKindness” and inspire others to celebrate the kindness all around us.

You can learn more about the Human Kindness Project at hellohumankindness.org

photo courtesy of Christopher Taylor Lopez Photography copyright 2013

*Dignity Health believes that humanity holds the power to help people heal through being kind. This is a sponsored post from Dignity Health, HelloHumanKindness.com and InNetwork.net (Disclosure.) All opinions are my own.

**Thanks to the Tiny Buddha for the quote by Wayne Dyer. Read more about first impressions at http://tinybuddha.com/quotes/tiny-wisdom-judging-by-first-impressions/

 

 

Sparking my Awesome in 2013 #ReReRe

Posted on December 31st, 2012 by & filed under Be Inspired, Everything Miz Meliz

Before I can really get going in planning for 2013, I want to take a look back at 2012.  Here is a review of my greatest successes in 2012 in five key areas:

Finances

Financially speaking, it was a solid year.  I managed to do some fun things with my cash flow.  I am still living paycheck to paycheck, but I am not in any more debt than I was at this time last year.  Based on everything that I have happening in my family dynamic right now, in this economy, staying afloat is a good place to be.

I made a few “investments” this year.  I was able to pay for and complete a course on Life Coaching which will enable me to help others and help me increase my income in the future.  My hubby bought a mountain bike and if he rides it, it will pay for itself in place of a gym membership, that is an investment – especially for his health!  I leased a new car for my son, this was an important financial decision based on safety and peace of mind and replaced the old car that couldn’t pass the smog test.  My hubby and I managed to go away for a weekend here and there.  I believe that having a respite is a great investment for our relationship!  We joined a bowling league with two of our sons.  With having to pay fees for four people every week, it gets costly.  I look at it as another great investment because it was a nice way to spend quality family time and get out for some physical activity.  We indulged a bit here and there, but I consider that as investing in our quality of life.

Perhaps my priorities are a bit skewed since I really should have used the money that I spent on a new flat screen TV for the bedroom to pay down debt, but heck I am an American living the dream, so I am glad I did it.

As I am working on this, I feel like such a financial failure! Since I practice positivity, I am trying to glean some upbeat financial successes, but they will not compare at all to a anyone who actually had a financial gain. But in looking back at this key area of my life I have made a discovery. I recognize a pattern.  I do the same things each and every year.  It is not a surprise that my financial situation never improves. I am not doing a thing to improve it.  I need to consider this strongly in making my goals for 2013.

Relationships

In reflecting on my relationships this past year, I feel good about them.  My marriage is in it’s happy place.  We celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary this April.  I have everything right now that I hoped for when I got married.  My husband has given me a family, a home, and a bright future to look forward to.  What more could a girl want?  That is what I wanted when I was a girl.  Now, as I emerge as a woman and my children are growing and my home needs a lot of work I wonder what will happen in the next twenty years.  I have some ideas!  Luckily, he is game!  The number one success in my relationship has always been great communication.  We talk things through and when we don’t agree with each other, we accept and move forward.  My relationship with my hubby is my number one priority.

I have made a lot of new friends this year.  I have also reignited and strengthened relationships with old friends and family.  I have let a few relationships fall to the back burner.  I may let it stew a bit longer before I open up that pot!  But I won’t ever let the relationship boil away or burn what is left.  I can always spice it up and give it some attention and put some life back into it, right?  Relationships worth having can always be mended.

Health

Physically speaking, suffice it to say that I am still alive.  I am not better or worse off than last year.  I have written a lot about my health and my ailments lately.  I am working on it. I did next to nothing to improve my fitness level this year.  I started a few things.  I failed miserably at this.

I don’t feel healthy and I have very low energy.  I hope to get that back in 2013.  My son asked me recently if I ever wanted to go skiing again.  I told him I would love to, but my back starts hurting after an hour of shopping at the mall!  How would I be able to ski for a day without feeling miserable?  I can start “training” now to get in shape and be able to ski with my kids next year.  That goal restores the motivation I need to get moving and make healthy choices.

Intellect

Intellectually speaking, I am on top of my game!  This year, I completed a course online for life coaching, attended a conference for blogging, wrote on the blog an average of three times a week, and participated in daily discussions on topics ranging from birth experiences to the afterlife!

One test that I give myself from time to time is checking the dictionary for definitions of words that I use in my writing.  I score myself an A+ every time I use an uncommon word and apply it correctly.  I have never missed a meaning completely.  Once this year, I was glad I checked because I was using the wrong spelling of a word which would not have made sense in that context.  As a writer, to be understood is valued highly.  I have been doing what I can to make sure that I convey what I am thinking clearly.  That is the ultimate success for me.

Spirituality

Spiritually, I have looked deep into my heart and and I realize that I am whole and centered in my beliefs.  I have faith in God and I love praying to the Virgin Mary to intercede for me.  I appreciate my Catholic upbringing and I am proud to share that with my husband and glad that we are passing it on to our kids.  I did not attend Mass regularly in 2012.  There are many reasons for that and I am not ready to share them yet.  I will look at that more closely in 2013.

I plan to attend Mass more often especially because one of my sons will be making his Confirmation this year.  I love going to Mass, singing, praying, receiving communion and spending time with my community.  What I love most about belonging to a loving community is the care that I can give and receive from other people who share my beliefs.  I have learned that I have a similar experience with people of all faiths on Facebook and through my blog.

All people can feel that sense of belonging, love, and care.    I thoroughly enjoy that and it brings me peace.  However, physically being in the arms of my loved ones is something that I miss and hope to participate in regularly going forward.

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a borrowed picture, source unknown at this time

In the spirit of “Sparking My Awesome in 2013” I plan to write more posts on my blog that are from my heart.  I created a new category, “Tell Me Something Good.”  This is where I will post my thoughts on the subjects that I have been contemplating during the month of December.  Here are some of them:

Peace
Creativity
Relationships
Growth
Healing
Forgiveness
Confidence
Love
Acceptance
Empowerment
Happiness
Excellence
Challenges
Life
Honor
Kindness
Compassion
Optimism
Gratitude
Simplicity
Perspective
Grace
Insight
Trust
Awareness

These are the topics I hope to explore and share with you.  With every post, I plan to ask you to reflect on the subject and give me your insights in a positive way.  I will ask you to please,

Tell Me Something Good. . .

I look forward to sharing my positivity this year with everyone that I encounter!

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