Intentional

Being Courageous by Melissa Reyes

Posted on March 9th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe, Intentional, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

Jonathan Morrow says “The Cowardly Lion is an unlikely hero who learned to overcome his fears. We are all cowardly lions. Everyday, we have to wake up and remind ourselves how to roar.”

The topic is courage because it comes up again and again for me in my studies of life, business, and self-care.  Actually, it is fear that comes up. Courage is the counterpart to fear. If I don’t want to be afraid, I must be courageous. Right? Maya Angelou said that you need courage in order to practice the other more important virtues. Courage is the starting point for transformation. Courage is needed to move forward with plans and goals and wants and dreams. We don’t do anything without some level of courage. (I wrote about Courage before.)

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If it weren’t for courage, I might stay in bed all day where it is safe and warm and comfortable. If it weren’t for courage, I would never voice my opinion or make any choices for myself. Courage gives me a voice. Courage gives me an opinion. Courage has a lot to do with who I am. ~M. Reyes 3-9-16

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In Jon Morrow’s article about the Cowardly Lion, he goes through the steps the lion took to get courage in the story of The Wizard of Oz. He related these steps to the tools needed to activate courage when taking on a new business or project. I went over many of these principles in my interview with David Vaughan on Tinsel Town Tonight, when he portrayed the Lion to prove a point about what it takes to be courageous. The point is this – we aren’t naturally courageous. We need to make an effort. We must activate our courage and we must do this often. 

Here are some tools to use when activating your courage:

Desperation – when you have “hit rock bottom” or are at your “wit’s end” that feeling will motivate you to make a change

Motivation – use that motivation to set some goals and get going. Don’t wait – move on it.

Discovery – If you have questions about how and when you will change and complete your mission, use that as a means to discover whatever you need to take the next step.

Challenge – if it was easy, it wouldn’t be worth fighting for, or trying so hard. Challenge yourself and make it important.

Ignore your inner critic – those negative voices are telling you that it can’t be done, or it is too hard. Ignore it! It means that you can do it. The chemicals in your brain make you think these thoughts in order to protect you from harm. You know what you are doing. Believe the positive and encouraging voice inside you.

Compassion – you feel called to help someone in need. You care about the people who depend on you. These are good reasons to step up and make things better for everyone.

Collaboration/Partnerships – You aren’t alone in this. Bounce off your ideas with your bestie. Work with some knowledgeable people and come up with a plan together. Support each other through this. Two heads are better than one and all that.

Celebrate – It is good to honor the milestones and remember the past. You have made it this far. Pat yourself on the back and soak in the recognition you deserve. That makes you want more of it even more, Keep up the good work.

Keep going – when things fail, try and try again. When things get stagnant, keep going. You might be a few steps away from achieving your goal. You won’t know if you don’t keep going forward.

Take notes – journal, keep a photo album, document your work and your achievements. Refer back to them and review what you did that worked. Enjoy the memories and share them. You did it! You believed you could do it and you did it! Write the book. Frame the certificate. Send the announcements. You totally deserve it. It wasn’t easy. You are awesome!

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Courage Mandala by Melissa Reyes for the 100 Mandala Project

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I have learned that the following things are important in order to be successful.

This is a good reminder for me and I hope it helps you as well.

  • Be willing to do what it takes to get what you want and make things happen.
  • Be unpopular and remember not everyone will understand or care about what it is you are trying to do.
  • Try again and again because each failure is an experience to build on.
  • Pay the price and don’t go cheap. Important things are costly. Either financially or emotionally.
  • Never give up. Never, never give in or give up. Keep the faith.
  • Being mindful and having a purpose or intention is vital in being a success at whatever you do. (aka mindset)
  • Educate yourself and continue to learn all the days of your life.
  • Be prepared for anything. No matter what happens, you are ready for greatness!

courageMy Story

When I was young, I was shy. I mean when I was really young. I was the youngest in the family. The only child in a world of adults and teenagers. I would hide behind my mother. I never let go of her. I was afraid of being alone, going to the doctor or dentist, being left at preschool, clowns. I was afraid of anything that might separate me from my mother, from my safety zone. Eventually I overcame the separation anxiety and enjoyed school and making friends. But until high school, I was still pretty shy. Even at work when I was in my 20’s I didn’t voice my opinion. In college, I stayed to myself in class and never asked questions. I was an observer. I thought it was being respectful. I wasn’t really sure what my own opinions were. I was a people pleaser and I followed the direction of others that I trusted for the most part. Of course, I don’t know if I knew that I was doing that at the time. But, when I finally discovered my own voice and my own opinions welled up to the surface I knew! It was still awhile before I found courage.

