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Dr. Margaret Talks About Perfectly Hidden Depression and her new podcast “Self Work” @doctor_margaret

Posted on November 8th, 2016 by & filed under #SPARKLE Tinsel Town Tonight Interviews, Everything Miz Meliz, Interview, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching, Tinsel Town Live 2016

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Tinsel Town Live Interview with Dr. Margaret Robinson Rutherford about Perfectly Hidden Depression and her new podcast, “Self Work” https://smiletime.com/channel/mizmeliz #onSmiletime

 

Dr. Margaret Rutherford

Health/Wellness, Mental Health, Depression

drmargaretrutherford.com

Tuesday, November 8, 2016 6:00 PM Pacific Time

margaret-rutherford-2I came across Dr. Rutherford on Instagram of all places! I reached out to her and found that I could relate to what she was saying and I wanted to know more. I am honored that she agreed to talk with me on my show, Tinsel Town Live – she is a shining star because she gives hope to people who are suffering from a silent state of depression and anguish. Her work will change lives and relationships. She inspires me and I am looking forward to hearing her story.

I asked Dr. Rutherford to tell me about her work:

“I’ve been researching and writing about a syndrome, or group of behaviors that can be typically found together, I call Perfectly Hidden Depression. It’s not a diagnosis, per se, but a way of identifying an entirely different experience of depression, one that can be misdiagnosed or missed by mental health professionals. The people who experience it are highly driven, they have lots of friends, they’re caring and involved, they believe in counting their blessings. But somehow, along the way, they’ve learned to not admit or reveal pain. And so they hide depression that can eventually lead them to suicidal thinking. The loneliness and exhaustion can become intolerable.”

Dr. Margaret Rutherford is a clinical psychologist who’s been in practice for over 20 years in Fayetteville, Arkansas. Thus far, her work on PHD(perfectly hidden depression) has appeared on The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, Psychologies (UK), The Mighty, Midlife Boulevard, Better After 50, and Sixty and Me, either through posts or interviews.

Meet Dr. Rutherford on Tinsel Town Live with Miz Meliz and Connect with her here:

Website is http://drmargaretrutherford.com

Email: askdrmargaret@drmargaretrutherford.com

Twitter: @doctor_margaret

Facebook: https://facebook.com/drmargaretrutherford

Dr. Margaret Rutherford, Clinical Psychologist/Author
Helping You Believe In Yourself

Miz Meliz Presents “A Year in Bloom 2017”

Posted on November 5th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Jewelry Shop, Life Coaching, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching, Miz Meliz Marketplace

A Year in Bloom 2017

melissa-reyes-4A Year in Bloom 2017 ties in my passion for creativity, connection, and inspiration.

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Take the “Year in Bloom 2017” Challenge and attend all five webinars for $250

Show the world how you blossom and bloom as you go through each session emerging with exuberance and joyful expression.

Five 2 hour Webinars in 2017

Get the nourishment you need to bloom your brightest! 

We will develop and grow together throughout the year.

Each webinar will focus on feeding our needs:

  1. Feed your Soul in January
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  5. Ignite your Spirit in October
    • Each webinar in the series is $100 per person.
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    • Registration includes five 2-hour live webinar online experience, access to the private Facebook group for support, one on one guidance sessions with me, and daily inspirational messages in your email.
    • Make 2017 the year you identify your true passions and live out your unique purpose.
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10 Things I Wish I knew About Halloween When My Kids Were Little

Posted on October 28th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

Happy Halloween!

Halloween is here. The Holiday Hullabaloo continues. This is week two of my six week session on getting through the holidays with joy.

Last week I talked about Keeping a journal to be aware of the things that might be stressing us out at this time of year.

If you are a parent, you have bought the candy and the pumpkins, gone through the costumes and probably made or bought something for your little goblins to wear trick-or-treating. You have the decorations up and have planned the themed food and drinks for the party. You are all ready for a fun time, right?

If you are the way I was when my kids were little, you might be feeling a little stressed and worried right now. It seems like there is a checklist we all are required to do when our kids are small. Carve pumpkins, make roasted pumpkin seeds, bake, make caramel apples, decorate, make costumes, plan a party, take treats to class – – the list goes on. If you work, there are probably a party or two there as well. And don’t get me started on the contests! I was very competitive and loved planning family costumes.

If I only knew then what I know now. Famous last words, right?

