10 Things I Wish I knew About Halloween When My Kids Were Little

Posted on October 28th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

Happy Halloween!

Halloween is here. The Holiday Hullabaloo continues. This is week two of my six week session on getting through the holidays with joy.

Last week I talked about Keeping a journal to be aware of the things that might be stressing us out at this time of year.

If you are a parent, you have bought the candy and the pumpkins, gone through the costumes and probably made or bought something for your little goblins to wear trick-or-treating. You have the decorations up and have planned the themed food and drinks for the party. You are all ready for a fun time, right?

If you are the way I was when my kids were little, you might be feeling a little stressed and worried right now. It seems like there is a checklist we all are required to do when our kids are small. Carve pumpkins, make roasted pumpkin seeds, bake, make caramel apples, decorate, make costumes, plan a party, take treats to class – – the list goes on. If you work, there are probably a party or two there as well. And don’t get me started on the contests! I was very competitive and loved planning family costumes.

If I only knew then what I know now. Famous last words, right?

Miz Meliz as a "Dark" Effie Trinket photo copyright Melissa Reyes mizmeliz.com October 2014 Hair and Makeup by Valyrie Williams-Schrader

Miz Meliz as a “Dark” Effie Trinket

Here is a list of things that I wish I knew when the kids were little and I stressed out about Halloween:

  1. Not all kids like to dress up.
  2. Not all kids are into carving pumpkins.
  3. Believe it or not – not all kids like candy.
  4. Because you had fond memories of doing those things when you were a kid does not mean your kids have to enjoy it.
  5. It’s okay to simplify things.
  6. It’s okay to make new traditions that work for you and your kids.
  7. If it is fun for you, do it. If it isn’t – don’t.
  8. Ask your kids what they want to be and help them make it awesome – even if it doesn’t fit in your vision or plan to win the contest.
  9. If your kids say they don’t want to dress up, trick or treat, or whatever, don’t make them. Follow your instincts.
  10. All you need is a candle or a flashlight to make a dramatic effect on Halloween – it really doesn’t need to be elaborate or expensive. The important thing is to have fun.

Wait, there was homework?

Last week, I asked you to write down some notes and take stock of the things that worry you about the upcoming holiday season. (It’s here by the way!)

I asked you to write down what came to mind when you read the following phrases, here are my notes:

Seasons Greetings...too much, too soon! Why are Christmas decorations up in stores already?

Thanksgiving Harvest...”You reap what you sow.” I feel badly because I have nothing to show for my hard work.

60 Shopping Days left…Shopping? I have no budget for shopping. I guess I will be making gifts again this year.

New Year’s Resolutions...I have this covered! I will set an intention for 2017 and I am excited to come up with my one word. (More on that in Session 2.)

So, what are you doing to have fun and get through the holiday with ease? Don’t say wine! Are you taking care of yourself? Here are a few tips from a mom who has been there and done that! (Yep, even the wine!)

  1. Plan some time to relax. Make it part of the plan to have some down time. It will give you something to look forward to.
  2. Speaking of planning – make a “Must Do” list. Anything that really must be done should be on the list. If you have ideas that you want to do if you have time – don’t put those on the list. They can be bonus ideas.
  3. Don’t forget to ask everyone in the family what they want to do – their priorities might be different than yours. I tried to keep it to one thing per person. I could promise that.
  4. Make it easy on yourself. Don’t commit to doing more than you yourself can do. If you are making chili and cornbread for the school dance – don’t commit to setting up a haunted house for the neighborhood too!
  5. If it is too late by the time you read this for #4 – remember next time – or just take store bought, no one will know.

The last thing I want to share about Halloween is this. If you like to decorate and dress up like I do, don’t make that a condition for your spouse or your best friend to do it with you. Either find a friend who loves it as much as you do and make plans with that person or just dress up for yourself – my biggest issue for so long was getting everyone to enjoy something the way I did. I finally realized it is a lot more fun when I don’t put any expectations on my husband and kids. It’s Halloween – a scary ghost can love a princess – it’s okay. Be yourself. Everyone will love being around you, trust me!

 

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