I was searching for something. I wanted validation. I wanted success. I wanted to be heard. I needed to feel important.

The seed of “me” had developed inside all that time and I was ready to bloom.

It took courage. Courage and determination. They say when you are ready you know. When you are ready to get married, have children, move to another place, change careers, all those major decisions. You are supposed to know. I don’t necessarily agree. I believe when you feel uneasy with who you are or what you are doing, it is time to make a change. What do you think?

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In what ways have you changed and what did it take to get the courage you needed to do so?

For me, I am creative and I like to make things. Every project is a way to start anew. Writing is a way to start something and see it through. Travel and planning events and vacations is another way I use my abilities. Each project takes courage to start and to be successful. I started taking on bigger projects. Becoming a life coach. Writing a book. Doing a live talk show. Publishing and sharing my work. Planning a move. Speaking at conferences and workshops. Everyday I remind myself that I am capable, I am loved, and I can be heard. Do I roar? Not exactly. But I know I can!

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This is My (deep breath) Audacious Project for 2016 #Create #100Mandalas @redbubble

Posted on February 18th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe, Intentional, Passions

Okay, (deep breath) I would like to debut my mandala artwork available for sale on various products on Red Bubble. This is huge for me because I never shared my drawings with anyone publicly until this year. I started a 100 Mandala Project and I am holding myself accountable by telling others and making it a community endeavor. (I tried this last year and I stopped after four drawings!)

mandalaSo far, in just the past four weeks since I started drawing my own designs I have completed dozens.  I have tapped into my creativity in a big way and the Mandala Project has spread! I have been asked to introduce drawing and coloring mandalas at the school where I work and with the homeless at the recuperative care center where my brother works. I want to show how drawing and coloring is a good way to reduce stress and can be a very powerful spiritual experience.

Recently, I overheard a student telling another girl that she feels so good when she finishes coloring one. It made my day! I want to propose making a community mandala -combining the work of my students into one big mandala and transfer the design to a mural that I will paint on a wall at the school.

Why the deep breath? Because this is one of those projects that is taking off as fast as I can tell you about it! It wasn’t planned or thought out other than in my dreams. And now, I can weave the project into everything I do and it all makes sense to me.

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Here is a checklist of places I intend to share my story:

  • Tinsel Town Tonight
  • My Facebook Profile Page MizMelizLA (check, all the time!)
  • My Facebook Fan Page Tinsel Town
  • Facebook Groups
    • SoCal Lady Bloggers
    • BlabNation
    • Women of Midlife
  • Twitter
  • Twitter Cards (Thanks Jen Lenher! Learn How to Rock Twitter!)
  • SnapChat (check, but more to come!)
  • Instagram (of course! check!)
  • Live Streams
  • Pinterest (Yep, check it out!)
  • My website MizMeliz.com (check, but maybe weekly?)
  • Trainer.ly courses (This is where you sign up, only $10 per session)
  • Zoom Sessions
  • The school where I work (check, and double check!)
  • Hope of the Valley and other homeless shelters and children’s groups like Boys and Girls Clubs
  • Community classes – maybe the library, parks and recs, community college. (Jeeze! That’s maybe more than I can do now – but I’ll keep it in sight.)

I think that’s a good start!!

My goal is to see my Blabber, Snapper, and Blogger Friends showing off their own colorful Miz Meliz Mandala Mugs!!

Oh My GOSH! I almost forgot!

I want to start sending emails with new artwork and information on how to work with me.

Please SIGN UP to be on My Mailing List – I promise I will use this only as a direct line from me to you!

 

Let me know if you have any other ideas for ways I can share my artwork and story.

Thank YOU for making my life Sparkle!

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Tinsel Town Tonight – How The Stars Align in 2016

Posted on February 2nd, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Intentional, Life Coaching, Tinsel Town Live 2016

I guess I have a lot of audacious goals and the stars are aligned for me because everything is happening so fast. I would love to talk about this on my show, Tinsel Town Tonight. Te topic will be, “What Makes the Stars Align For You?” Join me right here for the LIVE broadcast at 7 PM tonight! SCROLL DOWN FOR ALL THE DEETS!

 

My January Recap

I was invited to speak at #ConnectHer16 which has been a hope of mine for some time. I started my coaching practice and sought help in how to really bring it home – and I feel really good about meeting the right people at the right time. I want to book more guests on my talk show and I am loving making the connections. (Gretchen Rubin “liked” my Tweet today about being featured on my show!) I started my online sales of my artwork, huge step for me!