Miz Meliz as a "Dark" Effie Trinket photo copyright Melissa Reyes mizmeliz.com October 2014 Hair and Makeup by Valyrie Williams-Schrader

Miz Meliz as a “Dark” Effie Trinket

Here is a list of things that I wish I knew when the kids were little and I stressed out about Halloween:

  1. Not all kids like to dress up.
  2. Not all kids are into carving pumpkins.
  3. Believe it or not – not all kids like candy.
  4. Because you had fond memories of doing those things when you were a kid does not mean your kids have to enjoy it.
  5. It’s okay to simplify things.
  6. It’s okay to make new traditions that work for you and your kids.
  7. If it is fun for you, do it. If it isn’t – don’t.
  8. Ask your kids what they want to be and help them make it awesome – even if it doesn’t fit in your vision or plan to win the contest.
  9. If your kids say they don’t want to dress up, trick or treat, or whatever, don’t make them. Follow your instincts.
  10. All you need is a candle or a flashlight to make a dramatic effect on Halloween – it really doesn’t need to be elaborate or expensive. The important thing is to have fun.

Wait, there was homework?

Last week, I asked you to write down some notes and take stock of the things that worry you about the upcoming holiday season. (It’s here by the way!)

I asked you to write down what came to mind when you read the following phrases, here are my notes:

Seasons Greetings...too much, too soon! Why are Christmas decorations up in stores already?

Thanksgiving Harvest...”You reap what you sow.” I feel badly because I have nothing to show for my hard work.

60 Shopping Days left…Shopping? I have no budget for shopping. I guess I will be making gifts again this year.

New Year’s Resolutions...I have this covered! I will set an intention for 2017 and I am excited to come up with my one word. (More on that in Session 2.)

So, what are you doing to have fun and get through the holiday with ease? Don’t say wine! Are you taking care of yourself? Here are a few tips from a mom who has been there and done that! (Yep, even the wine!)

  1. Plan some time to relax. Make it part of the plan to have some down time. It will give you something to look forward to.
  2. Speaking of planning – make a “Must Do” list. Anything that really must be done should be on the list. If you have ideas that you want to do if you have time – don’t put those on the list. They can be bonus ideas.
  3. Don’t forget to ask everyone in the family what they want to do – their priorities might be different than yours. I tried to keep it to one thing per person. I could promise that.
  4. Make it easy on yourself. Don’t commit to doing more than you yourself can do. If you are making chili and cornbread for the school dance – don’t commit to setting up a haunted house for the neighborhood too!
  5. If it is too late by the time you read this for #4 – remember next time – or just take store bought, no one will know.

The last thing I want to share about Halloween is this. If you like to decorate and dress up like I do, don’t make that a condition for your spouse or your best friend to do it with you. Either find a friend who loves it as much as you do and make plans with that person or just dress up for yourself – my biggest issue for so long was getting everyone to enjoy something the way I did. I finally realized it is a lot more fun when I don’t put any expectations on my husband and kids. It’s Halloween – a scary ghost can love a princess – it’s okay. Be yourself. Everyone will love being around you, trust me!

 

Holiday Hullabaloo Week One The Countdown Begins

Posted on October 28th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

It’s time to prep for the holidays. Really.

Today is the start of a wonderful, exciting, and fun time of year. Are you excited?

This week, we will explore some of the reasons the holiday season might be stressful and difficult for some of us to manage. During the next six weeks, I will offer tools, resources, and suggestions for making this time of year joyful for you and your family. 

What causes you stress when anticipating this busy time leading up to Thanksgiving, Christmastime, and finally the impeding New Year?

Find what good feels like.For me, it begins with worrying about finances and spending. Will I have enough? Did I make as much as I hoped to this year? Did I make the same mistakes I make year after year?

Every fun and creative idea I have that I would enjoy either for myself or for my family and friends ends up fizzling out and causing me distress because my next though is usually, how will I afford it?

The next thing that stresses me out is time. How will I ever get it all done in time? It seems like there is plenty of time between now and Halloween, and almost another whole month till Thanksgiving. It’s two months till Christmas. Wait! What? Only 63 shopping days until Christmas and Hanukkah? No way! I’m running out of time and I haven’t even gotten started. Why does this always happen to me? It’s not like I didn’t know it was coming.

There are other things to be concerned about, too. My holiday memories are filled with happy visions of my family’s gatherings and festivities. But things have changed and shifted over the years. I’ll be spending the holidays this year with my husband and sons. Now I am at the head of the family and I need to face the emotions that will bring about before I get sad and depressed. I don’t have fond memories of those years I “got through” the holidays and life is too short to just muster through! Life is wonderful and I intend to live every moment of it in an honest and joyful state.

