friendship

Friendship Sink or Swim

Posted on November 7th, 2017 by & filed under Be Inspired, Everything Miz Meliz, Theme of the Week

Do you trust your BFF? Will she let you drown or throw you a life-jacket? Are you the anchor in the relationship or the buoy? Don’t just float around in your relationships. Be the friend you would want to have. Be willing to share your best qualities. Show kindness and patience. Be honest and forgiving. Remember to be your own best friend. Listen to your heart. Don’t reject the kindness of others.

Hear my thoughts on my podcast, and check back at the end of the week for an update when I add more to the discussion from the Anchor app: iTunes

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The affirmation is a reminder to be the kind of friend you would want, not only to others, but to yourself.

SPOOKY TINSEL TOWN TALES with Joe Moe @GoJoeMoeGo #Halloween #TenMiniTT @TENMINITT

Posted on October 30th, 2014 by & filed under #SPARKLE Tinsel Town Tonight Interviews, Everything Miz Meliz, See the Video on YouTube, Subscribe to MizMeliz on iTunes

Interview with My Good Friend, Horror Expert, Joe Moe

Spooky Tinsel Town Tales

a Very Special Halloween Episode

of Ten Minutes in Tinsel Town

I am thrilled to death to have as my Halloween Special Guest, a real life Hollywood horror expert!

jmJoe Moe is an expert in horror having been a published writer, producer and designer of films and having worked in special FX makeup. He was best friend and caretaker of the late Forrest J. Ackerman, who is best known as the world’s greatest private collector of memorabilia from horror films, science fiction epics, and monster movies.

Joe really knows his stuff! Like other “Monster Kids” like Steven Spielberg, Tim Burton, Peter Jackson, Stephen King, John Landis, Ray Bradbury and many more, Joe was inspired at an early age by Famous Monsters of Filmland magazine. He currently promotes a national horror convention called Mad Monster and he is the editor in chief of Mad Monster magazine. Joe edits the retro issues of Famous Monsters of Filmland magazine and the auction catalog for Profiles in History, the leading auction house for movie memorabilia.

View this special thirteenth episode of Ten Minutes in Tinsel Town…if, you dare!

See me in my Halloween costume as my daydreaming spirit takes me to another realm…

Joe and I discuss horror from classic literature and how it has influenced writers of today’s scary movies.

Joe shares rare and inspiring pieces from his own Monster Memorabilia Collection.

We talk about what influenced Joe and why he loves the horror genre.

Did you know Joe Moe sings? He has his own eclectic style of music.

Where do you think Joe likes to hang out?

Viewers ask questions that only Joe can answer so eloquently.

We cover all the “M” Words – Movies, Monsters, Memorabilia, Miz Meliz and Moe!

…and Much Much More!

Do YOU have questions for the master of horror, Joe Moe?

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Miz Meliz as a "Dark" Effie Trinket photo copyright Melissa Reyes mizmeliz.com October 2014 Hair and Makeup by Valyrie Williams-Schrader

Miz Meliz as a “Dark” Effie Trinket

 

 

It’s funny, the things you remember…

A Prayer for My Friends, Do Not Fear

Posted on October 11th, 2014 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Prayers

I was inspired by this letter I received that I will share with you. I hope that it helps you in your time of need my friend. These are concepts that I believe, they give me hope when I can’t explain things. When you ask for prayers (positive vibes, good mojo, a universal or cosmic hug) this is where I go…

Dear Friend, Prayer has the power to transform our fear into faith. Prayer reminds us that we are never alone. Everything we are, body and soul, is in the hands of God. God’s presence fills the universe, and He is as close to us as our own breath. No matter what pain sends our way, with God by our side, we can find the strength to confront our fears. With God accompanying us on our journey, no matter what the path, no one walks alone. God invites us “not to be afraid.” The Lord tells us throughout scripture that He is with us, and so we need not fear. In Christ, Father Pat Father Patrick J. Tonry, SM Spiritual Director Marianist Mission Province of the United States

Comfort for Those in Pain

Yesterday is gone.

Tomorrow has not yet come.

We have only today.

Let us begin.

~Joseph Cardinal Bernardin

Pain is limited…

It cannot cripple Love,

It cannot cripple Hope,

It cannot destroy Peace,

It cannot erase Memories,

It cannot silence Courage,

It cannot invade the Soul,

It cannot steal Eternal Life,

It cannot quench The Spirit,

It cannot lessen the strength of God’s Love for us.

