Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

Tinsel Town Tonight Spotlight on #Focus @Tenminitt 3/29/16 6:00 pm PDT

Posted on March 29th, 2016 by & filed under Connecting People, Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe, Intentional, Life Coaching, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching, Tinsel Town Live 2016

Tinsel Town with Miz Meliz

The theme for this week is “FOCUS” and that means I need to get to work! I have lots of moving parts in my life’s work. I create art, I produce content for this blog, I enjoy connecting with people around the world via multiple social media platforms, I spend valuable time with my family and friends, and I have a full time job that I love. That’s a lot!

How can I focus on any of it or all of it? I am trying to come up with a way to tie it all together. I am making sense of my purpose for all that I do. I am considering what is most important to me and what I need to do to get closer to my heart’s true desires. My core values and goals are always top of mind. Mainly, above all is to be happy and love others. To do this well, I put aside differences, keep a cool head when facing challenges, and I try not to worry about most things. I am doing the best that I can. It actually feels pretty good.

So, how do I focus when I have so much happening in my life? This is the perfect time for me to do some streamlining and spring cleaning. I am on a staycation (at home vacation from work) and I have a list of things to accomplish. If I stick to the list and focus – – I will only get closer to my heart’s desire.

My Heart’s Desire is: To be happy, creating, connecting, and best of all, SPARKLING brightly!

Join me on Tinsel Town Tonight, my live talk show, to discuss why it is important to focus on your self and share your current projects with me. I look forward to hanging out with you and connecting!

 

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Tinsel Town Tonight with Martha Brettschneider @marthabrett @tenminitt Calm is the New Happy

Posted on March 18th, 2016 by & filed under Books, Everything Miz Meliz, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching, Tinsel Town Live 2016

Martha Brettshneider, How Does Your Garden Grow?

“In a world that’s constantly pushing us to move on to the next best thing, it’s challenging to fully appreciate the present. I am an author, blogger, award-winning photographer, and cancer survivor with a passion for inspiring mindful living.” ~Martha Brettschneider
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Martha inspires us to push beyond the comfort zone

Martha Brettschneider is a writer, blogger, photographer, and gardener. In 2009, she was diagnosed with breast cancer, which reoriented her perception of body, mind, and spirit. She transformed from being a fast-paced business woman to being a meditation-touting creative finally at peace with the world. She since has become a Fairfax, Virginia certified Master Gardener and an award-winning Project365 photographer.

Martha is a former international economist.  She is also a mom who understands the challenge of being fully present. I am looking forward to interviewing her on a special episode of Tinsel Town and find out about her and her new book.

Show Notes

In Blooming into Mindfulness: How the Universe Used a Garden, Cancer, and Carpools to Teach Me That Calm Is the New Happy, Martha shares her own personal transformation story.
“I wrote this book because I realized that my ego was holding my happiness hostage and I knew I wasn’t alone. Most of us don’t realize that we are the source of our own suffering and can turn that around!” ~Martha Brettschneider
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Martha is most passionate about her garden. She says, “My garden was my first mindfulness mentor long before I had ever heard the term, so digging in the dirt always makes me happy. Garden photography is another passion that arose as part of my mindfulness practice, as it forces us to notice tiny details and beauty right in your own backyard. Though I was forced into it to reduce my risk of breast cancer recurrence, exercise has become an integral part of my life. My fitness girlfriends–both at boot camp and on the running trail–are my soul sisters.
We will discuss her approach to work, family, and purpose, and ways that her book, Blooming into Mindfulness, provides motivation for those looking to find and/or renew their own sense of mindfulness.
Some main points about mindfulness that we will touch on in the interview may include:
  • Taking control away from the ego – the transformational power of mindfulness and the freedom that comes with it
  • Her personal transformation – how she completely shifted her focus from the power economist to master gardener/mindfulness thought leader
  • Finding the balance between your inner thoughts and knowing when not to trust them
  • The vital importance of meditation as a form of physical fitness for the brain
  • The mastectomy experience, and the inferiority complex that can come with breast cancer
  • Gardening and the surprising therapeutic benefits of laboring in the soil and reaping visual delights
  • Creative outlets that arise from exploring mindfulness, such as her award-winning photography and the 365Project
  • The actual efficiency of mindfulness as a way of life – how procrastination can be a thing of the past
Connect with Martha Brettschneider at marthabrettschneider.com and on Facebook and Twitter.
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Blooming into Mindfulness can be purchased from Amazon and through other major and independent booksellers nationwide.
Thank you to Ana Lydia Monaco and Smith Publicity, Inc. for the opportunity to interview Ms. Brettschneider. I received a copy of Martha Brettschneider’s book for the purpose of review. I was not compensated for the interview, blog post, or review. See my Disclosure for details on why I do posts like this.
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Actively Practicing Patience as I Gaze into My Crystal Ball by Melissa Reyes

Posted on March 17th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Intentional, Life Coaching, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

Patience, patience.

