I Love My LIfe

What’s Hot and What’s Not? by Melissa Reyes

Posted on June 16th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe, Intentional, Life Coaching, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

What I think is hot may totally not be to you. Wait. What?

I want to know what you think is hot and what you think is not so hot.

This could mean summer plans, high temperatures, or your opinions about what is going on around you – or within your heart. Tell me in the comments below. I will follow up with you.

This is my state of being right now. I feel pretty good. There are things going on in my life and in my family that concerns me. That’s a nice way of saying I am worried and scared about the health and well being of the people I love. I am otherwise pretty happy. Sometimes it is hard to be happy when you are worried.

Here is a little of what is going on this summer on my website and shows:

This Week on MizMeliz.com (1)

 

Click HERE to read my Summer Newsletter

Things I am excited about – – an Update

Besides it being my favorite season – the summer sun is hot and the sky is clear – I am happy about some of the projects I have been working on. I know I am doing a lot and I am always busy. I am currently worried that you might be confused. Especially if you are just discovering me. Who is Miz Meliz? What does she do? If you are thinking that and you have found yourself reading this post, that’s good! I would like to clear that up for you.

I am a mom and a wife, a sister and a cousin. First and foremost. My family is the most important thing to me.

I aim to be a positive influence for my family and friends. I am a life coach who helps people feel happiness.

I vowed at the start of this year to make my focus to connect, create, and sparkle. I chose these three words to guide me through the year.

I am so glad I made this commitment because I have consistently connected with people all around the world and in my own community. I continue to enjoy talking with and learning about all the people that I meet. I love people! I have been so happy expanding and growing my community that I have opened a fire hose of creativity. Influenced and encouraged by artists and entrepreneurs alike, I am pushing forward and making a difference in my life by producing artwork. I hope to truly shine (the sparkle) and lead the way to a joyfulness that spreads to everyone I meet. Through art, compassion, and love, I hope to inspire others to enjoy life and experience true joy and happiness. (I know it sounds fru-fru or very “woo,” but if you know me then you know that I am only marginally fru-fru! I am pretty down to earth for the most part.)

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Here is what I am doing:

  • I work full time at a middle school in campus ministry. It’s a great job for me!
  • I am completing a self-reflective art challenge – 100 Mandalas – drawing and coloring 100 mandalas and sharing them online.
  • I am making jewelry and other decorative art projects, stencils, stamps, photos, a coloring book, and affirmation card decks with my mandala art. All of my products are available for purchase.
  • I am producing a weekly video called “Tinsel Town” that airs live and is then posted to You Tube.

I interview people that I believe to be inspiring examples of folks who know their purpose and live their passion. It is fun and I am just about to start my third year! Meet the super stars who inspire me on Tinsel Town.

  • I am co-hosting and participating in another weekly video show with Cindy Harrison called “Paint with Heart” #SparkleandInspire.

Cindy teaches me how to create decorative art projects and we post the videos on You Tube. Anyone can participate, learn, and make their own art projects with us. It’s free and it is an awesome way to experience online classes.

  • I am coaching and counseling people who need guidance and want to live a happy life. People say I am pretty good at it.

Combined with all of the things that I am working on listed above – this act of love is the thing that I am most passionate about. I am seriously in love with helping people.

Talk to me. Tell me what is bugging you. What is bumming you out. We can work it out. What’s hot in your life? What’s not so hot? There are clear skies and sunny days ahead. Believe me!

Check out the tabs in the menu on my blog. There are links to the videos, classes, and my schedule for one on one coaching. I am here for you!

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Your Heart Knows How to #Sparkle by Melissa Reyes

Posted on April 5th, 2016 by & filed under Be Inspired, Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe, Intentional, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

For 2016, my one word intention is “Sparkle!”

What does it mean to sparkle? How does one strive to sparkle? For me, it is another way to show my happiness. I don’t aspire to just be joyful. I want to Rock Joyfulness Like a Super Star!

I want to be happy, connect with other people, build a community of trust and understanding, create tangible expressions of positivity to share, and make the world a happier place with some love making it shine for all to see. That’s all I want. It is not too much to desire. Those are the things that I love. This is what my heart tells me. I believe that my heart knows what it knows. My heart knows how to sparkle.