Prayer for MizMeliz

Do Not Fear

Do not fear, for I am with you. Do not be afraid for I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you… Isaiah 41:10

 For Laura and Christine

My Valentine Gift For You: Anyway

Posted on February 13th, 2014 by & filed under Be Inspired, Discoveries, Everything Miz Meliz, Quotes & Notes

Happy Valentine’s Day!

I have been thinking about you and how much I love you, my friend. So, so much!

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Dear Friend,

For a long time I have wanted to share this with you. I just didn’t know exactly how you would take it. Please don’t take it wrong. Please know this is coming from a place of integrity, friendship and love. Real, authentic love. Because you are so special and you mean that much to me, I decided to make this my Valentine’s Day gift for you.

I have been wanting to write about the Anyway Challenge for a very long time.

For many reasons.

So, so many!

Every day we are faced with difficult situations and challenges.

So, so many!

Every person has to deal with hardships, worries and concerns.

I strive to act with kindness and love.

Sometimes, I get frustrated because not everyone around me, around the world, is doing the same.

People all around me react with anger, hatred, racism, and sarcasm. It seems like there is so much negativity in the world around me.

Is my being positive enough?

All we can do is try, my dear.

Let’s try.

Please take a look at the “Anyway Challenge” below.

Let’s try to accept the world and all the people around us just as they are. Let’s try to accept them as we want to be accepted.

This is my gift to you. It’s a challenge that I hope you accept.

Think about it.

I think you are worth it.

I see how much you care and want the world to be a wonderful place for all people, everywhere.

Let’s try to make that happen.

Let’s love them all – anyway!

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What is the paradoxical life?

What are the paradoxical commandments?

The Paradoxical Commandments
by Dr. Kent M. Keith

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

© Copyright Kent M. Keith 1968, renewed 2001

You May Be Saying… “I Have Heard This Before and I Think it Was Mother Teresa Who Said It.”

The Mother Teresa Connection

The Paradoxical Commandments were written by Kent M. Keith when he was 19, a sophomore at Harvard College. He wrote them as part of a book for student leaders entitled The Silent Revolution: Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council, published by Harvard Student Agencies in 1968. The Paradoxical Commandments subsequently spread all over the world, and have been used by millions of people.

Mother Teresa put the Paradoxical Commandments up on the wall of her children’s home in Calcutta. The fact that the commandments were on her wall was reported in a book compiled by Lucinda Vardey, Mother Teresa: A Simple Path, which was published in 1995. As a result, some people have attributed the Paradoxical Commandments to Mother Teresa.

As Kent explains in his book, Do It Anyway: The Handbook for Finding Personal Meaning and Deep Happiness in a Crazy World:

“I found out about it in September 1997 at my Rotary Club meeting. We usually begin each meeting with a prayer or a thought for the day, and a fellow Rotarian of mine got up and noted that Mother Teresa had died, and said that, in her memory, he wanted to read a poem she had written that was titled “Anyway.” I bowed my head in contemplation, and was astonished to recognize what he read-it was eight of the original ten Paradoxical Commandments.”

“I went up after the meeting and asked him where he got the poem. He said it was in a book about Mother Teresa, but he couldn’t remember the title. So the next night I went to a bookstore and started looking through the shelf of books about the life and works of Mother Teresa. I found it, on the last page before the appendices in Mother Teresa: A Simple Path. The Paradoxical Commandments had been reformatted to look like a poem, and they had been re-titled “Anyway.” There was no author listed, but at the bottom of the page, it said: “From a sign on the wall of Shishu Bhavan, the children’s home in Calcutta.”

Mother Teresa thought that the Paradoxical Commandments were important enough to put up on the wall of her children’s home. That really hit me. I wanted to laugh, and cry, and shout-and I was getting chills up and down my spine. Perhaps it hit me hard because I had a lot of respect for Mother Teresa, and perhaps because I knew something about children’s homes. Whatever the reason, it had a huge impact on me. That was when I decided to speak and write about the Paradoxical Commandments again, thirty years after I first wrote them.”

Why do I care so much about the paradigm?

Because this is about acceptance. I believe in unconditional love. I believe that all people are equal. No one is perfect. I am not perfect. I deserve as much of a chance as the next person. To love. To be loved. To succeed. To be happy. I want it all. Who doesn’t?

Kent Keith knew this in 1968 when he was 19 years old. He knew that to really live a joyful life he was going to have to accept some crappy stuff. He knew that things were not fair. He knew that life had the possibility of being good just as it had the possibility of being bad. He chose to celebrate the good. He chose to make things good. Anyway.

