I Love My LIfe

We are Meant for Great Things #MizMeliz

Posted on March 30th, 2014 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe

Postcard from Miz Meliz Created by Melissa Reyes copyright 2013

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Interview with a Life Coach – the Answers

Posted on January 29th, 2014 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe

Thank you Kate!
I was so excited to hear from you and love that our friend Maribel brought us together!
Here are the answers to your wonderful questions:
I became certified in October 2012 after I researched long and hard, just like you have been doing, and it was the best thing I ever did! (Well, almost!) One thing that I loved about my journey to becoming a life coach was that it was pretty easy. Seriously, I made every decision with my heart and so far it has been a joyous experience. I have always felt confident about doing it because it felt so natural and I was so passionate about it every step of the way. Everything started to fall into place.
Once I decided what types of coaching I wasn’t interested in doing, I narrowed the training options down to what I was most comfortable with. Then I looked at cost, which was an issue for me. I found some reasonable options and that narrowed it down quite a bit. I chose the program based on what felt like a good fit. I read every word on their website and all the testimonials that I could find. I was so worried about buying into a scam. I did not want to be duped. No one I knew at the time even knew what a life coach was and to explain it sounded like a scheme. I was embarrassed to think that it could be a terrible mistake. Especially because it felt so right for me.
I went with Fowler-Wainwright International for a few reasons. One was the ease of completing the program online. The cost was affordable. Once enrolled, there was a lot of ongoing support. But, mainly it was because I loved the sound of Barbara Wainwright’s voice. I could listen to her all day! Since all of the training was in her voice, I enjoyed the sessions and felt comfortable the whole time. She is very encouraging and supportive.  She has gone on to form her own group, Wainwright Global, which I highly recommend.
2012-10-21 16.17.21 photo by Melissa Reyes copyright 2012 http://mizmeliz.com
 I believe becoming a certified professional coach is what gave me the confidence to get started. You do not have to be certified to be a life coach. You can start helping people as soon as you feel comfortable. I began to take it seriously once I committed myself to the program. The tools that I learned re-emphasized my inherent beliefs. The credential has helped me to be taken seriously by others. Having completed the course, I feel that I have earned the title. It was a big accomplishment for me!


I have always wanted to help others. In high school I was interested in psychology and psycho-therapy. I was introduced to a leadership program where I was trained to be a small group leader at retreats. Even though I already knew back then that I wanted to be a counselor of some type, I realized that I was a very emotional person. I did not think that I could cope with helping people with traumatic experiences. I pursued other interests for many years. As I matured I realized that I was the person people came to when they needed to talk and that I was in fact a life coach before I even knew such a thing existed.

Photo by Melissa Reyes Copyright 2013

I think a life coach is someone who can listen with an open mind, guide by example, not ever judge, love all people, and be completely dependable. A life coach does not give advice. We don’t try and fix people. We are accepting and understanding. A life coach can see the good qualities that a person has and they can help that person make and achieve their goals. I help people to find their passion and live their purpose. I help to light the path on their journey. I help them to see themselves in a positive light and I help them to learn that they can live to their full potential.
A great sports coach can see abilities in an athlete and help him or her to reach their full physical potential. A business coach helps people reach their professional goals. I help people realize their dreams for themselves, find joy in their life and live in gratitude of the moment.
I am still working towards making this a business. I am still not sure if that is what I want exactly.  Right now it is a calling. Perhaps, a ministry. I believe in unfolding to a certain degree and going where I am meant to be. Since I have a full time job, I am allowing myself to be who I am at heart. I am a life coach. I am a writer. I am many things to many people. At some point, I may develop it into a business. I am always open to taking on paying clients. I offer a six week session that can be scheduled on my website. I also do workshops and mini-retreats. I am currently writing a self-help book. So, in the process of doing all of these things, I meet people who need me and I am there. I like it that way. For now.
Miz Meliz Keeping it Together Workshop

“Fulfilling Commitments” is part of The Develop Your Best Self section of I AM KEEPING IT TOGETHER Life Balance Workshop with Miz Meliz 2012

My advice for someone who may be interested in life coaching as a business would be to know which it is you want. Do you want to be a life coach? Do you want to have a business? Do you simply want to be happy doing what you love? We can have it all. Make a plan. See it in  your mind the way you are the most comfortable, happy, and successful. Then work to make that happen. It is easier than you think!
Here is a question for you Kate, what are you dreaming of? What has lead you to wanting to be a life coach?