What makes you happy? Have you asked your heart? It could be little or big. Simple or complex. You could have a small flame of light shining brightly and steadfast which sustains you. Or, you may have a giant multifaceted diamond reflecting sunshine rainbows for all to see.

Your Heart Knows

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unfinished painting by Maria Sanchez https://www.instagram.com/p/BCBN45Eqn_n/ *used with permission 4-5-2016

I listen to my heart and make it a daily practice to choose to be awesome.

Gretchen Rubin is known for helping people find what makes them happy and she challenges them to pursue happiness as a habit. When I had a chance to ask her what makes her happiest, she told me how much she loves reading. Out of everything she could do or say at that moment to inspire the world – she answered with what she held in her heart. She likes to read. It makes her feel good. That is what she does to feel happy. It’s that simple. Do what your heart tells you. Your heart knows what you need. 

I went back to work today after an eleven day spring break vacation. I worked from home during that time on social media, streaming video, and creating artwork. I enjoyed spending time at home and in my studio. I love that room! It makes me happy. I have made it my happy place. It is colorful, warm, and comfortable. Yet, after over a week away, I was happy to return to work.

I took time to notice the things that make me feel happy. Being greeted by Brother Skip as he sits outside the office saying hello to all the children as they arrive before school is a daily boost for me. He reminds me of how my Dad was, abruptly cheerful with a gruff voice booming positivism.

“Hello Sunshine!” I heard him belt out as I walked towards him. It warmed my heart. I literally felt his hug before he could get his arms around me. That was so nice!

I hung up a wind chime in the tree outside my office door. I love hearing it in the afternoon when the wind kicks up. It mixes in with the heightened sounds of the students playing on the field. I forgot how much I enjoy the students. When they came in my office today, they greeted me gleefully and politely asked me about my vacation. I thrive on their youthful energy and enthusiasm.

My boss asked me to work on some projects for her with a strong level of confidence. Being that the projects require a creative touch and her trust in my abilities, I received the kind of validation everyone hopes for in a job.

Today I am happy.

It is my practice, my joy, my mission.

I take a deep breath. I relax my eyelids and my shoulders. I close my eyes and I listen to my heart. 

 

Tell me, if you please, what makes you happiest?

What is your heart saying?

Tinsel Town Tonight Spotlight on #Focus @Tenminitt 3/29/16 6:00 pm PDT

Posted on March 29th, 2016 by & filed under Connecting People, Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe, Intentional, Life Coaching, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching, Tinsel Town Live 2016

Tinsel Town with Miz Meliz

The theme for this week is “FOCUS” and that means I need to get to work! I have lots of moving parts in my life’s work. I create art, I produce content for this blog, I enjoy connecting with people around the world via multiple social media platforms, I spend valuable time with my family and friends, and I have a full time job that I love. That’s a lot!

How can I focus on any of it or all of it? I am trying to come up with a way to tie it all together. I am making sense of my purpose for all that I do. I am considering what is most important to me and what I need to do to get closer to my heart’s true desires. My core values and goals are always top of mind. Mainly, above all is to be happy and love others. To do this well, I put aside differences, keep a cool head when facing challenges, and I try not to worry about most things. I am doing the best that I can. It actually feels pretty good.

So, how do I focus when I have so much happening in my life? This is the perfect time for me to do some streamlining and spring cleaning. I am on a staycation (at home vacation from work) and I have a list of things to accomplish. If I stick to the list and focus – – I will only get closer to my heart’s desire.

My Heart’s Desire is: To be happy, creating, connecting, and best of all, SPARKLING brightly!

Join me on Tinsel Town Tonight, my live talk show, to discuss why it is important to focus on your self and share your current projects with me. I look forward to hanging out with you and connecting!

 

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Being Courageous by Melissa Reyes

Posted on March 9th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe, Intentional, Mindfulness Guidance and Coaching

Jonathan Morrow says “The Cowardly Lion is an unlikely hero who learned to overcome his fears. We are all cowardly lions. Everyday, we have to wake up and remind ourselves how to roar.”

