Evan Sanders’ book, The Better Man Project like his blog, successfully enlightens the reader and shares the scope of a brilliant ‘man in progress’ as he discovers himself and learns the valuable lessons of life. What better way to document one’s process of becoming a man than through journal writing and blogging? Devote yourself to becoming a better one! Sanders unlocks the door of each aspect of a man’s world as he breaks through the boundaries of life’s disappointments, anguish, pain, and hostility. He uncovers the mysteries of love, honesty, integrity and respect. His acute sense of understanding the world around him and his ability to relate to all people enables him to share his philosophies and he gifts his inspiration to us in this book. It is not his story. It is not the answer. It is the beginning and the now of a great man and his unique insights to how we can all become better every day.
I learned so much about what it takes for one to proclaim himself a “better man” when I had the opportunity to meet Evan Sanders in person and interview him. He is a delightful young man, wise beyond his years, and I am grateful to have had the chance to get to know him in real life after over a year of “reading into it” on his blog and on Facebook.
Evan is a quote hound. He quotes Churchill and Gandhi with the same admiration as he quotes Will Smith and JayZ! He not only uses quotes, as many of us bloggers do on our posts, he speaks and lives the quotes he knows. He knows them by heart and he breathes their meaning from his soul.
Reading Evan’s book is like getting a series of pep talks for the soul. His purpose is to inspire others to live a bold and powerful life. He believes in protecting women and living a life of passion and purpose. He stands for honesty, loyalty, integrity and respect. He strikes me as a social butterfly on fire, like a sweet fire breathing dragon whose heart shines, ready to conquer the world and help mankind. He is a prophetic poet and writer. He practices acceptance and perseverance.
Will Evan Sanders be the next Tony Robbins? We shall see as he develops himself as a motivational speaker and life coach. Evan is a wonderful and engaging speaker. He is an amazing story teller. When he started answering questions everyone in the room listened intently to the stories and quotes. Sometimes it seemed like he would never get to the point! I was waiting to hear evidence, details of his experience, proof of his understanding and how he came to own his beliefs. I felt this way as I was reading his book. But soon I realized that it doesn’t matter what the details are that brought him to the conclusion, but the fact remains he does understand and has a brilliant gift that brings the reader (or the listener) to a point of confidence.
Evan is careful not to name people and go in to personal descriptions about his life when writing about his experiences in his blog, as most bloggers do. He told me that when he writes about the way he feels about a situation he is going through he believes it might actually change the way things are in his life. If he names the instances and gives details, it most likely won’t change for him. Not having the details makes it more relatable to everyone who reads it. One can use their own life’s experiences or their imagination to fill in the details. Once I opened my mind to the fact that this book wasn’t telling a single story, it was not going to have a beginning, middle and end; I realized how enlightening it is.
This book is a beginning of a journey. It is what is happening right now in a man’s life. You can pick it up and read it from any point and be uplifted and inspired. It will never end because our journey never ends. I have already started re-reading it and enjoying it even more!
It was so enjoyable talking to Evan that I wanted to hear what he had to say on any topic. As he elaborated eloquently on each subject I imagined myself to be a follower of a modern day prophet. He has barely lived yet he has a very deep understanding of life, love, relationships, and hope. As in the book The Prophet by Khalil Gibran when the man who’s ship had come in was about to embark on his great journey he turned to speak to the people and gift them with his lasting impressions. Rather than asking specific questions, I found myself entranced asking Evan to “speak to us about never quitting, speak to us about love, speak to us about passion.” I loved listening to his stories as I do many of the men I admire in my own life. He is bright and energetic, smart and hopeful, deep in his understanding of life and the importance of love. He cares about other people and wants to make a difference in the world.
I believe a man isn’t a man unless he has a good fish story. Evan puts life into perspective through all of his tales but his tale of his deep sea fishing experience is what made me believe he has become a better man. He had me in tears as I was reminiscing about my father, my brother, husband and sons telling their tales as I read his. I remember being with my dad when I saw him catch a rainbow trout with his bare hands over the side of a boat in Chama, New Mexico. A man can relate so much about the achievements and anguish of his life through a fish story. All the men I admire in my life have the ability to relate that message at the very base of who they are. If you value life and appreciate love as much as you do with all the effort it takes to catch a big fish then you have learned what it takes to be a real man. Especially if you can appreciate the value of the lesson learned when one gets away. Evan is such a man. He uses fishing as an example of never quitting.
“Keep fishing for the big one and don’t mind if it hurts or takes a long time. Take risks and keep on fishing.”
It’s not a book about fishing, body building, working out or baseball – but Sanders translates what he has learned about perseverance in the gym and on the field into relevant terms to motivate you in all areas of life’s struggles. I encourage you to read The Better Man Project. Get to know Evan Sanders and follow him on Facebook and Twitter. We should all be so lucky as to have a friend like Evan. We should all strive to be a friend like him.
“I will keep my focus on turning darkness into light and then encouraging others to do the same. Love. Passion. Never quit.” – Evan Sanders
What do you stand for?
Here is some of what I believe makes life sing: http://mizmeliz.com/2013/01/29/what-makes-you-happy-mizmeliz/