How about you?

What are you dreaming of doing?
Would you ever consider having a life coach help you?
Leave a comment…BE A PART OF THE INTERVIEW…ask me anything about life coaching.

GOALS BINGO! #14in2014

Posted on January 27th, 2014 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe

It’s time to look at my goals for the year.

My word for 2014 that I have decided to focus on is Discovery. I look forward to learning new things and breaking out of my comfort zone. I plan to share these discoveries with you. I also have some things that I hope to accomplish this year. Some are personal, some professional, and some are things that I always need to be reminded to stay on track!  Recently I posted a fun idea for keeping track of goals with…BINGO. I am going to give it a try. I am also joining the Valentine RD’s #14in2014 Goals/Resolutions/Intentions Link-up. There will be a quarterly check-in to see how everyone is doing on their goals. I hope to at least have a “bingo” by then!

So, here goes nothin’! These are my goals I hope to achieve this year:

2014 Goals

As for major goals – I have a few I want to accomplish in 2014:

  • Publish another book
  • Move to a new home
  • Keep my blood sugar levels (A1C) within normal range
  • Not gain weight
  • Help my son apply to college (yeah, my 2nd son is at that stage!)


How about you?

What are some of your goals for 2014?

Do you have a fun way to stay on track?

Leave a comment!

Share with me, So I can CHEER YOU ON!

Discovering How Mindfulness and Meditation Make it All Better

Posted on January 26th, 2014 by & filed under Be Inspired, Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe

Sometimes I feel like I am taking things too hard, or too personally. I start to wonder, “why me?” And I think, “oh no, not this again!”

I am guest posting on The Responsive Universe  – so head over there to read my post about mindfulness and meditation.

My post features this song by Genesis, Taking it All Too Hard as well as quotes from the book, The Responsive Universe by John C. Bader. You will also see a graphic of The Tree of Contemplative Practices, from The Center for Contemplative Mind in Society. This graphic shows all the varying types of practices used for mindfulness and meditation. 

Being mindful makes a difference in my life.

How about you?

What are some contemplative practices that you have tried that help you to center yourself and call out your healthy and happy inner voice?

Leave a comment. . .

Mind Over Matter When It Matters

Posted on October 30th, 2013 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe

In this blog post, I will be taking a look at mindfulness. In particular, how having a life coach, practicing self-care, and choosing to have a positive outlook impacts our well-being.  I believe having a positive attitude and choosing happiness has made a difference in my life.  Let’s talk about how we can face challenges and overcome fears using the mindful approach.


“In the end, just three things matter:

How well we have lived
How well we have loved
How well we have learned to let go.”
― Jack Kornfield

According to Psych Central, “Mindfulness is the practice of bringing our awareness to what we are experiencing in the present, both internally and externally, without judgment. It is a wake-up call to become conscious of the ways we perceive and respond to life’s situations.”

How do I respond to life’s situations?

For the most part, honestly, I get stressed out and worried.  I don’t have all the answers.  I am not always in control.  I am afraid that I won’t be able to handle the situation.  I try to listen to my inner-sweetheart, but I shake my head in disbelief.  How will I ever handle all of this?