The topic is courage because it comes up again and again for me in my studies of life, business, and self-care.  Actually, it is fear that comes up. Courage is the counterpart to fear. If I don’t want to be afraid, I must be courageous. Right? Maya Angelou said that you need courage in order to practice the other more important virtues. Courage is the starting point for transformation. Courage is needed to move forward with plans and goals and wants and dreams. We don’t do anything without some level of courage. (I wrote about Courage before.)

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If it weren’t for courage, I might stay in bed all day where it is safe and warm and comfortable. If it weren’t for courage, I would never voice my opinion or make any choices for myself. Courage gives me a voice. Courage gives me an opinion. Courage has a lot to do with who I am. ~M. Reyes 3-9-16

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In Jon Morrow’s article about the Cowardly Lion, he goes through the steps the lion took to get courage in the story of The Wizard of Oz. He related these steps to the tools needed to activate courage when taking on a new business or project. I went over many of these principles in my interview with David Vaughan on Tinsel Town Tonight, when he portrayed the Lion to prove a point about what it takes to be courageous. The point is this – we aren’t naturally courageous. We need to make an effort. We must activate our courage and we must do this often. 

Here are some tools to use when activating your courage:

Desperation – when you have “hit rock bottom” or are at your “wit’s end” that feeling will motivate you to make a change

Motivation – use that motivation to set some goals and get going. Don’t wait – move on it.

Discovery – If you have questions about how and when you will change and complete your mission, use that as a means to discover whatever you need to take the next step.

Challenge – if it was easy, it wouldn’t be worth fighting for, or trying so hard. Challenge yourself and make it important.

Ignore your inner critic – those negative voices are telling you that it can’t be done, or it is too hard. Ignore it! It means that you can do it. The chemicals in your brain make you think these thoughts in order to protect you from harm. You know what you are doing. Believe the positive and encouraging voice inside you.

Compassion – you feel called to help someone in need. You care about the people who depend on you. These are good reasons to step up and make things better for everyone.

Collaboration/Partnerships – You aren’t alone in this. Bounce off your ideas with your bestie. Work with some knowledgeable people and come up with a plan together. Support each other through this. Two heads are better than one and all that.

Celebrate – It is good to honor the milestones and remember the past. You have made it this far. Pat yourself on the back and soak in the recognition you deserve. That makes you want more of it even more, Keep up the good work.

Keep going – when things fail, try and try again. When things get stagnant, keep going. You might be a few steps away from achieving your goal. You won’t know if you don’t keep going forward.

Take notes – journal, keep a photo album, document your work and your achievements. Refer back to them and review what you did that worked. Enjoy the memories and share them. You did it! You believed you could do it and you did it! Write the book. Frame the certificate. Send the announcements. You totally deserve it. It wasn’t easy. You are awesome!

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Courage Mandala by Melissa Reyes for the 100 Mandala Project

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I have learned that the following things are important in order to be successful.

This is a good reminder for me and I hope it helps you as well.

  • Be willing to do what it takes to get what you want and make things happen.
  • Be unpopular and remember not everyone will understand or care about what it is you are trying to do.
  • Try again and again because each failure is an experience to build on.
  • Pay the price and don’t go cheap. Important things are costly. Either financially or emotionally.
  • Never give up. Never, never give in or give up. Keep the faith.
  • Being mindful and having a purpose or intention is vital in being a success at whatever you do. (aka mindset)
  • Educate yourself and continue to learn all the days of your life.
  • Be prepared for anything. No matter what happens, you are ready for greatness!

courageMy Story

When I was young, I was shy. I mean when I was really young. I was the youngest in the family. The only child in a world of adults and teenagers. I would hide behind my mother. I never let go of her. I was afraid of being alone, going to the doctor or dentist, being left at preschool, clowns. I was afraid of anything that might separate me from my mother, from my safety zone. Eventually I overcame the separation anxiety and enjoyed school and making friends. But until high school, I was still pretty shy. Even at work when I was in my 20’s I didn’t voice my opinion. In college, I stayed to myself in class and never asked questions. I was an observer. I thought it was being respectful. I wasn’t really sure what my own opinions were. I was a people pleaser and I followed the direction of others that I trusted for the most part. Of course, I don’t know if I knew that I was doing that at the time. But, when I finally discovered my own voice and my own opinions welled up to the surface I knew! It was still awhile before I found courage.

