A Letter to America from Daniel Alexander @danielalex_book

Posted on February 12th, 2014 by & filed under Everything Miz Meliz, Guest Post

Sometimes I wonder, what if I could ask the burning questions that could really make a difference?

Would I get an answer? Could I make a call to action?

My friend Daniel did just that when I asked him if he wanted to write a post for MizMeliz.com. He could have written anything. This is what he sent me…a letter to parents in America.

Questions for America

Meet Daniel Alexander, Author of Through the Crimson Mirror

Meet Daniel Alexander, Author of Through the Crimson Mirror

Dear America,

Overall, I think you are a great country. Yes, you have some problems, like the rest of us. However, you provide for your people, you are strong, you are a leader… I’d like to visit you one day and possibly stay. I’ve even set the language on my computer to English U.S. instead of English South Africa.

I love the way you respond to certain things. I’m reading a book called The Magic of Thinking Big, and the author, David J. Schwartz, makes a good point about learning from mistakes. Look at the Civil Aeronautics Administration (CAA); even though there are few plane crashes, when a plane goes down, the CAA wastes no time trying to figure out what happened. Men and women scourer the crash site and collect every bit of metal and plastic. They analyze and diagnose what happened and create a plan so that it doesn’t happen again. They implement this plan with vigor and force. If every other plane out there suffers from the same defect as the one that went down, well it has a time limit to shape up or ship out. In doing so, the airways become an even safer place to be.

However, something I heard the other day disturbed me. The butt of a news snippet on the radio set off a chain reaction in my mind. Recently, a student in Russia (I assume it was Russia, but as I said, I only caught the end of the news) took his classmates hostage with a gun. I think there were twenty people in the class including the teacher, all being held prisoner by the ‘out of control’ student. The police called the gunman’s father. He was sent in with a bulletproof vest to talk to this son. Fortunately, the plan worked and no one was injured.

This story got me thinking about all the times that this has happened in America. I dare say that it happens frequently, but since the Columbine High School massacre in 1999, America has seen similar incidents happen many, many times. I know a lot of information was gathered about the Columbine incident, and others, but where is the implementation plan that resolves the core of the problem? The core being people.

All negative behaviors boil down to a lack of self-esteem, an inability to feel heard, an inability to get what you want out of life, an imbalanced view on life, or something similar. So why is it not mandatory for kids to learn these skills while in school? We attack the gun laws and all the other so-called causes, but never ourselves and our inability to deal with life. Why: because we are never taught to do anything different?

The saddest part about this is so much of this information exists in our society today. We understand the basic environmental factors that lead to someone bombing a school. We’ve seen a great rise in information about the mind and success in the past few years. For example, we know that attitude is more important than being able to store facts in your mind. Yet, we continue along the same path, teaching kids that getting good marks in school is the way to success.

I addressed this letter to America, but realistically, you (the reader of this) and I don’t have the power to change a government. It’s another lie that we perpetuate in our society. We do however; have the power to change our home environments and ourselves so we can inspire others to do the same. Not an easy task, but answer this: have you ever actively worked on your self-esteem? Sadly, probably not… Right? Look at rates of depression, divorce, alcoholism, drug abuse; they are all on the rise just about all over the world. I think it’s safe to say that if you haven’t actively worked on your self-esteem, it’s probably not as high as you think it is. So then, what’s to stop things from going wrong in your life and you becoming the next statistic or scandal?

That’s probably a little dramatic. I’m certainly not insinuating that you are going to be the next person to hold up a school. But, I’m sure other things are going wrong in your life. What’s your Columbine? And what are you doing to resolve the core problem?

If that question sounds a little daunting to you, I have good news. There are many courses out there: break through weekend, self-esteem courses, communication courses etc. I realize they seem a little weird from the outside. A hypnotherapist said to me the other day, “Self-improvement isn’t sexy.” However, from my experience, the self-esteem course I did just under a year ago helped me rise up from a really dark place. I’ve made friends in that community and put plans in place to live the life I want to live, get what I want to get out of life, instead of having life beat me down. Start small, just do an internet search and explore, learn and grow.

The first step to building your self-esteem, to getting the life you want, is actively choosing to create your own life and raise your self-esteem.

Daniel Alexander

 

Read books by Daniel Alexander and visit his Blog, Facebook and Twitter pages:

Through the Crimson Mirror (Kindle)

Beginner’s success in Public Speaking (Paperback)

Beginner’s success in Public Speaking (Kindle)

Website: Parenting 2.0 The Child’s Perspective

Daniel Alexander’s Facebook Fan Page

@DanielAlex_book on Twitter

 

What do you think?

Do you share Daniel’s fears about the state of kids today who don’t seem to value their own life or the lives of others?

What can we do about it?

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4 responses to “A Letter to America from Daniel Alexander @danielalex_book”

  1. I have been a follower of Danielle for a very long time and this is a very thought provoking post. I agree that there is something wrong with our system. It is sad that innocent children have to be at the mercy of evil and violence. It is also very sad that I children have to go to school in fear each day and wonder if something like Columbine of Sandy Hook is going to happen at their school.

  2. A very thought-provoking letter from Daniel. We’ve all been trying to figure out what to do. Just as there is no one driver for all these events there is no single solution. It’s great when someone takes the time to offer a helpful insight.

    Interesting that Daniel points to a lack of self-esteem as the problem when sometimes it seems to me that our efforts to instill self-esteem in our children are behind some of our problems. So many are taught they are most important and can do no wrong, so don’t learn to deal with situations that don’t go their way.

    Daniel, we have seen many cases where one caring and motivated person HAS changed the direction of our government. Maybe there is someone with the right answer who will do so. In the meantime I know there are many trying different paths in an effort to find the right one.

  3. I have been a admirer of Daniel Alexander’s writing about parenting for some time now. At 68 years of age, it is very clear to me that what happens in the course of being raised as a child is the most fundamental determiner of the good or bad we create as adults. We can transcend those early beginnings, but not without exploring their nature and not without identifying them in ourselves. That our educational system as never assumed responsibility for educating children as to how to take these forward steps, still amazes me. Years ago, as a teacher, I created a curriculum for middle school designed to address the tremendous relational needs and skills that group hungers for, but doing it within the context of their academic studies. And in the classroom, I introduced methods that made my class into a functional family where we learned how to deal successfully with the resulting personal and social problems. However, when I presented it, it was laughed out of the system. It brought to mind a book I once read about the history of education in America that started with the statement: Two hundred years unhampered by progress. If we won’t listen to our own, perhaps we will listen to observers from other cultures as that is a fine way to get to see ourselves clearly.

    • mizmeliz says:

      Thank you Christina,
      All children deserve to be nurtured and cared for in school and in society. There must be ways that this can be done across the board without getting it “laughed out of the system.” We must keep trying. Thank you for your comment.

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