“The hardest battle you are ever going to fight is the battle to just be you.” ~Leo Buscaglia

Here are some healthy things that you can do next time you are facing challenges:

  • You can change your thinking style to manage stress and improve your attitude.
  • Use mindfulness to combat limiting beliefs.
  • Choose where to put your attention.
  • Replace worrisome thoughts with positive thoughts.
  • Choose to listen to the calming voice of reason.

My inner sweetheart is getting better at reminding me to calm down. She says, “Just breathe.  You can handle this. Take on one thing at a time.” I know when I listen to my inner “Bride of Frankenstein,” I will not get anywhere.  She is just too scatterbrained and easily agitated.  I know that I need to focus.

Be the master of change.

Now that I realize that I am creating the stress by how I filter and process what is happening around me, I can change my ways.  I can decide how I will accept what is happening and how I will respond.

I tell myself, “Just be you. Because you are great!” I am confident in my ways and know that this works for me.  In every situation, I always fare better when I choose positivity.

What is the worst thing that can happen?  Paige Burkes of Simple Mindfulness asks this question as she discusses ways to overcome fears using the mindful approach.

I made a list of all the things that concerned me, all of my challenges in no particular order. It helped to see everything listed in this way.  If I see these things as signals or signposts as they come my way, I can pause for a moment and choose how I will respond.  Now that I have identified them, I will recognize them easily and I will yield to my inner voice telling me to slow down, use caution, and choose the right path. Afrterall, what is the worst thing that will happen? It may be that I just need to try harder, get more information, practice, think twice before reacting, or simply be patient.

  1. Dealing with difficult people
  2. Being assertive without being labeled a “bitch”
  3. Managing stressful situations
  4. Keeping up a positive image, managing perceptions
  5. Staying Organized
  6. Communication (communicating clearly with others)
  7. Multi-tasking and completing projects
  8. Self-sabotage, facing fears and following through
  9. Continued personal growth
  10. Letting go (of things that no longer matter)
  11. Saying “No” – prioritizing
  12. Continued professional development
  13. Reaching Goals, facing my fear of success
  14. Increasing efficiency
  15. Managing finances

Martina McGowan of Musings and Affirmations proposes that we can learn and grow from challenging circumstances.  She says that we can resolve to use resources that reminds us of our own strengths.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

According to Sue MacGillivray of Life Coaching Solutions, “CBT looks at how to manage problems by changing our thought processes and thereby our behavior. In coaching, this too becomes relevant. Coaches need to understand how their clients encounter and view the world around them.

As we know, we all react differently to situations. How we act often depends on our ingrained belief system and how we view ourselves and our surroundings. If our interpretations are misjudged, unhelpful to us or illogical, our personal well-being will suffer.

It is so important to remember that our beliefs are thoughts and ideas that are no longer questioned. They have the power to create or destroy. Every thought, action or expectation is a direct result of our beliefs. So, if our beliefs (and thereby our thoughts) are limiting and negative, particularly about ourselves, we need to be able to challenge these. As difficult as it may seem, we absolutely have control over what we believe and therefore what we think and how we behave or react.”

Here are some types of CBT that you can do to manage your stress:

  • Meditation
  • Breathing
  • Muscle Relaxation
  • Coaching

Talking to someone really helps!  Dr. Evans says that there is a 28% lower risk of death for people who received health care plus some type of therapy, and the more sessions they had, the better they did.

Please take the time to watch this video when you can.  It explains in a FUN way how you can manage your stress and how it can SAVE YOUR LIFE!

The Single Most Important Thing You Can Do For Your Stress by Dr. Mike Evans

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What other things can I do to reduce stress?

  • Write
  • Exercise
  • Rest
  • Eat healthy and stay on a regular schedule
  • Spend time with friends
  • Have fun
  • Go for a walk

Your thoughts and attitudes can help you navigate through the daily challenges in life.

Read more about practicing mindfulness techniques to reduce stress at Harvard Health and check out the resources in this post from  Psych CentralSimple MindfulnessMusings and Affirmations , and Dr. Evans.

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