I was searching for something. I wanted validation. I wanted success. I wanted to be heard. I needed to feel important.

The seed of “me” had developed inside all that time and I was ready to bloom.

It took courage. Courage and determination. They say when you are ready you know. When you are ready to get married, have children, move to another place, change careers, all those major decisions. You are supposed to know. I don’t necessarily agree. I believe when you feel uneasy with who you are or what you are doing, it is time to make a change. What do you think?

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In what ways have you changed and what did it take to get the courage you needed to do so?

For me, I am creative and I like to make things. Every project is a way to start anew. Writing is a way to start something and see it through. Travel and planning events and vacations is another way I use my abilities. Each project takes courage to start and to be successful. I started taking on bigger projects. Becoming a life coach. Writing a book. Doing a live talk show. Publishing and sharing my work. Planning a move. Speaking at conferences and workshops. Everyday I remind myself that I am capable, I am loved, and I can be heard. Do I roar? Not exactly. But I know I can!

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This is My (deep breath) Audacious Project for 2016 #Create #100Mandalas @redbubble

Posted on February 18th, 2016 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, I Love My LIfe, Intentional, Passions

Okay, (deep breath) I would like to debut my mandala artwork available for sale on various products on Red Bubble. This is huge for me because I never shared my drawings with anyone publicly until this year. I started a 100 Mandala Project and I am holding myself accountable by telling others and making it a community endeavor. (I tried this last year and I stopped after four drawings!)

mandalaSo far, in just the past four weeks since I started drawing my own designs I have completed dozens.  I have tapped into my creativity in a big way and the Mandala Project has spread! I have been asked to introduce drawing and coloring mandalas at the school where I work and with the homeless at the recuperative care center where my brother works. I want to show how drawing and coloring is a good way to reduce stress and can be a very powerful spiritual experience.

Recently, I overheard a student telling another girl that she feels so good when she finishes coloring one. It made my day! I want to propose making a community mandala -combining the work of my students into one big mandala and transfer the design to a mural that I will paint on a wall at the school.

Why the deep breath? Because this is one of those projects that is taking off as fast as I can tell you about it! It wasn’t planned or thought out other than in my dreams. And now, I can weave the project into everything I do and it all makes sense to me.

http://www.redbubble.com/people/mizmeliz?ref=artist_title_name

Here is a checklist of places I intend to share my story:

  • Tinsel Town Tonight
  • My Facebook Profile Page MizMelizLA (check, all the time!)
  • My Facebook Fan Page Tinsel Town
  • Facebook Groups
    • SoCal Lady Bloggers
    • BlabNation
    • Women of Midlife
  • Twitter
  • Twitter Cards (Thanks Jen Lenher! Learn How to Rock Twitter!)
  • SnapChat (check, but more to come!)
  • Instagram (of course! check!)
  • Live Streams
  • Pinterest (Yep, check it out!)
  • My website MizMeliz.com (check, but maybe weekly?)
  • Trainer.ly courses (This is where you sign up, only $10 per session)
  • Zoom Sessions
  • The school where I work (check, and double check!)
  • Hope of the Valley and other homeless shelters and children’s groups like Boys and Girls Clubs
  • Community classes – maybe the library, parks and recs, community college. (Jeeze! That’s maybe more than I can do now – but I’ll keep it in sight.)

I think that’s a good start!!

My goal is to see my Blabber, Snapper, and Blogger Friends showing off their own colorful Miz Meliz Mandala Mugs!!

Oh My GOSH! I almost forgot!

I want to start sending emails with new artwork and information on how to work with me.

Please SIGN UP to be on My Mailing List – I promise I will use this only as a direct line from me to you!

 

Let me know if you have any other ideas for ways I can share my artwork and story.

Thank YOU for making my life Sparkle!

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