I believe that patience can be the same thing as trust. Trust and faith seem to go hand in hand as well. What does it all mean?

It is about releasing control, isn’t it?

“Patience may not be flashy, but it is crucial to well-being and effectiveness.

And it’s not something only the Dalai Lama can do (i.e. notions of certain people having the “patience of a saint”). Patience is what modern psychological and brain science would support and it’s what you can do while you’re waiting for the next thing—the end of the meeting, your driveway at the conclusion of a long commute home from work, the salivation and smell of dinner served, the anticipation of a lofty goal’s attainment, and then sleep before dreams of a weekend’s diversions.” ~Mitch AbblettMindful.org

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Mitch Abblett calls it “what you can do while you are waiting for the next thing.” I don’t know about you, but no matter how much I try I am never successful at speeding up time or making things happen using my mental abilities. No, just thinking about things and hoping they will work out when I want them to and how I want them to, just never seems to happen for me. So, what can I do to get better at not spending my time worrying, wondering, waiting, and stressing out about “the next thing?”

How can I practice patience, actively? Trust. Faith. Hope. Patience. These are positive, yet  passive mental activities. Aren’t they?

Let me see. I will look in my crystal ball and tell you exactly what will happen next. Hold on a moment.

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Are you still waiting? This could take a while. And, I do not guarantee accuracy in my forecast.

My crystal ball says, come back tomorrow

Wow, that could be frustrating, huh?! I am not out of my mind, I don’t even have a crystal ball, nor would I know how to use one if I did. But, you see what I mean, right? That’s what passive patience entails. Waiting for the unknown to happen – for who knows how long – and not having any guarantee that it will happen at all. No wonder we always have to be reminded to be patient! No wonder it isn’t a built in process.

I just sighed. I am now taking a long slow deep breath. I relaxed my shoulders. I was getting worked up because it seems difficult when it should be easy. It is very easy. Here is what we can do. (Get that? Active. Action. Positive. Motion. Together.) Here is what WE CAN DO:

Instead of waiting patiently, BE PATIENT.

Instead of hoping for the best, BE HOPEFUL.

Instead of gazing into the future trusting that things will be okay in the end, BELIEVE GOOD THINGS ARE HAPPENING NOW.

Instead of always leaving it up to the Universe or God, with blind faith, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.

 

You are resilient.

You are accepting.

You are a miracle.

You are Awesome.

 

Even when you are waiting.

Even when you don’t have the answers.

Even when you are afraid. alone. tired. weak. 

Even when nothing makes sense.

 

Love this moment, right now.

Love who you are.

Love everything you ever were.

Love everything you have yet to do, see, and be.

 

Trust Me.

Believe Me.

Never Give Up.

Be Patient.

 

Being Courageous by Melissa Reyes

Posted on March 9th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe, Intentional, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

Jonathan Morrow says “The Cowardly Lion is an unlikely hero who learned to overcome his fears. We are all cowardly lions. Everyday, we have to wake up and remind ourselves how to roar.”

The topic is courage because it comes up again and again for me in my studies of life, business, and self-care.  Actually, it is fear that comes up. Courage is the counterpart to fear. If I don’t want to be afraid, I must be courageous. Right? Maya Angelou said that you need courage in order to practice the other more important virtues. Courage is the starting point for transformation. Courage is needed to move forward with plans and goals and wants and dreams. We don’t do anything without some level of courage. (I wrote about Courage before.)

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If it weren’t for courage, I might stay in bed all day where it is safe and warm and comfortable. If it weren’t for courage, I would never voice my opinion or make any choices for myself. Courage gives me a voice. Courage gives me an opinion. Courage has a lot to do with who I am. ~M. Reyes 3-9-16

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In Jon Morrow’s article about the Cowardly Lion, he goes through the steps the lion took to get courage in the story of The Wizard of Oz. He related these steps to the tools needed to activate courage when taking on a new business or project. I went over many of these principles in my interview with David Vaughan on Tinsel Town Tonight, when he portrayed the Lion to prove a point about what it takes to be courageous. The point is this – we aren’t naturally courageous. We need to make an effort. We must activate our courage and we must do this often. 