And you can, too. I know you can do it. It just takes practice. I know you like to be challenged. I know you are a winner.

Win at life!

You want to be happy. You want to be understood. You want to be respected. You want to help others. You want to see the good in others. It starts with you.

Take the Anyway Challenge. Resolve yourself to love anyway. Accept who you are. Accept all people as they are. You can change the world. I believe in you. I always have. It starts with you. It starts with me and you. Right here, right now.

Be my friend.

Be my Valentine.

Be my love.

Anyway.

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Ode to Melissa TheValentineRD @mburton0214

Posted on February 7th, 2014 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Guest Post

MontiLoveGoldTransparentRibbonFrom Ode to Melissa:

The Sun no more in clouds inshriu’d,
Darts all his glories unconfin’d;
The feather’d choir from every spray
Salute Melissa’s natal day.

My dear friend, Melissa Burton from theValentineRD.com asked me to guest post on her blog in honor of her birthday month!

What a fun post it was to write! I get so much out of Melissa’s blog. She recently wrote about flipping a negative to a positive showing a real commitment to optimism. I was wowed! I truly admire this woman and I would love to have her write a post for Miz Meliz. Check out her blog today and see what I mean.

Check it out here and follow Melissa Burton’s fab fun blog!

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Freedom: Be Glad for What You’ve Got

Posted on August 31st, 2013 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe

These are the lyrics to the song, “Free” by Prince from the album “1999” which I discovered and loved sometime in the mid 1980’s:

Don’t sleep, ’til sunrise, listen to the falling rain
Don’t worry, ’bout tomorrow, don’t worry ’bout your pain
Don’t cry, unless you’re happy, don’t smile unless you’re blue
Never let that lonely monster take control of you

Be glad that you are free, free to change your mind
Free to go ‘most anywhere, anytime
Glad that you are free, there’s many a man who’s not
Be glad for what you had baby, what you’ve got
Be glad for what you’ve got

I know my heart is beating, my drummer tells me so
If you take your life for granted, your beating heart will go
So don’t sleep until you’re guilty, ’cause sinners all are we
There’s others doing far worse than us, so be glad that you are free

Be glad that you are free, free to change your mind
Free to go ‘most anywhere, anytime
Be glad that you are free there’s many a man who’s not
Be glad for what you had baby, what you’ve got
Be glad for what you’ve got

Soldiers are a marching, writing brand new laws
Will we all fight together, for the most important cause
Will we all fight, for the right to be free

Be glad that you are free, free to change your mind
Free to go ‘most anywhere, anytime
Be glad that you are free there’s many a man who’s not
Be glad for what you had baby, what you’ve got
Be glad for what you’ve got

~Prince Rogers Nelson

I have been thinking about what it feels like to be free lately.

This is about that feeling of freedom.

My Jeep has been acting up and it has been pretty much out of commission since the beginning of August.  It chugs and lurches and doesn’t drive well in second gear.  My hubby has been working on it and has fixed the problem a few times.  But it seemed to be getting worse and worse.  One day the problem was so bad I barely made it home from work which is just a few miles away. I was fed up.  I said, “That’s it! I am not driving it anymore.”

So, there  It sat – in the drive way –  for a few weeks until we took it to the shop.  Then it was at the shop for a few weeks.  All the while, I got rides from my husband and sons and friends to and from work and anywhere else I wanted to go.  I “borrowed” my son’s car if I needed to drive somewhere.  I liked getting driven places.  In fact, I said that, “My chariot awaits” on a few occasions.  I liked being taken care of.  That is, until I lost my sense of freedom.

I started to feel dependent on my husband and sons and friends.  That was a little bothersome.  I knew it was temporary and it would be resolved so I didn’t pay too much attention to those feelings.  I began asking my husband if he knew when the Jeep would be fixed and when I could get it back.  I really didn’t need it since I had so many other transportation options and I couldn’t really afford to have a lot of work done on it.  It’s old and requires a lot of maintenance, but I love it.  I love having a Jeep for so many reasons.  After cursing it for weeks because of it not running well, I forgot how much I loved it. Until Wednesday,

On Wednesday (three days ago) my husband picked up the Jeep from the shop.  I did not know this until he pulled up in front of my office to pick me up.  There it was!  Oh my gosh!  I was so excited.  Seeing it through the window at work, I jumped up and said, “Hey, that’s my Jeep!”

