Everything Miz Meliz

Hitting the Wall

Posted on February 1st, 2011 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz

Home sick today.  Stomach flu and cramps.  Last week I went to work even though I had the flu pretty bad.  I felt obligated because I knew it would be busy and I was needed.  It was a tough week for me.  My kids were all sick with varying degrees of the flu.  As a mother, I wanted to be able to focus on them and take care of them better than I did this past week.  I feel badly.  They are great kids.  My husband, who managed to not get sick this time, did just fine taking care of us.  Somehow being sick put me in a funk.

I felt great Friday and Saturday.  I went out with my girlfriend and had a fantastic time on Saturday night.  Then I hit a wall on Sunday.  I am glad today is the 1st of the month.  I feel like I can get a fresh start.  I am home.  I am sick.  But the wall is breaking down.  I know what I need to get better and get motivated.  I need to go shopping!

Seriously, I need to get groceries!  Some fresh homemade food is definitely in order.  All that comfort food from last week is weighing me down.  I need the antioxidants.  Berries, yogurt, and whole grains usually does the trick.  A salad and some lean meat for dinner sounds good.  Even the walking while shopping gets me going.  I have been pretty lazy lately.  Maybe I will even clean out the fridge and clean the kitchen.  That should do it!

Now, if I can only get off this couch . . .

I’ve Come Back Again

Posted on October 12th, 2009 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz

I love Facebook!  There are many things that I like about it.  I enjoy posting pictures and sharing them easily with my family.  I like keeping an eye on my kids and seeing what their interests are.  I have been making new friends with other parents at my kids’ schools.  I have reconnected with relatives that live far away or that I have not heard from in ages. I have found friends from college, high school, elementary school, as well as old co-workers and neighbors.  All great stuff!
The most valuable thing that has come from my connections on Facebook has been the mini-reunions that have taken place with these long-lost friends.  But surprisingly, it hasn’t been finding these old friends and catching up with them that has meant the most to me.  It has been the person that I lost touch with somewhere between marriage and baby number three that I have enjoyed getting to know again.  Myself.
I have heard that phrase, “finding oneself.”  I never really knew what it meant.  I did know that I didn’t feel like the real me for a very long time.  Seeing old friends who knew me in school and before I had kids has brought back memories and most importantly my core values and interests have resurfaced due to these recollections.
Just today I got a comment from a high school friend, “I heard the song “True” on the radio today and it always makes me think of YOU!”  How profound is that??  “True” is a song from one of my all time favorite bands, Spandau Ballet.  I still quote lyrics from their songs all the time.  My love of this band defined me in high school.  I had forgotten about it for a while, but it always seems to come up again and again.  She remembers this about me?  Even now, after about 25 years?  We weren’t even that close.  Does she know how much it means to me?  How these words are so very meaningful to me? Even now!
So true funny how it seems
always in time, but never in line for dreams
Head over heels when toe to toe
This is the sound of my soul,
this is the sound
I bought a ticket to the world,
but now I’ve come back again
Why do I find it hard to write the next line
Oh I want the truth to be said
These lyrics remind me of my faith, my belief in God, my understanding of the journey that I am on in my life.  Exploring, reaching out, taking chances, yet always coming back and accepting the truth.
I had already considered blogging about my Facebook experiences when I got that comment today.  It was the catalyst I needed to actually get started.
I am in it now.  This is the sound of my soul.  This is the sound. . .
 

There is Significance in Everything

Posted on February 16th, 2008 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz

 “It started out as a Mardi Gras party!”

 

Partygras! 2008 Melissa’s 40th ‘Academy Awards’ Birthday Party

You might as well know how it all started, in case you weren’t there.  Many of you were there – but maybe I never told you why Lito and I had the first “PartyGras.”  There is significance in everything.

After I had my third child, I suffered from severe postpartum depression.  And unlike Brooke Shields – I didn’t have friends like Tom Cruise and Oprah Winfrey to tell me how to live my life.  But I did  have a great supportive family and amazing friends who gave me sound advice.  I was bored at home having not worked at a “real” job for six years.  I was doing the mommy and me thing for the third time around and I felt stuck.  Of course most of my feelings had more to do with the postpartum than reality – but it is extremely difficult to separate the two at the time.

I needed an outlet, something to look forward to, something creative and fun.  Lito and I had attended an event at Julian’s school that had a Mardi Gras theme some time back and we loved it.  We talked about having a theme party or going to Mardi Gras in New Orleans ourselves someday.  We recalled being at Disneyland when they had a New Orleans style parade and they called it “PartyGras!”  We love anything and everything Disney!