Here are some tools to use when activating your courage:

Desperation – when you have “hit rock bottom” or are at your “wit’s end” that feeling will motivate you to make a change

Motivation – use that motivation to set some goals and get going. Don’t wait – move on it.

Discovery – If you have questions about how and when you will change and complete your mission, use that as a means to discover whatever you need to take the next step.

Challenge – if it was easy, it wouldn’t be worth fighting for, or trying so hard. Challenge yourself and make it important.

Ignore your inner critic – those negative voices are telling you that it can’t be done, or it is too hard. Ignore it! It means that you can do it. The chemicals in your brain make you think these thoughts in order to protect you from harm. You know what you are doing. Believe the positive and encouraging voice inside you.

Compassion – you feel called to help someone in need. You care about the people who depend on you. These are good reasons to step up and make things better for everyone.

Collaboration/Partnerships – You aren’t alone in this. Bounce off your ideas with your bestie. Work with some knowledgeable people and come up with a plan together. Support each other through this. Two heads are better than one and all that.

Celebrate – It is good to honor the milestones and remember the past. You have made it this far. Pat yourself on the back and soak in the recognition you deserve. That makes you want more of it even more, Keep up the good work.

Keep going – when things fail, try and try again. When things get stagnant, keep going. You might be a few steps away from achieving your goal. You won’t know if you don’t keep going forward.

Take notes – journal, keep a photo album, document your work and your achievements. Refer back to them and review what you did that worked. Enjoy the memories and share them. You did it! You believed you could do it and you did it! Write the book. Frame the certificate. Send the announcements. You totally deserve it. It wasn’t easy. You are awesome!

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Courage Mandala by Melissa Reyes for the 100 Mandala Project

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I have learned that the following things are important in order to be successful.

This is a good reminder for me and I hope it helps you as well.

  • Be willing to do what it takes to get what you want and make things happen.
  • Be unpopular and remember not everyone will understand or care about what it is you are trying to do.
  • Try again and again because each failure is an experience to build on.
  • Pay the price and don’t go cheap. Important things are costly. Either financially or emotionally.
  • Never give up. Never, never give in or give up. Keep the faith.
  • Being mindful and having a purpose or intention is vital in being a success at whatever you do. (aka mindset)
  • Educate yourself and continue to learn all the days of your life.
  • Be prepared for anything. No matter what happens, you are ready for greatness!

courageMy Story

When I was young, I was shy. I mean when I was really young. I was the youngest in the family. The only child in a world of adults and teenagers. I would hide behind my mother. I never let go of her. I was afraid of being alone, going to the doctor or dentist, being left at preschool, clowns. I was afraid of anything that might separate me from my mother, from my safety zone. Eventually I overcame the separation anxiety and enjoyed school and making friends. But until high school, I was still pretty shy. Even at work when I was in my 20’s I didn’t voice my opinion. In college, I stayed to myself in class and never asked questions. I was an observer. I thought it was being respectful. I wasn’t really sure what my own opinions were. I was a people pleaser and I followed the direction of others that I trusted for the most part. Of course, I don’t know if I knew that I was doing that at the time. But, when I finally discovered my own voice and my own opinions welled up to the surface I knew! It was still awhile before I found courage.

I was searching for something. I wanted validation. I wanted success. I wanted to be heard. I needed to feel important.

The seed of “me” had developed inside all that time and I was ready to bloom.

It took courage. Courage and determination. They say when you are ready you know. When you are ready to get married, have children, move to another place, change careers, all those major decisions. You are supposed to know. I don’t necessarily agree. I believe when you feel uneasy with who you are or what you are doing, it is time to make a change. What do you think?

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In what ways have you changed and what did it take to get the courage you needed to do so?

For me, I am creative and I like to make things. Every project is a way to start anew. Writing is a way to start something and see it through. Travel and planning events and vacations is another way I use my abilities. Each project takes courage to start and to be successful. I started taking on bigger projects. Becoming a life coach. Writing a book. Doing a live talk show. Publishing and sharing my work. Planning a move. Speaking at conferences and workshops. Everyday I remind myself that I am capable, I am loved, and I can be heard. Do I roar? Not exactly. But I know I can!

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Mandalas and Motivation Spark Creativity and Productivity LIVE Discussion

Posted on January 24th, 2016 by & filed under Be Inspired, Everything Miz Meliz, Intentional, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

I love colorful drawings and art. Mandalas are an amazing way to tap into my creativity. I love looking at them, drawing them, coloring them, and sharing them. What sparks your creativity? What motivates you to sparkle?


The only limits you haveare the ones that you believe.-Wayne Dyer

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