 

 

 

 

 

 

My (official) words for 2016 are Create, Connect, and Sparkle!

 

 What are your words? Have you set an intention for the year? Do you use One Word, or other ways to stay focused?

Do you need some accountability to help you reach your goals? If you want, you can email them to me and I will follow up with you. Send your word/list to me at MizMeliz@Yahoo.com with Accountability in the subject line. You will get a message from me in the summer and just before the holidays to see how you are doing.   By way of holding myself accountible, I am sharing my goals for this year here on my blog. I will give you all the details for the first thing I am developing, my coaching practice. In future posts, I will tell you all about the book I am writing and the story of why I am so obsessed/enamored with mandalas. Here it goes…putting it all out there!

 

My Projects for 2016

I have three main areas of focus that I plan to complete this year.

        • I will put into action a business strategy to open and maintain a viable coaching practice. In other words, I am open for business! And I am working hard to put systems in place to make it wonderfully successful.

 

 

 

        • I will self-publish my 2nd book, More Than a Feeling, available on Amazon in October 2016. Let me know if you want to be on the pre-order mailing list.

 

 

 

        • I will make products available for purchase online with my artwork. The project for this year is 100 Mandalas. If you follow me on Facebook or Instagram, you have seen at least a dozen mandalas I have drawn and/or colored. So, if you like the vibrant colorful designs as much as I do – you can snuggle up with your mandala throw pillow, wrap up in a mandala scarf, take out your mandala notebook, and pour yourself a cup of coffee or tea in your mandala mug – and make it a Miz Meliz Mandala Moment! (Too much? Nah!, use this code and get 20% off everything. CELEBR8 )

 

 

Coaching Practice

Part of my preparation for my strategic plan is to thoroughly define what I aim to do as a coach. Just saying I am a Life Coach is not enough. What sets me apart? What makes me unique and what will help people trust me to help them?
I dug deep. I took time to reach into the core of what I do best, how I do it, and why I am called to do it. I came up with some powerful information. It’s stuff that makes my heart feel funny. The stuff you want to call your mom about.

Here are some titles I am considering for myself:

Emotional Well-being Transformation Specialist 

Roller Coaster of Life Coach

Emotional Train Wreck First Responder

Emotional Transformation Guide

What ever I end up calling myself, I vow to be your guide to living a happy, carefree, self-fulfilled, and hopeful life. 

I can help you:

  • Find your self 
  • Find your voice 
  • Find your way

Are you feeling:

  • Lost
  • Forgotten
  • In a fog
  • Confused
  • Stagnant
  • Unmotivated 
  • Stretched
  • Complacent

Are you:

  • a Caretaker
  • a Parent
  • a Patient
  • a Student
  • Going through loss, or a major life change
  • in need of a confidant, friend, or cheerleader

If you are:

  • Tired
  • Bored
  • Depleted
  • Depressed
  • Anxious 
  • Stressed 
  • Over worked
  • Grieving

And if any of these statements fit you:

  • I have been surviving this way for so long that I don’t even recognize myself.
  • The person I once was, the person I am on the inside, is dying to get out and live again.
  • I am just going through the motions, getting through the day, the week, the month… I am not even sure what it is that I want anymore.
  • I have been helping, serving, raising, assisting other people for so long, sacrificing my own plans and dreams, that I think I have forgotten who I am, I don’t even remember what I aspired to be.
  • I feel like my goals don’t matter.
  • It is too late to live my dream life.
  • I spend more time thinking about my secret happy place to get away from the daily grind than imagining any type of future for myself. At least I know I can’t fail at it.

I know how you feel!

I have personal experience with all of this. I always thought my dream was to get married, have kids, please my parents, have a job, save money, and that would be what would make me happy. That is as far as I could see for myself when I was in that time of my life. Well, I got there. It was great. I felt happy. I did what I set out to do. Then I realized that I didn’t aim high enough. I had everything I wanted and I wanted more. Just when I started planning a future for myself, thinking about soaring with the wind, flying free and being my best self, the shit hit the fan. Everything fell apart. My life was shattered. And then it hit again.  And again. And again. And again. I began to believe that my life was shit. It didn’t matter that I still had a home, a husband, a family, a job. I risked it all and lashed out, acted out, freaked out, and I began having panic attacks, anxiety, depression and chronic pain. 

I dealt with destruction, drama, disease, and death. I had marriage issues, health issues, mental issues, fitness issues, to the point of having issue issues! I got the help I needed. (There is a lot packed in that little statement. A ton. It wasn’t easy and it took time. I couldn’t do it alone. I got the help I needed.) 

