Everything Miz Meliz

When Grief Revisits Me

Posted on February 3rd, 2011 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz

Foremost on my mind today is a very sad issue. As part of my journey it is important to convey how very sad the loss of a parent is to me.  It seems that many of my peers are suffering a loss right now.  I guess I am at that age.  My own parents live in Heaven.  It takes a long time to cope with that kind of major loss at any age.

Nothing prepares you and no matter how close you are to your mom or dad, it is devastating.  At least three people in my life who I am very close to have recently lost their mom or dad in the past few weeks.  I can count about ten who are dealing with sick parents or their parent has died over the past few months.  It is heartbreaking.  It reminds me of how I felt when it just happened to me.  It was probably the most difficult time in my life.  Thinking about it causes me to revert to some of the deep sadness, depression, and pain that I experienced during those difficult years.  I have posted the Seven Stages of Grief.  I find it helpful to read that when grief revisits me.

I know that the final stages of acceptance and hope is where I want to be. 

I feel truly happy when I get there.  My mom and dad would want me to be happy.

When I see photos of my parents at their best and happiest, it helps me to recall the good times.  I remind myself that I am blessed with such happy memories.  For those whose memories aren’t as happy, in time you will be able to separate the good from the bad.  It takes time, but you will someday be able to look back and be ever so grateful for your life and the ones who brought you into this world.  It is up to you to keep the memory of the good things your parents gave you alive.  Learn from their mistakes, trials and tribulations.  Break the chain, if necessary.  Move forward to a peaceful and joyful time.

Monkeys are Always Out in Front!

Posted on February 2nd, 2011 by & filed under Check This, Everything Miz Meliz

Happy Chinese New Year!

This is the year of The Rabbit.  For all you Rabbits out there, I love you!  Who doesn’t love bunnies ?  I, on the other hand, am a Monkey.   Monkeys are curious creatures.  Not everyone likes them.  In fact, people usually either love them or despise them.  Not many people are indifferent about monkeys.  It makes me think.  I like being a Monkey.  Like all zodiacal descriptions of people, I fit the bill for the most part.  Personally, I prefer to read my daily horoscope at the end of the day.  It is interesting when it is spot on!  (To find out more about the Chinese Zodiac and The Year of the Rabbit, go to: http://www.c-c-c.org/chineseculture/zodiac/Rabbit.html )

Some people are upset that the signs of the Zodiac have shifted.  I don’t really know how that has happened or if it really matters.  I do believe that learning about astrology is interesting and that knowing myself and my tendencies is beneficial.  What do you think?

The Monkey

No task is too great for the clever Monkeys. They master most anything. They have extremely charming manners that draw others. Monkeys solve difficult problems with ease.They are quick-witted,innovative, and they have total and intense belief in themselves. No one delights in their own accomplishments like the Monkeys. Enjoying themselves immensely, they try anything at least once! Monkeys are intellectual and their memory is phenomenal. They recall the smallest details of everything they have seen,read, and heard. They must depend on that memory since they have an otherwise untidy mind. Monkeys are wizards with money. They are original, shrewd, and when they need to, they can fool anyone.There are a hundred and one fantastic schemes they want to try, and you can bet they make some of them work. Even when they take you in, it is hard to be angry with them, or begrudge them anything. They don’t care what opinions others have of them. They know they are lucky, and they also know they have the ability to change things when convenience calls. Monkeys are virtually unsinkable! When the odds are stacked against them, Monkeys know when to quit. Their timing is superb, and they will wait to try another time. If you try to trick Monkeys, they will probably catch you. They never make a move without a plan. They are great strategists. They can spot an opportunity in any form. They never miss a trick!

Monkeys are hard workers once they have a piece of the action. The bigger the piece, the better they do. Monkeys like to travel, and they want to do it first class.They need a certain amount of excitement in their lives.

Since Monkeys get what they want without too much trouble, they may not care about all their conquests. They lose interest quickly and must learn to finish what they start and take care of what they have. People always flock around Monkeys,but Monkeys don’t trust very much. They know a select group of friends that they choose carefully. Money is a must for Monkeys, and they usually have it, or will be in the process of getting it.They know nothing is permanent. They improve and try to do better, and often amaze even themselves. Monkeys like facts and they hate to waste time. Always remember, Monkeys don’t care if you approve of them or not, and if not careful, you will be eating right out of their hands! They are the ultimate diplomats and slip in and out of difficulties with ease.

