Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

Being Courageous by Melissa Reyes

Posted on March 9th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe, Intentional, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

Jonathan Morrow says “The Cowardly Lion is an unlikely hero who learned to overcome his fears. We are all cowardly lions. Everyday, we have to wake up and remind ourselves how to roar.”

The topic is courage because it comes up again and again for me in my studies of life, business, and self-care.  Actually, it is fear that comes up. Courage is the counterpart to fear. If I don’t want to be afraid, I must be courageous. Right? Maya Angelou said that you need courage in order to practice the other more important virtues. Courage is the starting point for transformation. Courage is needed to move forward with plans and goals and wants and dreams. We don’t do anything without some level of courage. (I wrote about Courage before.)

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If it weren’t for courage, I might stay in bed all day where it is safe and warm and comfortable. If it weren’t for courage, I would never voice my opinion or make any choices for myself. Courage gives me a voice. Courage gives me an opinion. Courage has a lot to do with who I am. ~M. Reyes 3-9-16

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In Jon Morrow’s article about the Cowardly Lion, he goes through the steps the lion took to get courage in the story of The Wizard of Oz. He related these steps to the tools needed to activate courage when taking on a new business or project. I went over many of these principles in my interview with David Vaughan on Tinsel Town Tonight, when he portrayed the Lion to prove a point about what it takes to be courageous. The point is this – we aren’t naturally courageous. We need to make an effort. We must activate our courage and we must do this often. 

Here are some tools to use when activating your courage:

Desperation – when you have “hit rock bottom” or are at your “wit’s end” that feeling will motivate you to make a change

Motivation – use that motivation to set some goals and get going. Don’t wait – move on it.

Discovery – If you have questions about how and when you will change and complete your mission, use that as a means to discover whatever you need to take the next step.

Challenge – if it was easy, it wouldn’t be worth fighting for, or trying so hard. Challenge yourself and make it important.

Ignore your inner critic – those negative voices are telling you that it can’t be done, or it is too hard. Ignore it! It means that you can do it. The chemicals in your brain make you think these thoughts in order to protect you from harm. You know what you are doing. Believe the positive and encouraging voice inside you.

Compassion – you feel called to help someone in need. You care about the people who depend on you. These are good reasons to step up and make things better for everyone.

Collaboration/Partnerships – You aren’t alone in this. Bounce off your ideas with your bestie. Work with some knowledgeable people and come up with a plan together. Support each other through this. Two heads are better than one and all that.

Celebrate – It is good to honor the milestones and remember the past. You have made it this far. Pat yourself on the back and soak in the recognition you deserve. That makes you want more of it even more, Keep up the good work.

Keep going – when things fail, try and try again. When things get stagnant, keep going. You might be a few steps away from achieving your goal. You won’t know if you don’t keep going forward.

Take notes – journal, keep a photo album, document your work and your achievements. Refer back to them and review what you did that worked. Enjoy the memories and share them. You did it! You believed you could do it and you did it! Write the book. Frame the certificate. Send the announcements. You totally deserve it. It wasn’t easy. You are awesome!

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Courage Mandala by Melissa Reyes for the 100 Mandala Project

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I have learned that the following things are important in order to be successful.

This is a good reminder for me and I hope it helps you as well.

  • Be willing to do what it takes to get what you want and make things happen.
  • Be unpopular and remember not everyone will understand or care about what it is you are trying to do.
  • Try again and again because each failure is an experience to build on.
  • Pay the price and don’t go cheap. Important things are costly. Either financially or emotionally.
  • Never give up. Never, never give in or give up. Keep the faith.
  • Being mindful and having a purpose or intention is vital in being a success at whatever you do. (aka mindset)
  • Educate yourself and continue to learn all the days of your life.
  • Be prepared for anything. No matter what happens, you are ready for greatness!

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When I was young, I was shy. I mean when I was really young. I was the youngest in the family. The only child in a world of adults and teenagers. I would hide behind my mother. I never let go of her. I was afraid of being alone, going to the doctor or dentist, being left at preschool, clowns. I was afraid of anything that might separate me from my mother, from my safety zone. Eventually I overcame the separation anxiety and enjoyed school and making friends. But until high school, I was still pretty shy. Even at work when I was in my 20’s I didn’t voice my opinion. In college, I stayed to myself in class and never asked questions. I was an observer. I thought it was being respectful. I wasn’t really sure what my own opinions were. I was a people pleaser and I followed the direction of others that I trusted for the most part. Of course, I don’t know if I knew that I was doing that at the time. But, when I finally discovered my own voice and my own opinions welled up to the surface I knew! It was still awhile before I found courage.

I was searching for something. I wanted validation. I wanted success. I wanted to be heard. I needed to feel important.

The seed of “me” had developed inside all that time and I was ready to bloom.

It took courage. Courage and determination. They say when you are ready you know. When you are ready to get married, have children, move to another place, change careers, all those major decisions. You are supposed to know. I don’t necessarily agree. I believe when you feel uneasy with who you are or what you are doing, it is time to make a change. What do you think?

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In what ways have you changed and what did it take to get the courage you needed to do so?

For me, I am creative and I like to make things. Every project is a way to start anew. Writing is a way to start something and see it through. Travel and planning events and vacations is another way I use my abilities. Each project takes courage to start and to be successful. I started taking on bigger projects. Becoming a life coach. Writing a book. Doing a live talk show. Publishing and sharing my work. Planning a move. Speaking at conferences and workshops. Everyday I remind myself that I am capable, I am loved, and I can be heard. Do I roar? Not exactly. But I know I can!

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Mandalas and Motivation Spark Creativity and Productivity LIVE Discussion

Posted on January 24th, 2016 by & filed under Be Inspired, Everything Miz Meliz, Intentional, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

I love colorful drawings and art. Mandalas are an amazing way to tap into my creativity. I love looking at them, drawing them, coloring them, and sharing them. What sparks your creativity? What motivates you to sparkle?


The only limits you haveare the ones that you believe.-Wayne Dyer

Discover and Believe in Yourself

Posted on January 20th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Intentional, Life Coaching, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

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The only limits you haveare the ones that you believe.-Wayne Dyer

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