Make Yourself at Home

Posted on December 4th, 2013 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Winter Retreat 2013

I feel most at home when I am in the arms of someone that I love and trust.

I recently had a wonderful experience, the kind that dreams are made of, where all of my family and friends were there to support me. I have been reveling in the joy that completing my book has brought me. I have had so much positive feedback, it is almost too good to be true. Mostly, everyone I know has been encouraging and supportive that I wrote a book and that I self published it and frankly, that I actually did it. I did what I set out to do. That was an accomplishment in and of itself. For once in my life (besides having my children – there is nothing that compares to that!) I have accomplished something that I set out to do that most people never do. I have reached a level of success that I have never reached before. It feels great!

I don’t want to harp on the “poor me” attitude, but I have had to deal with the fact that some of my greatest accomplishments and proudest moments have happened to me since my parents passed away. As happy as I am and oh so grateful for the love and support that I have received  from everyone that I care about in my life, nothing can match the level of a parent’s pride. I miss that.

Many of my newer friends who have been “on my bus” with me since I began the project were at my book signing event and that was amazing. My close family was there and of course, that meant the world to me. I couldn’t have done any of this without them. I was so happy and I didn’t even think about anything sad and it didn’t feel like anything was missing at all. I have become so understanding, accepting, and respectful of everyone’s time, effort and energy that I had no feelings at all one way or the other that many of the people that I invited couldn’t be there. My point in inviting them was to let them know about the book’s completion and to include them. I never expected everyone to attend. I was truly grateful that anyone came. My blogging buddies said the sweetest things, like they would never miss it and they even made arrangements to be there when they had other obligations and special events in their own lives, which was overwhelming to me. I can’t thank them enough for their generosity and helpfulness.


I am blessed to have a lot of close friends that have remained dear to me for a very long time. Never underestimate the love of a close friend. Something magical happened when my friend from high school arrived. She is one of my best friends. Chances are she won’t ever read this because she is not a “computer person” and honestly has never read my blog. She came to be there for me because that is what we do. She has been there for me time and time again. She is Roman’s godmother. I am her daughter’s godmother. As co-parents we have supported each other through the best and worst of times for almost thirty years. She never even RSVPd for the event. I sent out multiple notices and emails. She didn’t respond to any of them. She didn’t need to. It was a holiday weekend and I honestly had no expectations. I wanted it that way. But in the morning of the big day she sent me a text that she was planning to be there but she would be late. When she came in the room and I saw her, the magical thing happened. I felt like I could breathe for the first time all day. I had been handshaking and hugging wonderful loving people all day. My brother, my kids, my husband, all were there for me, so it was not for a lack of love. How can I express what it felt like when my best girlfriend of thirty years walked in the door? She didn’t have anything to do with “the project.” She didn’t have anything to do with the writing of the book. No. She lived it with me. She knew the stories first hand. She has been there through it all.

And when she hugged me…it felt like home.

photo credit Melissa Reyes 2006 http"//

Lynn and Me at our 20 year high school reunion

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2 responses to “Make Yourself at Home”

  1. Karen Jolly says:

    Melissa – what a beautiful story! There is nothing like a friendship that has been through so much. To think of all the moments, all the stories you have shared together. I can only image how much it meant to you that Lynn showed up at such an important event in your life.

    Congratulations on your book – that is such a huge accomplishment. And thank you for sharing how important it was to you to share that moment with someone who has been a part of your life for so long. It made me think of my closest girlfriend from school…I think I’ll give her a call tomorrow and catch up! xo

    • Melissa Reyes says:

      Thank you Karen! I love those heart to heart talks catching up with long time friends, especially when it seems like no time at all has passed since you were last together!

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