Actively Practicing Patience as I Gaze into My Crystal Ball by Melissa Reyes

Posted on March 17th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Intentional, Life Coaching, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

Patience, patience.

I believe that patience can be the same thing as trust. Trust and faith seem to go hand in hand as well. What does it all mean?

It is about releasing control, isn’t it?

“Patience may not be flashy, but it is crucial to well-being and effectiveness.

And it’s not something only the Dalai Lama can do (i.e. notions of certain people having the “patience of a saint”). Patience is what modern psychological and brain science would support and it’s what you can do while you’re waiting for the next thing—the end of the meeting, your driveway at the conclusion of a long commute home from work, the salivation and smell of dinner served, the anticipation of a lofty goal’s attainment, and then sleep before dreams of a weekend’s diversions.” ~Mitch AbblettMindful.org

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Mitch Abblett calls it “what you can do while you are waiting for the next thing.” I don’t know about you, but no matter how much I try I am never successful at speeding up time or making things happen using my mental abilities. No, just thinking about things and hoping they will work out when I want them to and how I want them to, just never seems to happen for me. So, what can I do to get better at not spending my time worrying, wondering, waiting, and stressing out about “the next thing?”

How can I practice patience, actively? Trust. Faith. Hope. Patience. These are positive, yet  passive mental activities. Aren’t they?

Let me see. I will look in my crystal ball and tell you exactly what will happen next. Hold on a moment.

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Are you still waiting? This could take a while. And, I do not guarantee accuracy in my forecast.

My crystal ball says, come back tomorrow

Wow, that could be frustrating, huh?! I am not out of my mind, I don’t even have a crystal ball, nor would I know how to use one if I did. But, you see what I mean, right? That’s what passive patience entails. Waiting for the unknown to happen – for who knows how long – and not having any guarantee that it will happen at all. No wonder we always have to be reminded to be patient! No wonder it isn’t a built in process.

I just sighed. I am now taking a long slow deep breath. I relaxed my shoulders. I was getting worked up because it seems difficult when it should be easy. It is very easy. Here is what we can do. (Get that? Active. Action. Positive. Motion. Together.) Here is what WE CAN DO:

Instead of waiting patiently, BE PATIENT.

Instead of hoping for the best, BE HOPEFUL.

Instead of gazing into the future trusting that things will be okay in the end, BELIEVE GOOD THINGS ARE HAPPENING NOW.

Instead of always leaving it up to the Universe or God, with blind faith, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.

 

You are resilient.

You are accepting.

You are a miracle.

You are Awesome.

 

Even when you are waiting.

Even when you don’t have the answers.

Even when you are afraid. alone. tired. weak. 

Even when nothing makes sense.

 

Love this moment, right now.

Love who you are.

Love everything you ever were.

Love everything you have yet to do, see, and be.

 

Trust Me.

Believe Me.

Never Give Up.

Be Patient.

 

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2 responses to “Actively Practicing Patience as I Gaze into My Crystal Ball by Melissa Reyes”

  1. Ann says:

    Crystal ball or not, how did you know I needed to see this today (of all days)! Another friend was just telling me that maybe I’m supposed to be practicing patience instead of being frustrated by things I can’t control.

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