Tinsel Town Live Interview with Dr. Margaret Robinson Rutherford about Perfectly Hidden Depression and her new podcast, “Self Work” https://smiletime.com/channel/mizmeliz #onSmiletime
Tuesday, November 8, 2016 6:00 PM Pacific Time
I came across Dr. Rutherford on Instagram of all places! I reached out to her and found that I could relate to what she was saying and I wanted to know more. I am honored that she agreed to talk with me on my show, Tinsel Town Live – she is a shining star because she gives hope to people who are suffering from a silent state of depression and anguish. Her work will change lives and relationships. She inspires me and I am looking forward to hearing her story.
I asked Dr. Rutherford to tell me about her work:
“I’ve been researching and writing about a syndrome, or group of behaviors that can be typically found together, I call Perfectly Hidden Depression. It’s not a diagnosis, per se, but a way of identifying an entirely different experience of depression, one that can be misdiagnosed or missed by mental health professionals. The people who experience it are highly driven, they have lots of friends, they’re caring and involved, they believe in counting their blessings. But somehow, along the way, they’ve learned to not admit or reveal pain. And so they hide depression that can eventually lead them to suicidal thinking. The loneliness and exhaustion can become intolerable.”
Dr. Margaret Rutherford is a clinical psychologist who’s been in practice for over 20 years in Fayetteville, Arkansas. Thus far, her work on PHD(perfectly hidden depression) has appeared on The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, Psychologies (UK), The Mighty, Midlife Boulevard, Better After 50, and Sixty and Me, either through posts or interviews.
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Website is http://drmargaretrutherford.com
Dr. Margaret Rutherford, Clinical Psychologist/Author
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Halloween is here. The Holiday Hullabaloo continues. This is week two of my six week session on getting through the holidays with joy.
Last week I talked about Keeping a journal to be aware of the things that might be stressing us out at this time of year.
If you are a parent, you have bought the candy and the pumpkins, gone through the costumes and probably made or bought something for your little goblins to wear trick-or-treating. You have the decorations up and have planned the themed food and drinks for the party. You are all ready for a fun time, right?
If you are the way I was when my kids were little, you might be feeling a little stressed and worried right now. It seems like there is a checklist we all are required to do when our kids are small. Carve pumpkins, make roasted pumpkin seeds, bake, make caramel apples, decorate, make costumes, plan a party, take treats to class – – the list goes on. If you work, there are probably a party or two there as well. And don’t get me started on the contests! I was very competitive and loved planning family costumes.
If I only knew then what I know now. Famous last words, right?
Here is a list of things that I wish I knew when the kids were little and I stressed out about Halloween:
Last week, I asked you to write down some notes and take stock of the things that worry you about the upcoming holiday season. (It’s here by the way!)
I asked you to write down what came to mind when you read the following phrases, here are my notes:
Seasons Greetings...too much, too soon! Why are Christmas decorations up in stores already?
Thanksgiving Harvest...”You reap what you sow.” I feel badly because I have nothing to show for my hard work.
60 Shopping Days left…Shopping? I have no budget for shopping. I guess I will be making gifts again this year.
New Year’s Resolutions...I have this covered! I will set an intention for 2017 and I am excited to come up with my one word. (More on that in Session 2.)
So, what are you doing to have fun and get through the holiday with ease? Don’t say wine! Are you taking care of yourself? Here are a few tips from a mom who has been there and done that! (Yep, even the wine!)
The last thing I want to share about Halloween is this. If you like to decorate and dress up like I do, don’t make that a condition for your spouse or your best friend to do it with you. Either find a friend who loves it as much as you do and make plans with that person or just dress up for yourself – my biggest issue for so long was getting everyone to enjoy something the way I did. I finally realized it is a lot more fun when I don’t put any expectations on my husband and kids. It’s Halloween – a scary ghost can love a princess – it’s okay. Be yourself. Everyone will love being around you, trust me!
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