A few years ago I was asked to submit a piece in a book that was written for International Women’s Day. I had never heard of that until then. Now, I think about that honor every year and how important it was to me to be involved. Check out the ebook Cultivating Your Voice by Joy Holland you can also link to it here on MizMeliz.com in my post, International Women’s Day. You can read an excerpt of my contribution, called “Commitment,” below.
This year, I was invited to an exciting online event happening this Thursday, March 5, and I am thrilled to be able to share this invitation with you.
The Coca-Cola Company is celebrating International Women’s Day (March 8) by honoring women from The Adelante Movement, presented by Coca-Cola. This grassroots movement is designed to unite and empower Latina entrepreneurs across the country.
It is part of the Coca-Cola Company’s global #5by20 initiative to enable the economic empowerment of 5 million women entrepreneurs by 2020 across the globe.
Join us and Adelante founder Nely Galán for a live-streamed discussion on the importance of advancing economic opportunities for Latinas. The discussion will be on the heels of Galán’s keynote address to the U.S. Chamber of Commerce International Women’s Day Forum at the United Nations.
Nely Galán, Founder of The Adelante Movement and Latina business leader Alba Adamo, Group Director of Hispanic Marketing, The Coca-Cola Company
You can see Nely on Coke’s #MakeitHappy Commercial here:
This Thursday, March 5, 2015 at 2 pm ET time
RSVP to email@example.com for a link to the live stream.
The Adelante Movement is a pioneer 5by20 partner in the U.S., providing training and tools for aspiring Latina entrepreneurs.
I am celebrating the Latina in me on International Women’s Day by introducing you to the The Adelante Movement #5by20
Use #5by20 to share how you are celebrating International Women’s Day.
…I have turned a corner in my life. I am doing something that I am truly passionate about. I know it is the right thing for me, right now…This is huge for me! As I embark on this new adventure, I feel excitement and joy. I am overjoyed by the possibilities and endless adventures that this road may lead. I feel a sense of accomplishment and a new belief in myself and my abilities. I am exhilarated, energized and ready to take on the world. I am open to new experiences and I am making the most of the journey as it unfolds. ~Melissa Reyes, Cultivating Your Voice, March 3, 2012
Thank you to Abby Todd, Kerry Kerr Tresser, Joy Holland, Ana Lydia Ochoa–Monaco, Carolyn West, Danielle LaPorte, Evita Ochel, Tara Sophia Mohr, Jill Dahl, Kim Somers Egelsee, Nely Galan, and Alba Adamo and empowered women everywhere who make a difference and offer a hand to help others reach their dreams.
A special thanks to The Coca-Cola Company for inviting me to be a part of this movement and allowing me to share it with you. This is in no way an advertisement for any brand – it is an invitation to learn something and celebrate women around the world. I have not been paid by nor do I represent Coca-Cola. All opinions are my own. Read my Disclosure for more information about my posts.
You can register to drive the all new Ford Edge and it’s competitors on March 14th at Santa Anita, HERE
or see the other cities Ford will be visiting with the EcoBoost Challenge.
“It’s FREE, it’s FUN, it’s all from FORD.”
In Define Your Style Envision Your Life’s Goals, I shared how I define my personal style and determine the core values behind my goals using a VISION BOARD. I showed you how making a MIND MAP can be useful to map out the steps needed to get where you want to go in Mind Map Your Intentions and See the Big Picture. I explained how having a FOCUS WORD, in It’s Never Too Late to Set a Focus – Decide on One Word Now, can help with inspiration and motivation while being true to yourself and your life’s ambitions. What tool has been most helpful to you?
In this post I will share an extremely valuable tool that some would say is the most difficult to put into practice. I assure you, once you get the hang of it, it is really rather simple. It’s about not doing things. I hope to empower you to take a look at all the things you are doing right now and decide to stop doing some of them. I will also show you how it makes sense to say, “Thank you, but no thank you.” when you are asked to take on more than you should. I promise, no one will hate you. In fact, they will admire you for knowing your capabilities and always following through on the things you commit yourself to doing. I will help you to be prepared to say, “Yes” to the person, but “No” to the action.
Some things that might come to mind for you could be like most Americans. We are caring for our older parents, we are over-committed at our jobs, we are volunteering at our kids’ schools, we are dealing with the demands of home ownership and/or maintenance, we are struggling to manage it all while trying to stay fit and healthy.
This may be the busy season at work, or you could be expecting a child, planning a trip, or going to school. All of these things are necessary parts of your life. You don’t want to give anything up. You can’t. You have been told to set goals and work towards making them happen. You have been planning and preparing and your time is now. “Think big.” “Fake it till you make it.” We have heard it before. We believe we can do it all.