Monkeys must be careful in romance, although clear-sighted, they are very critical and lose interest in anyone they can’t consider their peer.They are vain and egotistical,but even that is to their advantage.

Monkeys are always out in front!

Find the year that you were born and check out the Chinese Zodiac.  It’s fun and surprisingly accurate!  Xin Nian Kuai Le!  Nian nian you yu!  (Happy New Year and Wishing you prosperity every year!)

Grrround Hog!

Posted on February 2nd, 2011 by & filed under Check This, Everything Miz Meliz

Hitting the Wall

Posted on February 1st, 2011 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz

Home sick today.  Stomach flu and cramps.  Last week I went to work even though I had the flu pretty bad.  I felt obligated because I knew it would be busy and I was needed.  It was a tough week for me.  My kids were all sick with varying degrees of the flu.  As a mother, I wanted to be able to focus on them and take care of them better than I did this past week.  I feel badly.  They are great kids.  My husband, who managed to not get sick this time, did just fine taking care of us.  Somehow being sick put me in a funk.

I felt great Friday and Saturday.  I went out with my girlfriend and had a fantastic time on Saturday night.  Then I hit a wall on Sunday.  I am glad today is the 1st of the month.  I feel like I can get a fresh start.  I am home.  I am sick.  But the wall is breaking down.  I know what I need to get better and get motivated.  I need to go shopping!

Seriously, I need to get groceries!  Some fresh homemade food is definitely in order.  All that comfort food from last week is weighing me down.  I need the antioxidants.  Berries, yogurt, and whole grains usually does the trick.  A salad and some lean meat for dinner sounds good.  Even the walking while shopping gets me going.  I have been pretty lazy lately.  Maybe I will even clean out the fridge and clean the kitchen.  That should do it!

Now, if I can only get off this couch . . .

I’ve Come Back Again

Posted on October 12th, 2009 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz

I love Facebook!  There are many things that I like about it.  I enjoy posting pictures and sharing them easily with my family.  I like keeping an eye on my kids and seeing what their interests are.  I have been making new friends with other parents at my kids’ schools.  I have reconnected with relatives that live far away or that I have not heard from in ages. I have found friends from college, high school, elementary school, as well as old co-workers and neighbors.  All great stuff!
The most valuable thing that has come from my connections on Facebook has been the mini-reunions that have taken place with these long-lost friends.  But surprisingly, it hasn’t been finding these old friends and catching up with them that has meant the most to me.  It has been the person that I lost touch with somewhere between marriage and baby number three that I have enjoyed getting to know again.  Myself.
I have heard that phrase, “finding oneself.”  I never really knew what it meant.  I did know that I didn’t feel like the real me for a very long time.  Seeing old friends who knew me in school and before I had kids has brought back memories and most importantly my core values and interests have resurfaced due to these recollections.
Just today I got a comment from a high school friend, “I heard the song “True” on the radio today and it always makes me think of YOU!”  How profound is that??  “True” is a song from one of my all time favorite bands, Spandau Ballet.  I still quote lyrics from their songs all the time.  My love of this band defined me in high school.  I had forgotten about it for a while, but it always seems to come up again and again.  She remembers this about me?  Even now, after about 25 years?  We weren’t even that close.  Does she know how much it means to me?  How these words are so very meaningful to me? Even now!
So true funny how it seems
always in time, but never in line for dreams
Head over heels when toe to toe
This is the sound of my soul,
this is the sound
I bought a ticket to the world,
but now I’ve come back again
Why do I find it hard to write the next line
Oh I want the truth to be said
These lyrics remind me of my faith, my belief in God, my understanding of the journey that I am on in my life.  Exploring, reaching out, taking chances, yet always coming back and accepting the truth.
I had already considered blogging about my Facebook experiences when I got that comment today.  It was the catalyst I needed to actually get started.
I am in it now.  This is the sound of my soul.  This is the sound. . .
 
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