Dare to be Kind with Gabriella van Rij on Inspiring Adventures with Miz Meliz @GabriellavanRij

Posted on January 17th, 2017 by & filed under Books, Everything Miz Meliz, Inspiring Adventures


In this episode of Inspiring Adventures, Gabriella van Rij shares her steps that anyone can do to make kindness a habit. We have an amazing open discussion about kindness, tolerance, communication pitfalls, navigating our overly reactive society, how to become better and kinder communicators, and much more on our “Inspiring Adventure” together.

 

“As a toddler, I was plucked from a Catholic orphanage in Pakistan. Without the determination of two strangers, I would not have made it to my adoptive family. Today, I ask this question: Will you pick up the ball of Human Kindness® and be a hero to someone who needs your help?” ~Gabriella van Rij

 

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Website: http://gabriella.global/

 

 

A 4-Step Process For Making Kindness
An Everyday Habit In 2017

Research has shown that being kind makes us happier and also is contagious, inspiring others to be kind as well. For example, one such study published in the Journal of Social Psychology linked performing acts of kindness to an increase in life satisfaction.

That’s why as people make their resolutions for the coming New Year, they should make up their minds to commit purposeful acts of kindness every day, says Gabriella van Rij (www.gabriella.global), a kindness activist and author whose latest book is Watch Your Delivery.

“Making kindness a habit changes lives – your own life and others,” van Rij says. “I believe we’re born with innate kindness, but we’ve just forgotten about it because we’re always running. We’re just too busy doing other things and we need to remind ourselves to be kind.”

She says we as a society have dropped the ball on human kindness and it’s time we picked it back up.

“I truly believe that we are all born with innate kindness, but then the hand that feeds us or the environment makes us abandon it pretty fast,” van Rij says. “By the time we are 5, we have learned to compete and to strive for success. It’s time for a new measuring stick for success.”

She says by following a four-step process, people can put a little more kindness in the world and quickly fall into the habit of committing kindness every day:

• Be kind to yourself. It’s hard to have the patience to be kind to others if we can’t even take the time to be kind to ourselves. “This might seem selfish, but it’s not,” van Rij says. “By being kind to ourselves, we shape our attitude toward others.”
• Answer rudeness with kindness. This one is difficult, van Rij acknowledges. “When someone is rude to you, the first thing you do is instantly react and not always in a positive way,” she says. “And the second thing you do is say it’s about me. They were nasty to me.” But van Rij says it’s not about you, it’s about the emotion. By answering rudeness with kindness, you diffuse the situation and there’s also a certain satisfaction in seeing the change in the attitude of the person who was rude.
• Watch your delivery. The tone that accompanies your words is as important as what you are saying. Do you need to soften your tone? Does what you say sound more aggressive than what you mean? Body language also can send a message you didn’t intend, so be aware of your body language and your facial expressions.
• Acknowledge kindness when you see it. When you acknowledge the kind acts you see, that person will be encouraged to continue to spread kindness. Acknowledging kindness in others also will serve as a reminder to you about how you can show kindness.

“Unfortunately, one of the reasons we don’t always treat each other well is that we are a fear-based society, and fear only breeds more fear,” van Rij says. “But luckily there is an antidote because just as fear breeds more fear, I believe kindness grows more kindness.”

About Gabriella van Rij

Gabriella van Rij (www.gabriella.global) is a speaker, author and activist whose latest book, Watch Your Delivery, explores how we often fail in communicating. She began her life as an orphan in Pakistan, and today is a frequent guest on TV and radio. She also is the author of I Can Find My Might and With All My Might.

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17 responses to “Dare to be Kind with Gabriella van Rij on Inspiring Adventures with Miz Meliz @GabriellavanRij”

  1. Be intentional, think about how to help the people you love.

  2. But when we talk about tone that Almost places the issue on the person saying what they mean

  3. I find misinterpreting what someone says is a big problem and usually it’s the listener

  4. But that is taking the blame

  5. I have a deep voice. So if I say I love you it gets taken like anger. But the words are not

  6. It’s like misreading text messages

  7. Is it fair to blame a tone as opposed to us misreading it?

  8. Undertone, tone, nagging… communication and how it relates to kindness.

  9. “Nobody strikes another coming from a positive place”

  10. You have such an amazing spirit Gabriella!

  11. With All My Might by Gabriella van Rij

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