So, the goal became having a theme party.  Something we can repeat for years that would become our “signature” event.  We tried for many years to gather our friends together by having Christmas or New Year’s parties and open houses.   But people always had other obligations.  We wanted something that our friends would look forward to every year.  It was something that I looked forward to every year!  I loved thinking about it, planning it and attending it.  It wasn’t a kid’s party or a birthday party, or tied to any religious milestone.  It was a party just for fun, that anyone could enjoy.  Well, almost anyone!  PartyGras is for adults only!

Why only adults?  Well, that was a no brainer at first!  I was surrounded by little kids and babies and everything I did at that point in my life had to do with children and/or other parents.  Mommy & Me, tumbling class, Karate class, Indian Guides, preschool, kindergarten, Barney, Blues Clues, diapers, feedings, snack time, nap time . . . And I had been focussed on this stuff (and loving it most of the time) for six years!  I needed and wanted to go out and have fun – adult fun, dressing up, having a cocktail in a glass, listening to loud music, singing, dancing, hanging out with friends, staying up late – very late, and letting loose!  One liberating thing was being able to say anything without being guarded.  In other words – I didn’t have to spell out things I didn’t want my kids to hear me say and I could use some “colorful” expletives, if I wanted!

“If the mountain cannot come to Mohammad, Mohammad will go to the mountain.”  Or in this case, vice-versa!  If I can’t go clubbing – I will bring the club to my house!  Luckily, with a little pleading, Lito agreed!  And so it happened.  It was a blast!  PartyGras!  The first one was a Mardi Gras theme.  Everyone came dressed in their best Mardi Gras costumes, there was a prize for the most creative.  It was a potluck – a Cajun Cooking Contest – with a prize for Lito’s favorites.  We knew he would try everything!  We had beads for the flashers, lots of drinks and karaoke.  That was the entertainment.  It was a blast!

I already planned on having one every year and the name of the annual event would always include “PartyGras” (pronounced pardy-graw.)  We crowned the couple who put their best foot forward with enthusiasm and zeal as “The King & Queen of  PartyGras!”  We started in 2001 which made it easy – something not planned – to remember the number of years we have been doing this!

1.  Partygras! Cajun Cookoff

2.  Partygras ’02: Flamenco/Spanish

3.  Partygras III:  I dream of Jeanie Pajama Party/60’s Convenience Foods

4. Partygras IV:  Club 10532 70’s Party/Fondue

5. PartyArgh V:  Pyrate Party/Potluck

6.  Partygras VI:  Vamp Night/Potluck

7.  Partygras ’07:  The Godfather/Italian

8.  Partygras! 2008:  Academy Awards/Hor d’oerves

And the winner is . . . everyone!  I hope you enjoyed it.  It was by far the best one ever.  I’ll remember always your acceptance speech, as you were given the Academy Award for what you are best at – friendship!  Everyone had their 45 seconds of fame!

I would like to thank you, my friends, for making these memories the highlights of my life!  No amount of medication, exercise, and counseling could bring me out of depression without your support and love!!!

Ole’

Is It Time for Life?

Posted on February 16th, 2008 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Poems

Is it time for life? 
 
I have had enough death and illness. 
 
Yes, Simon jumped.  Dad died suddenly.  Mom died after a long illness.  Friends die of Cancer.  People have heart attacks.  It sucks! 
 
It makes me sad. 
 
I wonder.  What do I do know?  Why can’t I get over it? 
 
I am so happy about a lot of things.  I have a good life.  It’s my life and it is pretty cool. 
 
It is time. 
 
It’s time for life and love and happiness!
 

Looking at the Horizon

Sunshine and Rain

Posted on September 22nd, 2007 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Poems

Where is the sunshine?
Where is the rain?
What happened to the fun times?
Before all this pain.
 
I identify with the seasons;
the elements are my friends.
I know all the reasons,
I’ve followed all the trends.
 
You are my sunshine
You are my rain
You are the fun times
You are the pain
 
There are days when I understand
everything that is happening to me
and there are days
when I am completely lost
 
The fog comes over me
The fog comes over me
The fog comes over me
It is dense and thick
and I can’t see
What is happening to me?
 
Where is the sunshine?
Where is the rain?
What happened to the fun times
before all the pain?
 
I am the person they come to
with all their problems
I am the one they seek
I have all the answers
I am at the peak
 
My intuition tells me
what I need to know
The answers come from my heart
the truth is what I feel
 
Everything is very clear
it is always the same
The fog lifts now
and I know your name
 
You are my sunshine
you are my rain
you are the fun times
you are my pain
 
There are times when I am lonely
There are days I am in need
You aren’t my one and only
But to you I make this plea
 
Be there for the sunshine
Be there for the rain
Be there for the fun times
Be there for the pain
 
When the fog has lifted
When the fog has lifted
When the fog has lifted
 
Come to the one with the answers
Come to the one who knows
I am the one with the key
If love is what you need
then I can set you free
 
Melissa Reyes
2-13-02
 
 
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