2015-08-30 18.05.49How will I do it? Well, that’s what the Holiday Hullabaloo is all about for me. I get by with a little help from my friends. Together we will remind each other of what is truly important. We will set an intention and make a plan. Together we can handle whatever comes out way. With someone to help us navigate we can get much further much faster and have time and resources to make the most of the end of this year. We are going to have a wonderful, exciting, and fun holiday season!

What are you stressed about? I suggest keeping a journal and make some notes. List whatever comes to mind when you read these words…Season’s Greetings, Thanksgiving Harvest, 60 Shopping Days Left! New Year’s Resolutions…do you cringe? Would you rather not think about it? Don’t dwell on whatever you write down. Just make a note of it. Awareness is the first step with dealing with these things on our Holiday Hullabaloo Journey. Next we will discover ways to keep it all in check.

If you want to have access to the private private discussion group or have a one on one call with me, reply to this message with your request. It’s only $30 for six weeks. Do nothing and you will get just the weekly email. If you would rather not receive emails from me, simply unsubscribe.

I hope you have a lovely week and I look and I look forward to hearing from you.

With love,
Melissa

It’s time to get real with your holiday planning. It’s time to be you.

Sign up for The Holiday Hullabaloo 2016 Session 1 and I will show you how I did it.

The Holiday Hullabaloo Begins October 21st Join Now

Posted on October 18th, 2016 by & filed under Events, Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe, Intentional, Life Coaching, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

life-happensThe Holiday Hullabaloo is a group coaching experience which guides you through the hustle and bustle of the holidays with grace, patience, support, and love. 

Join by sending a private message to me on social media or email me at MizMeliz @yahoo .com You will receive an invoice via Paypal for $25. Upon payment you will have full access to the private Facebook Group, weekly one on one sessions with me via phone or Skype, and daily inspirations in your email inbox – for six weeks.

focus wordsHere is what some of the group members said about the Holiday Hullabloo Group last year:

“I love the way you speak. You’re so calm and clear in everything that you say. You listened to every word I had to say and you were very helpful with my situation. I like how you tied in stories of your own to give me examples and tips that would motivate and inspire me.”

“I really appreciated how easy it was for us to schedule a time to talk – you are so great about being flexible with your time. And being able to have sessions over the phone was such a blessing for a busy mother of two! You are a very good listener but also skilled at not letting me ramble on – you knew just when to be quiet and when to speak up to keep me focused, move us forward, or hone in on a point. You have a very good memory and were able to connect dots from our different conversations. I also truly felt you were sincere – when you told me my work was meaningful and valuable, I believed you and it made me stop devaluing what I did and see my work in a new light. Your sincerity and caring is real and is much appreciated!”

“You are very in tune with such a vast variety of people, from all walks of life. You truly care about your friends, and I always feel good after visiting your group:) Definitely a great listener, and you know how to give advice without ever making someone feel bad; you can address the flaws or issues, but keep it positive.”

“I felt the advice you gave and the tips and tricks to handle the stress of the season to be great insight and helpful. I like how you would listen to others approach or ideas and gave your insight on them. I liked that you were open to anyone and wanting to help.”

“I love your voice, it’s very calming…”

“My experience was pretty good! The coaching met my expectations – I want to continue and I will refer you to others because I see some improvement in how I feel.”

IMG_162071844956958Join now and get $5 off, and as a special bonus – refer a friend and get 50% off – that will be $15 each, or $30 for you and your friend can join for free. Join any time within the six week period, however if you join after October 21st – the total is $30 per person.

The Holiday Hullabaloo is a six week coaching experience to help you get through the holidays. I guide you through the stresses, sadness, doubts, and fears that are associated with this time of year. I offer hope, support, understanding, openness, guidance, and acceptance. As a coach and a friend, I can show you how to move through this time of your life with joy and ease.

I teach simple and effective ways to feel happier and more in control of your emotions and how to be accountable for your intentions. I live my life day by day using mindfulness techniques and cognitive behavior therapy practices such as breathing exercises, meditation, yoga, and prayer. More than that, I show you how to experience and practice these things in a simple, effortless way, that anyone can do – and I show you how it can change your life for the better.

See the goodness around you and if thereMembership includes:

  • Access to a members only “Secret” Facebook Group.
  • Daily motivational posts and insights straight to your email box and on Facebook.
  • Weekly live video messages from me with themes for the week.
  • Optional private one on one, weekly 15 minute coaching calls with me via phone or Skype.
  • 50% off membership to future group sessions with me.
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