Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

10 Things I Wish I knew About Halloween When My Kids Were Little

Posted on October 28th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

Happy Halloween!

Halloween is here. The Holiday Hullabaloo continues. This is week two of my six week session on getting through the holidays with joy.

Last week I talked about Keeping a journal to be aware of the things that might be stressing us out at this time of year.

If you are a parent, you have bought the candy and the pumpkins, gone through the costumes and probably made or bought something for your little goblins to wear trick-or-treating. You have the decorations up and have planned the themed food and drinks for the party. You are all ready for a fun time, right?

If you are the way I was when my kids were little, you might be feeling a little stressed and worried right now. It seems like there is a checklist we all are required to do when our kids are small. Carve pumpkins, make roasted pumpkin seeds, bake, make caramel apples, decorate, make costumes, plan a party, take treats to class – – the list goes on. If you work, there are probably a party or two there as well. And don’t get me started on the contests! I was very competitive and loved planning family costumes.

If I only knew then what I know now. Famous last words, right?

Miz Meliz as a "Dark" Effie Trinket photo copyright Melissa Reyes mizmeliz.com October 2014 Hair and Makeup by Valyrie Williams-Schrader

Miz Meliz as a “Dark” Effie Trinket

Here is a list of things that I wish I knew when the kids were little and I stressed out about Halloween:

  1. Not all kids like to dress up.
  2. Not all kids are into carving pumpkins.
  3. Believe it or not – not all kids like candy.
  4. Because you had fond memories of doing those things when you were a kid does not mean your kids have to enjoy it.
  5. It’s okay to simplify things.
  6. It’s okay to make new traditions that work for you and your kids.
  7. If it is fun for you, do it. If it isn’t – don’t.
  8. Ask your kids what they want to be and help them make it awesome – even if it doesn’t fit in your vision or plan to win the contest.
  9. If your kids say they don’t want to dress up, trick or treat, or whatever, don’t make them. Follow your instincts.
  10. All you need is a candle or a flashlight to make a dramatic effect on Halloween – it really doesn’t need to be elaborate or expensive. The important thing is to have fun.

Wait, there was homework?

Last week, I asked you to write down some notes and take stock of the things that worry you about the upcoming holiday season. (It’s here by the way!)

I asked you to write down what came to mind when you read the following phrases, here are my notes:

Seasons Greetings...too much, too soon! Why are Christmas decorations up in stores already?

Thanksgiving Harvest...”You reap what you sow.” I feel badly because I have nothing to show for my hard work.

60 Shopping Days left…Shopping? I have no budget for shopping. I guess I will be making gifts again this year.

New Year’s Resolutions...I have this covered! I will set an intention for 2017 and I am excited to come up with my one word. (More on that in Session 2.)

So, what are you doing to have fun and get through the holiday with ease? Don’t say wine! Are you taking care of yourself? Here are a few tips from a mom who has been there and done that! (Yep, even the wine!)

  1. Plan some time to relax. Make it part of the plan to have some down time. It will give you something to look forward to.
  2. Speaking of planning – make a “Must Do” list. Anything that really must be done should be on the list. If you have ideas that you want to do if you have time – don’t put those on the list. They can be bonus ideas.
  3. Don’t forget to ask everyone in the family what they want to do – their priorities might be different than yours. I tried to keep it to one thing per person. I could promise that.
  4. Make it easy on yourself. Don’t commit to doing more than you yourself can do. If you are making chili and cornbread for the school dance – don’t commit to setting up a haunted house for the neighborhood too!
  5. If it is too late by the time you read this for #4 – remember next time – or just take store bought, no one will know.

The last thing I want to share about Halloween is this. If you like to decorate and dress up like I do, don’t make that a condition for your spouse or your best friend to do it with you. Either find a friend who loves it as much as you do and make plans with that person or just dress up for yourself – my biggest issue for so long was getting everyone to enjoy something the way I did. I finally realized it is a lot more fun when I don’t put any expectations on my husband and kids. It’s Halloween – a scary ghost can love a princess – it’s okay. Be yourself. Everyone will love being around you, trust me!

 

Holiday Hullabaloo Week One The Countdown Begins

Posted on October 28th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

It’s time to prep for the holidays. Really.

Today is the start of a wonderful, exciting, and fun time of year. Are you excited?

This week, we will explore some of the reasons the holiday season might be stressful and difficult for some of us to manage. During the next six weeks, I will offer tools, resources, and suggestions for making this time of year joyful for you and your family. 

What causes you stress when anticipating this busy time leading up to Thanksgiving, Christmastime, and finally the impeding New Year?