Well. Now I am saying, you can stop. You can stop doing it all at once. We talked about envisioning our true desires and picturing our future selves. We talked about creating a plan to get there. We talked about having a focus that guides us along the way. Now, it is time to look at what we are doing right now. What can we stop doing to give us the time and energy to do our very best work on everything else? How can we pare back the big thorn bush of our lives and show off those amazing roses? How can we prepare ourselves to continue shining brightly all year long? I do it by saying, “No.”
It isn’t easy. I want to do it all. But I simply can’t. It isn’t possible at the moment. Over time, yes – absolutely! But like my mom always said, “All things in moderation.” Well, she was always right!
“If you are going to realize your intentions, what you stop doing is just as important as what you start and continue to do. This is where “quitting” crosses over to enlightenment. You know how to go, go, go. Stopping however, is the stuff smiling Zen masters with all the time in the world.” ~Danielle LaPorte
We are negotiating and working out deals all the time. Be a master negotiator. We may be negotiating for our business and/or blog, with our family and friends, all the time – whether we like it or not. Yet, when we are asked to do a project or favor or to sign up for our children’s school or activities, we feel obligated to just say, “Why, yes, of course you can count on me.”
Here are some of the most common reasons we tend to say yes all the time: fear of rejection, not wanting to disappoint people, being a people pleaser, being a fixer, having a reputation to uphold, feeling obligated, wanting to make a good impression, it is a tradition, it is an opportunity I don’t want to pass up, it may be the only chance like this, it could be a chance of a lifetime, I am honored because they asked me. Me!
Besides, it is impolite to say no. I was taught to be gracious. I am a positive person. Saying no seems negative. It makes me feel like a failure.
“I realized that I was afraid of saying “no” because my biggest fear is rejection. I was afraid that every time I did this, I would disappoint someone, make them angry, hurt their feelings, or appear unkind or rude.” ~Chantalle Gerber
Tweet this>> “Your self-worth does not depend on how much you do for others.”
You are a negotiator, even if you don’t think of yourself as one! But how well do you negotiate? Do you know how to recognize situations where negotiating is appropriate? And do you understand the elements of an effective negotiation?
Even though the extents of our negotiations vary, one principle remains the same: when both parties win, the outcome is often better. Whether someone asks you for a favor, or you need to agree on terms for a contract or project, you must collaborate to achieve a win-win solution.
When you collaborate, you consider everyone’s needs. Therefore, even if you have to say “no” to something, you’re still concerned about finding a way to get the other person’s needs met, and this allows you to say “yes” to the person.
Integration and collaboration are keys to this process. So, the next time you have to negotiate, look for a way to meet everyone’s needs, rather than leave one side with little or nothing.
“Focus on the Right Things” ~Peter Bregman
How often do you get to the end of another long and frantic day and wonder why so many important things didn’t get finished? We’ve never worked so hard and felt so unproductive and unfulfilled. 18 MINUTES takes this challenge and turns it on its head. Peter Bregman, top Harvard Business Review columnist and global management consultant, shatters the myth of getting it all done by offering a clear and simple plan for getting the right things done. He shows how the best way to fight distracting interruptions is to create productive ones ourselves, a practice that can be easily implemented in 18 minutes a day. The result is a simple yet comprehensive approach to managing your life a year, a day, and a moment at a time so that your life moves forward the way you want and at the pace you want.
Are you feeling empowered?
It is a lot to take in.
Take your time to answer the questions and make your lists.
Keep it in a journal and reflect on your choices and thoughts now and then.
Feel free to ask questions or share your thoughts in the comments.
The big night was last Sunday, just a week ago. The much anticipated Oscars are over now. The red carpets have been rolled up. Now we start thinking about next year!
As promised, here are my photos from the Oscar Party that I attended. My husband and I were guests of Kaiser Permanente at the M.E.N.D. gala fundraiser. It was truly a night to remember!
From our grand entrance on the red carpet to our last hurrah clinking our martini glasses as we left the Globe Theater at Universal Studios on Oscar Night, we felt like Hollywood stars!
The cocktails served by Infuse Vodkas as we perused the silent auction on the red carpet, the Wolfgang Puck hors d’oeuvres and dinner, the opening dance number by the Ariyan Johnson’s D.I.M.A.B.A. Company, the inspiration from M.E.N.D. CEO, Marianne Haver Hill, the emcee from ABC News, Danny Romero, the greenscreen photo booth, the etched martini glass take home gift – – – it all seems like a dream now. Oh yes, let’s not forget the live telecast of the 87th Academy Awards on giant screens all around the ballroom, with no commercials! What a blast!
Thank you to our hosts, Jennifer and Jonathan Lopez! Please share these pictures with your friends.
The memories last forever but our actions and donations do not. We must keep working hard towards making a difference for those in need. The hungry, ill, and homeless families in the San Fernando Valley need your help.
If you want to find out more about any of the organizations involved, look at their websites:
Kaiser Permanente Health Care
HOPE of the Valley Rescue Mission