Through all of this, on the outside I seemed fine. Nobody knew the misery I was putting myself through on the inside. I had to make a change.

I looked within myself and I found her. My inner sweetheart. My inner child. And she still had dreams. She still had ideas and excitement and joy. She waited for me. She will always be there. She has new ideas all the time. All I have to do is listen. We grow together. We always keep learning, growing, experiencing life and all that it is meant to be. 

If you have been distracted, dismayed, or depressed to the point of despair, I can help you find your path. 

You can go from:

  • Heartbroken to heartwarming
  • Self-sabotaging to self-confident 
  • Sacrificing to successful 
  • Martyrdom to Masterful
  • Misguided  to Motivated
  • Victimized to Vindicated
  • Torn to terrific
  • Lonely to lovely
  • Depressed to dazzling 
  • Fallen to fabulous 
  • Broken to beautiful 
  • Painful to playful
  • Jealous to joyful
  • Hollow to happy
  • Tired to inspired
  • Anxious to Amazing 
  • Feeling awful to being amazing
  • Go from “merely existing to “here to be awesome!”

Yes, you can still be who you are; a helper, an assistant, a parent, a caretaker. You can serve others without sacrificing yourself, without losing your own passions, desires and needs.

I will show you how to live with intention, insight, and inspiration.

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I will help you find your voice and sing out joyfully. You will find yourself and you will sparkle and shine when you live the life that you are meant to live. You will achieve your dreams and turn your goals into plans. That fog will lift and you will feel yourself glowing with energy. 

You will be:

  • Gracious 
  • Joyful 
  • Happy
  • Hopeful
  • Carefree
  • Stress free 
  • Satisfied 
  • Fulfilled
  • Alive 

You will learn to:

  • Listen to your inner sweetheart not your inner daemons (screaming banshee or bride of Frankenstein.)
  • Mind map instead of brainstorm
  • Plan instead of dream
  • Think positive 
  • Be proactive 
  • Know what you want and what you stand for and do what you believe in

If I am your coach, we will take an adventure together:

  • Experience for yourself how far trusting yourself can take you. 
  • Find your thing. Your passion. Your core value. Your inner strength. Your true desires. 
  • Look deep within. Look far ahead. Envision all the possibilities. Map it out. Get going. Love the life you want. 
I can’t tell you how I will do it or when it will happen for you. That is up to you. It is different for everyone and I know countless ways to activate the things that are most important that will work for you. Just show up, that is the first step. Every coaching experience is different, but I am very close to everyone I meet and I will always be here for you. I have only served a few clients in the past year or so, and I was not sure that I have what it takes to be an effective and sought after coach. I needed some feedback. I asked people I have coached for testimonials and suggestions to improve my coaching practice.
The response was so affirming!
I listed them below…I am so humbled.
I am really motivated to get my coaching practice re-activated. I already have courses (referred to as “workouts” below!) and mini-retreats scheduled.
My calendar is pre-loaded on Trainer.ly for one on one coaching sessions:

Testimonials

  • “I love the way you speak. You’re so calm and clear in everything that you say. You listened to every word I had to say and you were very helpful with my situation. I like how you tied in stories of your own to give me examples and tips that would motivate and inspire me.”
  • “I really appreciated how easy it was for us to schedule a time to talk – you are so great about being flexible with your time. And being able to have sessions over the phone was such a blessing for a busy mother of two!”
  • “You have a very good memory and were able to connect dots from our different conversations. I also truly felt you were sincere – when you told me my work was meaningful and valuable, I believed you and it made me stop devaluing what I did and see my work in a new light.”
  • “It’s funny because with you I was able to verbalize what I really wanted but never said out loud because it was such a hopeless pipe dream – I wanted the job that I had 12 years ago back. It seemed impossible, but once I said it and really let myself want it, I ended up getting it back!! Coincidence? I think not!”
  • “You are very in tune with such a vast variety of people, from all walks of life. You truly care about others, and I always feel good after visiting your group:)”
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Mandalas and Motivation Spark Creativity and Productivity LIVE Discussion

Posted on January 24th, 2016 by & filed under Be Inspired, Everything Miz Meliz, Intentional, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

I love colorful drawings and art. Mandalas are an amazing way to tap into my creativity. I love looking at them, drawing them, coloring them, and sharing them. What sparks your creativity? What motivates you to sparkle?


The only limits you haveare the ones that you believe.-Wayne Dyer

Discover and Believe in Yourself

Posted on January 20th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Intentional, Life Coaching, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

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This week’s topic: Welcoming

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The only limits you haveare the ones that you believe.-Wayne Dyer

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