Find what good feels like.For me, it begins with worrying about finances and spending. Will I have enough? Did I make as much as I hoped to this year? Did I make the same mistakes I make year after year?

Every fun and creative idea I have that I would enjoy either for myself or for my family and friends ends up fizzling out and causing me distress because my next though is usually, how will I afford it?

The next thing that stresses me out is time. How will I ever get it all done in time? It seems like there is plenty of time between now and Halloween, and almost another whole month till Thanksgiving. It’s two months till Christmas. Wait! What? Only 63 shopping days until Christmas and Hanukkah? No way! I’m running out of time and I haven’t even gotten started. Why does this always happen to me? It’s not like I didn’t know it was coming.

There are other things to be concerned about, too. My holiday memories are filled with happy visions of my family’s gatherings and festivities. But things have changed and shifted over the years. I’ll be spending the holidays this year with my husband and sons. Now I am at the head of the family and I need to face the emotions that will bring about before I get sad and depressed. I don’t have fond memories of those years I “got through” the holidays and life is too short to just muster through! Life is wonderful and I intend to live every moment of it in an honest and joyful state.

2015-08-30 18.05.49How will I do it? Well, that’s what the Holiday Hullabaloo is all about for me. I get by with a little help from my friends. Together we will remind each other of what is truly important. We will set an intention and make a plan. Together we can handle whatever comes out way. With someone to help us navigate we can get much further much faster and have time and resources to make the most of the end of this year. We are going to have a wonderful, exciting, and fun holiday season!

What are you stressed about? I suggest keeping a journal and make some notes. List whatever comes to mind when you read these words…Season’s Greetings, Thanksgiving Harvest, 60 Shopping Days Left! New Year’s Resolutions…do you cringe? Would you rather not think about it? Don’t dwell on whatever you write down. Just make a note of it. Awareness is the first step with dealing with these things on our Holiday Hullabaloo Journey. Next we will discover ways to keep it all in check.

If you want to have access to the private private discussion group or have a one on one call with me, reply to this message with your request. It’s only $30 for six weeks. Do nothing and you will get just the weekly email. If you would rather not receive emails from me, simply unsubscribe.

I hope you have a lovely week and I look and I look forward to hearing from you.

With love,
Melissa

It’s time to get real with your holiday planning. It’s time to be you.

Sign up for The Holiday Hullabaloo 2016 Session 1 and I will show you how I did it.

The Holiday Hullabaloo Begins October 21st Join Now

Posted on October 18th, 2016 by & filed under Events, Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe, Intentional, Life Coaching, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

life-happensThe Holiday Hullabaloo is a group coaching experience which guides you through the hustle and bustle of the holidays with grace, patience, support, and love. 

Join by sending a private message to me on social media or email me at MizMeliz @yahoo .com You will receive an invoice via Paypal for $25. Upon payment you will have full access to the private Facebook Group, weekly one on one sessions with me via phone or Skype, and daily inspirations in your email inbox – for six weeks.

focus wordsHere is what some of the group members said about the Holiday Hullabloo Group last year:

“I love the way you speak. You’re so calm and clear in everything that you say. You listened to every word I had to say and you were very helpful with my situation. I like how you tied in stories of your own to give me examples and tips that would motivate and inspire me.”

“I really appreciated how easy it was for us to schedule a time to talk – you are so great about being flexible with your time. And being able to have sessions over the phone was such a blessing for a busy mother of two! You are a very good listener but also skilled at not letting me ramble on – you knew just when to be quiet and when to speak up to keep me focused, move us forward, or hone in on a point. You have a very good memory and were able to connect dots from our different conversations. I also truly felt you were sincere – when you told me my work was meaningful and valuable, I believed you and it made me stop devaluing what I did and see my work in a new light. Your sincerity and caring is real and is much appreciated!”

“You are very in tune with such a vast variety of people, from all walks of life. You truly care about your friends, and I always feel good after visiting your group:) Definitely a great listener, and you know how to give advice without ever making someone feel bad; you can address the flaws or issues, but keep it positive.”

“I felt the advice you gave and the tips and tricks to handle the stress of the season to be great insight and helpful. I like how you would listen to others approach or ideas and gave your insight on them. I liked that you were open to anyone and wanting to help.”

“I love your voice, it’s very calming…”

“My experience was pretty good! The coaching met my expectations – I want to continue and I will refer you to others because I see some improvement in how I feel.”