The next morning I drove to the office myself.  I couldn’t believe how good it felt to be behind the wheel of my own car again!  My Jeep felt great and I wished, for a moment, I had a longer commute so I had more time to enjoy it.  It is still running rough and needs more tuning, but I was back in my ride!  (After a month!) I felt free again.  I forgot how good that felt.  I remembered what it was like to have that freedom for the first time as a teenager.  I could identify with my sons and their feeling of freedom having their own rides.  I felt a little guilty for infringing on that recently.  But then again, they depended on me for a long time to provide transportation to all of their activities, and this was just a month. That is how I got to thinking about how much we take freedom for granted.

There certainly are many types of freedom.

My friend and client, Ana Lydia had a freeing realization about constraint and risking her own personal values in her business this week.  She said, “I pressed my colleagues to “be brave” and value their skills, while I have been scared to call on late payments or call-out injustices. . . coming to terms with that realization felt like the weight of the world had been lifted off my shoulders.”

A friend of mine posted this statement on her Facebook page yesterday and shared it with me:

“There is nothing you have thought…have done…that needs to be kept a secret. You were born to be free and we are not free when we carry the burden of secrets.”  ~Ali Kossack

In an effort to protect freedom in our country, this morning President Obama said “We cannot raise our children in a world where we will not follow through on the things we say, the accords we sign, the values that define us.”

I spent some time this afternoon visiting a very close friend of mine. She is laid up in bed, immobile for at least three weeks under doctor’s orders. She broke her leg recently and because she is paralyzed she didn’t know it was broken at first.  She is unable to sit in her chair, or drive her car until the broken bone heals.  She is one of the most independent women I know.  She has never let her situation stop her from doing all the things she wants to do.  Now she has temporarily lost the freedom that she enjoys.  I sat in her bed with her and I cried.

My tears are not for sadness, although I am often saddened.  My tears are not for grief, although I am often stricken with grief.  My tears are not for fear, although I am often hopelessly fearful.  These were not tears of joy, although I often cry tears of joy.  I believe these were the waterworks of tears of those who cannot or will not cry for injustice.  I cried the tears of pain for those who cannot feel pain.  I cried for the many wrongs that I carry deep in my heart.  I cried for the hope of freedom for those who have died for it unknowingly, unwillingly.  I cried for the simple feelings of freedom that I take for granted.

I am done crying for today.

My tears cleansed me.  Now I am free to carry on.

In most cases, the feeling of freedom comes from knowing you are doing the right things.  Freedom comes when we exercise our core values.

Freedom comes when we are glad for what we’ve got.

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I’ve Come Back Again

Posted on October 12th, 2009 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz

I love Facebook!  There are many things that I like about it.  I enjoy posting pictures and sharing them easily with my family.  I like keeping an eye on my kids and seeing what their interests are.  I have been making new friends with other parents at my kids’ schools.  I have reconnected with relatives that live far away or that I have not heard from in ages. I have found friends from college, high school, elementary school, as well as old co-workers and neighbors.  All great stuff!
The most valuable thing that has come from my connections on Facebook has been the mini-reunions that have taken place with these long-lost friends.  But surprisingly, it hasn’t been finding these old friends and catching up with them that has meant the most to me.  It has been the person that I lost touch with somewhere between marriage and baby number three that I have enjoyed getting to know again.  Myself.
I have heard that phrase, “finding oneself.”  I never really knew what it meant.  I did know that I didn’t feel like the real me for a very long time.  Seeing old friends who knew me in school and before I had kids has brought back memories and most importantly my core values and interests have resurfaced due to these recollections.
Just today I got a comment from a high school friend, “I heard the song “True” on the radio today and it always makes me think of YOU!”  How profound is that??  “True” is a song from one of my all time favorite bands, Spandau Ballet.  I still quote lyrics from their songs all the time.  My love of this band defined me in high school.  I had forgotten about it for a while, but it always seems to come up again and again.  She remembers this about me?  Even now, after about 25 years?  We weren’t even that close.  Does she know how much it means to me?  How these words are so very meaningful to me? Even now!
So true funny how it seems
always in time, but never in line for dreams
Head over heels when toe to toe
This is the sound of my soul,
this is the sound
I bought a ticket to the world,
but now I’ve come back again
Why do I find it hard to write the next line
Oh I want the truth to be said
These lyrics remind me of my faith, my belief in God, my understanding of the journey that I am on in my life.  Exploring, reaching out, taking chances, yet always coming back and accepting the truth.
I had already considered blogging about my Facebook experiences when I got that comment today.  It was the catalyst I needed to actually get started.
I am in it now.  This is the sound of my soul.  This is the sound. . .