IMG_162071844956958Join now and get $5 off, and as a special bonus – refer a friend and get 50% off – that will be $15 each, or $30 for you and your friend can join for free. Join any time within the six week period, however if you join after October 21st – the total is $30 per person.

The Holiday Hullabaloo is a six week coaching experience to help you get through the holidays. I guide you through the stresses, sadness, doubts, and fears that are associated with this time of year. I offer hope, support, understanding, openness, guidance, and acceptance. As a coach and a friend, I can show you how to move through this time of your life with joy and ease.

I teach simple and effective ways to feel happier and more in control of your emotions and how to be accountable for your intentions. I live my life day by day using mindfulness techniques and cognitive behavior therapy practices such as breathing exercises, meditation, yoga, and prayer. More than that, I show you how to experience and practice these things in a simple, effortless way, that anyone can do – and I show you how it can change your life for the better.

See the goodness around you and if thereMembership includes:

  • Access to a members only “Secret” Facebook Group.
  • Daily motivational posts and insights straight to your email box and on Facebook.
  • Weekly live video messages from me with themes for the week.
  • Optional private one on one, weekly 15 minute coaching calls with me via phone or Skype.
  • 50% off membership to future group sessions with me.

What’s Hot and What’s Not? by Melissa Reyes

Posted on June 16th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe, Intentional, Life Coaching, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

What I think is hot may totally not be to you. Wait. What?

I want to know what you think is hot and what you think is not so hot.

This could mean summer plans, high temperatures, or your opinions about what is going on around you – or within your heart. Tell me in the comments below. I will follow up with you.

This is my state of being right now. I feel pretty good. There are things going on in my life and in my family that concerns me. That’s a nice way of saying I am worried and scared about the health and well being of the people I love. I am otherwise pretty happy. Sometimes it is hard to be happy when you are worried.

Here is a little of what is going on this summer on my website and shows:

This Week on MizMeliz.com (1)

 

Click HERE to read my Summer Newsletter

Things I am excited about – – an Update

Besides it being my favorite season – the summer sun is hot and the sky is clear – I am happy about some of the projects I have been working on. I know I am doing a lot and I am always busy. I am currently worried that you might be confused. Especially if you are just discovering me. Who is Miz Meliz? What does she do? If you are thinking that and you have found yourself reading this post, that’s good! I would like to clear that up for you.

I am a mom and a wife, a sister and a cousin. First and foremost. My family is the most important thing to me.

I aim to be a positive influence for my family and friends. I am a life coach who helps people feel happiness.

I vowed at the start of this year to make my focus to connect, create, and sparkle. I chose these three words to guide me through the year.

I am so glad I made this commitment because I have consistently connected with people all around the world and in my own community. I continue to enjoy talking with and learning about all the people that I meet. I love people! I have been so happy expanding and growing my community that I have opened a fire hose of creativity. Influenced and encouraged by artists and entrepreneurs alike, I am pushing forward and making a difference in my life by producing artwork. I hope to truly shine (the sparkle) and lead the way to a joyfulness that spreads to everyone I meet. Through art, compassion, and love, I hope to inspire others to enjoy life and experience true joy and happiness. (I know it sounds fru-fru or very “woo,” but if you know me then you know that I am only marginally fru-fru! I am pretty down to earth for the most part.)

Freedom

Here is what I am doing:

  • I work full time at a middle school in campus ministry. It’s a great job for me!
  • I am completing a self-reflective art challenge – 100 Mandalas – drawing and coloring 100 mandalas and sharing them online.
  • I am making jewelry and other decorative art projects, stencils, stamps, photos, a coloring book, and affirmation card decks with my mandala art. All of my products are available for purchase.
  • I am producing a weekly video called “Tinsel Town” that airs live and is then posted to You Tube.

I interview people that I believe to be inspiring examples of folks who know their purpose and live their passion. It is fun and I am just about to start my third year! Meet the super stars who inspire me on Tinsel Town.

  • I am co-hosting and participating in another weekly video show with Cindy Harrison called “Paint with Heart” #SparkleandInspire.

Cindy teaches me how to create decorative art projects and we post the videos on You Tube. Anyone can participate, learn, and make their own art projects with us. It’s free and it is an awesome way to experience online classes.

  • I am coaching and counseling people who need guidance and want to live a happy life. People say I am pretty good at it.

Combined with all of the things that I am working on listed above – this act of love is the thing that I am most passionate about. I am seriously in love with helping people.

Talk to me. Tell me what is bugging you. What is bumming you out. We can work it out. What’s hot in your life? What’s not so hot? There are clear skies and sunny days ahead. Believe me!

Check out the tabs in the menu on my blog. There are links to the videos, classes, and my schedule for one on one coaching. I am here for you!

Flow

The #MandalaGuidebook a Review and Interview of Author Kathryn Costa @100Mandalas by Melissa Reyes

Posted on May 21st, 2016 by & filed under ART, Books, Everything Miz Meliz, Intentional, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

May 21, 2016

I want to write a syrupy sweet message of love and admiration for Kathryn Costa, as I know you would enjoy reading that as much as I would enjoy writing it, however as a book reviewer and blogger I am going to go straight to the review of her amazing new book, The Mandala Guidebook.

The Mandala Guidebook: How to Draw, Paint, and Color Expressive Mandala Art, by Kathryn Costa

13246091_10206221941562579_1465888781_nThis book could have made a beautiful coffee table book, or an instructional text book, however the author intuitively designed it to be a companion book. It seems to have been intended to carry in your book bag with your sketch book, adult coloring books, and magazines. At least that was the impression I got when I first opened the envelope and got my hands on the much anticipated guidebook by the influential and inspiring artist, teacher, mentor and, now author, Kathryn Costa. In my book bag it has traveled since that day.

Not your typical “how to draw” book, this colorful display of fine original paintings, designs, and drawings is breathtakingly beautiful and pleasantly enjoyable to peruse, gaze upon, and admire; while doing so one may gain inspiration and motivation to develop their own artistic skills and talents.

Aesthetically pleasant to hold and read, with it’s high quality pages and mesmerizing high definition photographs, The Mandala Guidebook is full of detailed instructions and in-depth information on what an artist would need to know to navigate their own mandala discovery. Deeply personal and thoughtful, Kathryn passionately shares her insights and expertise in The Mandala Guidebook, gently coaching and offering suggestions on ways that you can express yourself while enjoying the process of facilitating any level of participation in this ancient art form.

Clever, fun, delightful, and intensive, The Mandala Guidebook is the best introduction and go to manual for artists and art lovers at any point in their personal experience. Tapping into her background in Graphic Design, and over 15 years working with mandalas, Kathryn Costa brilliantly incorporates graphic design elements and principles gifting the reader with a visual literacy. As she brings them into the conversation, talking about what they see and what they can do, Kathryn demonstrates many methods offering a wide range of styles, techniques and mediums for creating beautiful mandalas.

Join Kathryn Costa for the Mandala Guidebook Launch Party

Mandala Guidebook Launch Party: http://bit.ly/mandaladetails

Mandala Guidebook Party Wall on Facebook: http://bit.ly/mandalaparty

I had the privilege to interview Kathryn Costa about the launch of The Mandala Guidebook on an online show that I co-host with my friend, Cindy Harrison. Sparkle and Inspire is a weekly live stream demonstration and step by step DIY class where you can watch and participate as I learn and create a decorative art project. Being a mandala artist myself, I love how we incorporate mandalas into every project. Kathryn’s influence shines through in every area of my life that has been touched by mandalas.

In the interview, Kathryn shares how she first came to know about mandalas and how she used them when she taught high school students. She explains how mandalas can create a bonding opportunity and that the idea of creating a circular design can bring people together and create community.

Kathryn describes how she was influenced by Carl Jung, the Swiss psychiatrist who discovered the significance of mandalas through his own inner work, when she decided to challenge herself and create 100 mandalas in 100 days. She explains how that experience was the starting point that has brought her to where she is now.

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Kathryn Costa signed a copy of her book for me when my friend Cindy met her in New Hampshire

View the inspiring discussion and discover how I first “met” Kathryn and learned about the 100 Mandala Challenge as well as how Cindy had the opportunity to meet Kathryn in their home state of New Hampshire in the interview below:

You have a chance to win a copy of The Mandala Guidebook by simply tweeting the hashtag!  Tweet your heart out now and the person who tweets the most using this hashtag will win. The winner will be announced live on Facebook at Kathryn Costa’s Book Launch Party at 6:00 PM on Sunday, May 22nd!

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Click on this picture to join the fun on Facebook/100Mandalas

Here are some sample Tweets, you can write your own or copy and paste one of these:

I want to win @100Mandalas new book #MandalaGuidebook

Tweet for a chance to win #MandalaGuidebook by Kathryn Costa @100Mandalas

I just love mandalas! #MandalaGuidebook @100Mandalas

Check out the amazing mandalas by Kathryn Costa #MandalaGuidebook

Join me in the 100 Mandala Challenge #MandalaGuidebook @100Mandalas

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